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| kinkymermaid |
on Sun 12 Dec 10, 11:44 AM to kinkymermaid's blog.
I am just interested to know others views on this subject. The other night a man who i considered a good friend and knew all about my bdsm lifestyle, decided to try and come onto me. I very politely declined his offer and apologised if i had given him the wrong impression or hurt his feelings. He then went into a nasty rant about how how i could never enjoy a 'normal' loving relationship because i obviously enjoyed being beaten to a pulp (which i don't!), and i also promoted violence, and domestic abuse!!!
To top it off he then called me a low life and said i should seek psychiatric counselling. I enjoy my bdsm lifestyle, and i don't consider what i do to be wrong. It is ALWAYS consensual, and most of the men i have met on the scene i have found to be more polite, friendly and mature than most. Your comments would be most appreciated. Jo
| 12 Dec 10, 11:52 AM MisterBear UK(WA), 8 yrs  |
You should seek psychiatric counselling, only not for yourself but for him if he can't handle rejection that well. It's a bit of a pathetic tirade as well and lacks imagination, so maybe you could seek out some creative courses for him to take as well, maybe creative writing? Just avoid any journalism courses, you don't want to make him worse and he already seems to have it down to a T anyway. True and genuine are only concepts and as such are meaningless. Try thinking in terms of compatibility instead. |
| 12 Dec 10, 12:54 PM skyfox UK(EH), 5 yrs  |
Your "friend" is obviously quite experienced in manipulation and guilt trips. His effort this time, though, seems a bit heavy-handed and borders on cliche. It seems to have made an impression on you, so it must have worked. In the words of Dan Savage: DTMFA. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. |
| 12 Dec 10, 2:14 PM Romola UK, 7 yrs |
It's just coincidental that he realised your complete sociopathy and mental health problems after you turned him down, of course! The only clues to character or faults from this exchange are clues about him, not you. He's not a friend and he's not a nice person. It's only a weblog |
| 12 Dec 10, 8:11 PM FBFDom UK(KT), 19 mths |
Personally I am grateful to men like this.
He makes decent blokes into BDSM look saintly
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| 12 Dec 10, 9:57 PM Taintedinnocence UK(S), 6 yrs |
Sounds like a jerk. Obviously trying to make himself feel bigger after you turned him down, and not in a nice way. |
| 14 Dec 10, 12:54 PM Tinsel_Seeker 2 yrs |
Sounds like a right dicksplash to me, but I am aware that if you have had a good platonic relationship, the situation is very tricky. A rubicon has been crossed and that's a shame, but at least his true colours are known. Best of luck resolving it, but you've done nothing wrong as I see it and have no reason to feel bad at all and certainly, you do not 'promote' violence. "Like a midget at a urinal, I was going to have to stay on my toes" |
| 14 Dec 10, 2:39 PM kinkymermaid UK(UB), 3 yrs |
Thanks to everyone that replied, i feel reassured now |
