Who Pays? (95)

I'm talking in a strictly male Dom/female sub relationship.

I read something the other day where the female sub paid for a hotel room for them both to use. This is the part I remember the most . It strikes me as wrong. As a woman I spend a fair bit on looking after myself, I'm not saying a man doesn't spend anything but, unless he's seriously metrosexual, then I don't think it can equate.

So why is the sub paying for a room?

What does that do for the dynamic as well while I'm at it - I think I'd feel he was less of a man if I were going dutch or paying.

For me part of submission is feeling supremely feminine and so that involves the man doing the traditional thing and paying. I don't see it as being paid for my services, they're his to take if I'm his. I also want to be treated as a woman though.

These are my personal thoughts and feelings, I'd like to hear what others think.

As I said everyone will look at it slightly differently.

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i love gentlemanly men who open doors pull chairs etc, but if i have the cash and he doesn't i see no problem paying, given that is not a situation where i am being used for money the same when i go out with a woman lets say a lesbian domme goes with a lesbian sub

or a male sub with a female domme then is ok for the sub to pay or they should split costs?

if a man asks you out he should pay if you ask him out ( specially after the relationship started) you should pay but at the end of the day really who cares who pays if both parts are happy?

but really, really the part about how you spend more money taking care of yourself baffles me

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If the shit fits, wear it. Personally I prefer to put my hand in my pocket more often than not, it's just the way I am.

I get what you mean about the traditional thing, and the little woman waiting quietly and patiently while the chap settles the bill, but I have been treated to meals, drinks and yes, one one occasion a hotel room by a sub and have not felt that the D/s continuum has been affected.

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But if you think I'm paying their bus fare...

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Does that make it clearer I wonder? lol.

If I'm going out with a male friend and he wants to treat me then fine, usually it's dutch.

I can see how being paid for i.e. 'looked after' would be part of submission; however I can't seem to work out how that directly relates to femininity.

The 'tradition' of men paying for women was as much based in the inequality between men and women than the dynamic within the relationship. Therefore, relating being paid for to femininity suggests that you associate the more socially 'forced' situation of inequality to feeling feminine.

Any thoughts?

Simply, for me, a man paying makes me feel very feminine and I enjoy that feeling very much.