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| Thu 9 Dec 10, 9:10 AM Dil_se 19 mths |
It's often floating about on the boards about women who suffer from these emotions. All types of discussion about why they have these 'issues' & how they could overcome them. Almost like they are purely female traits and something to be ashamed of or feel guilty about.
Are these 'issues' something else when a man/Dom experience them?? I'm beginning to see this from a different perspective. I've recently updated my profile and the response has been......no response!! No matter that it's only been a few days since the update. I'm pretty sure that were I seeking a Dom, whilst having a female sub by my side, I'd be inundated. Hmmm...insecurity? Jealousy? Unable to cope with a woman wanting what some men seem to think is their exclusive right (more than one partner)? Perhaps it's just a human trait which some have bad while others don't. ps. I'm not complaining about the lack of response. I seek 'outstanding'. It's like finding the almost perfect diamond. | |||
| 9 Dec 10, 9:18 AM sassyslut US, 21 mths  |
I think is not that women suffer more from thos than men but that women from social conditioning, biological traits, temper , personality, etc tend to bge in general more open about their emotions feelings fears ETC yes women yap and yap and go about LETS TALK ABOUT FEELINGS and men go about just quiet, as many times an man who is oepn about fears insecurities ETC is seen as less manly, and dont forget is even by women noot only other men. so there you go people just deal with it differently and then there is the few in both genders who dont generally suffer of this and if theydo is only while a very deep commited relationship and deal with issues with their parners quietly.
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| 9 Dec 10, 9:18 AM sassyslut US, 21 mths |
I think is not that women suffer more from thos than men but that women from social conditioning, biological traits, temper , personality, etc tend to bge in general more open about their emotions feelings fears ETC yes women yap and yap and go about LETS TALK ABOUT FEELINGS and men go about just quiet, as many times an man who is oepn about fears insecurities ETC is seen as less manly, and dont forget is even by women noot only other men. so there you go people just deal with it differently and then there is the few in both genders who dont generally suffer of this and if theydo is only while a very deep commited relationship and deal with issues with their parners quietly.
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| 9 Dec 10, 9:22 AM Captain_Sensible UK(WV), 20 mths  |
It could help to understand your question more if you said what the profile update was.
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| 9 Dec 10, 9:22 AM Dil_se 19 mths |
I've no doubt we deal with the emotions differently but don't you find it's women who beat themselves up about having them? | |||
| 9 Dec 10, 9:23 AM Dil_se 19 mths |
That's not relevant to my post. If you believe it is you could always read it  In response to Captain Sensible. Forgot to quote. | |||
| 9 Dec 10, 9:27 AM Captain_Sensible UK(WV), 20 mths |
I have read your profile and post several times and it's still not really clear to me what you are asking and why.
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| 9 Dec 10, 9:35 AM Dil_se 19 mths |
I'm asking for discussion about why, from my perspective, these emotions appear exclusive to women while men seem to consider themselves above such things. In my experience of course. Why I am asking is no one's business is it??
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| 9 Dec 10, 9:42 AM MrSurreySub UK(KT), 20 mths |
Before we get into a fight about what and why, I'll attempt to answer from my perspective. Do I get jealous and am I insecure? Yes to both - and of course, to differing degrees at different times (and in different situations). I've never been in the situation Dil Se is describing (I think - a female (sub?), a male sub and a male Dom). I'm not sure what emotions that would create for me, and whether I would enjoy it or not. (Or if I would even want to try it). But my experience has been that many, many similar situations have always taught me more about myself - and it is usually related to the emotions caused by the experience.
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| 9 Dec 10, 9:46 AM Captain_Sensible UK(WV), 20 mths |
Apologies for showing some interest-have a nice day.
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| 9 Dec 10, 9:48 AM sassyslut US, 21 mths |
no i think is women who talk about it and beat themselves up openly about having them, you cant tell what a person wwhod oes not talk about feelings much less with strangers, feels like. and if you concider for men is more embarrasin then they probably beat themselves up more but then i dont really know as i am not a jealouse bloke |
