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on Fri 17 Dec 10, 8:07 PM to Trussedworthy's blog.
So, reading a hook line from the front of today's Evening Standard "How Tracy Emin survives Christmas" prompted me to think, if you talk about Christmas using the word "survive" rather than "enjoy" you're doing something wrong.
(Obviously this doesn't apply to those who are in poverty, mourning a poignant loss at this time of year or actually in a war zone somewhere, you have our sympathy and support. For you, the word is justified).
For others dreading Christmas here's a few handy hints to help you get through the season of goodwill to all.
1) Just say no..
To those who would impose upon your generosity of spirit and soul, "friends" or relatives who you never otherwise see but may have ideas this time of year. Invitations to events which make you squirm, parties with people with whom you have nothing in common or find terminally boring, visitors who make you uncomfortable.. Just say no. Need an excuse? It's a busy time of year, there are a million other things you could say you have already arranged.
It doesn't make you a bad person, just someone who will find themselves in a stress-free, happier place without their company. Sit and bask in the relief and self-satisfied calm knowing it's something you no longer have to endure.
2) Dismiss expectations..
Judge yourself by your own standards, not those of others. If you think it's right for you, then it is. If Auntie Mabel and the tribe of long lost cousins expect you to put on a festive spread akin to a Royal banquet for their visit or expect you to visit, with a perfectly appropriate gift for every member of the family ask yourself if you think these are unrealistic expectations. If you do, then they are. You're right, they're wrong, do what makes you feel happy.
3) Plan for yourself..
Make a few plans to do what you enjoy over the holiday (whether it's partying every night or sitting cosy in front of the fire reading a book or browsing online, if it makes you happy, it's ok).
And lastly don't feel guilty about applying any of these rules. After all, we're all different. Enjoy a stress-free break!
PS. Feel free to add your own hints and tips..
Edited Fri 17 Dec 10, 8:11 PM by Trussedworthy
