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| Thu 2 Dec 10, 11:26 AM Bernard150 UK, 3 yrs |
A suggestion was made by a nice sounding Sub who lives quite close that we might both travel to his Master and be spanked together. This would interest me, but his Master is "straight", (he is Gay) and I am "Bi", and I struggle to have the same enjoyment from submitting to a straight Master. I mentioned this to my co-Sub, and he has gone quiet on me, so I fear I may have put him off the idea, by mentioning my preference. Any idea's, or am I being picky ? | ||
| 2 Dec 10, 12:12 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs        |
What's the problem? Spanking isn't a sexual activity. (OK - gross oversimplification, I guess what i mean is if the person is getting what they need from the spanking, does it matter who does it?) My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) Edited 2 Dec 10, 12:15 PM by Belasarius | ||
| 2 Dec 10, 12:18 PM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs |
My thought entirely. Spanking is spanking. It's not about the sexual orientation of the dom, but the dynamic and the experience.
"We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars." - Oscar Wilde | ||
| 2 Dec 10, 12:19 PM Bernard150 UK, 3 yrs |
You are probably right. I suppose the Master's sexuality is irelevant, and I am being "Picky". It is just (perhaps by chance), I have always related better to a Gay Master, as part of the act of submission. | ||
| 2 Dec 10, 12:21 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs |
Have you considered that your co-sub might find it difficult that you want to relate to his master at all, rather than just obtain your satisfaction by being the instrument of his (the Master's) satisfaction. If you are content just to be a toy it might be better all round.
My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | ||
| 2 Dec 10, 12:29 PM Bernard150 UK, 3 yrs |
Again I have to agree, and now feel a bit foolish having mentioned it to my co-sub, as it should not have been a factor. | ||
| 2 Dec 10, 1:34 PM chrisp UK(E), 6 yrs |
WOW !! I've always semi-agreed with Belasarius but how wrong is this statement? Spanking isn't sexual! Standing naked in front of Mistress whilst she lectures me then pulls me over her stocking clad thighs so i can see her beautiful high heels under the chair..... no, not sexual at all. | ||
| 2 Dec 10, 2:15 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs |
If she has a need to lecture you and you are getting sexual satisfaction from it then it's either play (in which case I see your point My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | ||
| 6 Dec 10, 11:26 PM pinkylucy UK(M), 9 yrs   |
I don't think this is as silly as it sounds. We all relate better to some types of people than others and I think I would feel different being spanked by someone with a corrsponding sexuality rather than one that was mismatched. It's not as important as gender, but I do understand how it could feel different. It depends what you want to gain from the experience. D/s is part of my sexuality, and as such, the physical activities that may result from that are linked to my sexuality even if they are not intended to be specifically sexual. My Dominant has threatened to have a man spank me as punishment because she knows I would find that difficult and upsetting.
I would also find it very difficult to experience a spanking from my Dominant as completely non-sexual. That's probably why it's on our 'rewards' list rather than the punishment one! "Don't Dream It - Be It" - The Rocky Horror Show 1973 | ||
| 6 Dec 10, 11:42 PM Mistress_Shy UK(DE), 3 yrs £ |
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| 7 Dec 10, 2:28 AM smoofing UK(SW), 2 yrs |
reward for me too  not sure about the whole st8/bi/gay thing. spanking (by hand please) is very sexual for me. not sure a st8 man would want to see me squirming naked and horny as he spanks me. but, to be spanked with another sub would be so delishious, i think it would be worth it . |
