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| Thu 2 Dec 10, 5:43 PM Gowerfan 7 yrs  |
I met a submissive girl about 5 years' ago. She gets so wet just talking about BDSM and sex with her is wonderful. I love and want to be with her. The problem is she is in a vanilla relationship with a man she tells me she loves. In fact she tells me she loves both of us. Recently I brought matters to a head by advising her boyfriend that we had slept together. He did not believe me. I explained that I provided services that he could not. She has opted to stay with him. My question is will her love of BDSM win out and will she come back to me | |||
| 2 Dec 10, 5:47 PM Lady_Lancashire 23 mths £ |
She may be too submissive to want a doormat. The Red Rose Whispers Of Passion (J o'B R) | |||
| 2 Dec 10, 5:47 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs        |
 I doubt it.
Life is not measured by the breaths we take. but by the moments that take our breath. | |||
| 2 Dec 10, 5:49 PM Amazonian UK(M), 2 yrs |
No-one can say for sure, we don't have a crystal ball, but in my opinion although her love of bdsm may win out over a vanilla relationship, i doubt you'll be the one she runs to! You should let things run their course as opposed to 'forcing' them!
A closed mouth gathers no feet. | |||
| 2 Dec 10, 5:49 PM Attitude_Adjuster UK(N), 6 yrs |
nice. And all men kill the thing they love, By all let this be heard, Some do it with a bitter look, Some with a flattering word, The coward does it with a kiss, The brave man with a sword! | |||
| 2 Dec 10, 5:52 PM bossy_bitch UK, 3 yrs |
Not if she's got any sense. Trust is essential to any relationship and you've broken that. I'd say you were pretty lucky you don't need to drink out of a straw. "Middle age is when you're old enough to know better but still young enough to do it” Edited 2 Dec 10, 5:54 PM by bossy_bitch | |||
| 2 Dec 10, 5:55 PM othyim NL, 3 yrs |
You really seem to have a deep understanding of the word "trust" here. Power is about what you can control. Freedom is about what you can unleash. (Harriet Rubin) | |||
| 2 Dec 10, 6:03 PM littlemisssubby UK(RG), 3 yrs |
telling him yourself could of been a reason why she choice the other guy. I think you kind of went wrong but falling in love with some one with a boyfriend. If you can live with an open or polly relationship it might be best to make sure you only get involved with single girls. | |||
| 2 Dec 10, 6:04 PM El_Presidente UK(G), 4 yrs    |
Aww - leave him alone, guys. Maybe he'll realise when he's a bit older (than 57 |
