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| Wed 1 Dec 10, 8:25 AM Cassius UK, 3 yrs   |
Or is it the other way about? Is to be a switch the most consistent of all? A number of dom/mes, of my acquaintance, have a marginally switchy side but no sub,of my acquaintance, has had a dominant side except in the accepted sense of safe word governance. What are our views? Practise senseless acts of beauty. | |
| 1 Dec 10, 8:29 AM jules9 UK(CH), 3 yrs    |
I'm a sub. I have a Domme side - although it's not something that needs to come out, just something I can do and will enjoy for a limited period of time.
So that's one inconsistent sub... XxX | |
| 1 Dec 10, 8:34 AM Cinnamon_Tart UK(S), 8 yrs |
I'm pretty consistently me. Does that count?
Hole Parity! | |
| 1 Dec 10, 8:43 AM pilsburyDB 19 mths |
I've always been consistent  Do I care? Do I fuck, I'm on a roll!!! | |
| 1 Dec 10, 9:37 AM Cassius UK, 3 yrs |
Emerson he say,"The only true consistency is consistent inconsistency." Practise senseless acts of beauty. | |
| 1 Dec 10, 9:43 AM Lady_Lancashire 23 mths £ |
It's easier to explore being sub than dom. A lot of my clents have switchy leanings but are not aware of pro-subs or pro-switches until I mention it. It's also simpler to service top someone than service bottom to them. Consistency is not a requirement for BDSM in a general sense, it just bolsters the pigeon holing which some people find more secure. Even being a 'sub' or a 'dom/me' cannot always define someone as we respond differently to different partners and ongoing play relationships evolve to suit the couple. The Red Rose Whispers Of Passion (J o'B R) | |
| 1 Dec 10, 9:49 AM cheekyandtrouble UK(SL), 2 yrs      |
i am consistently sub at the mo but i can even imagine leaning/swaying towards the Dominant side | |
| 1 Dec 10, 10:11 AM Captain_Jack UK(CR), 5 yrs |
People are people. Trying to find general trends among the BDSM population is always doomed to failure as it's an extremely non-homogenous sub-section of the general populace. As for myself, I wish I'd be the ultimate ruler of the universe. Alas, this is not the case so I begrudgingly accept that I might have a boss in the office who tells me what to do. There's just never enough control, but hey, that's life and coming to terms with yourself and your environment is one challenge in your life you must succeed in, otherwise you'll end up institutionalised. Your Captain Jack | |
| 1 Dec 10, 11:16 AM tazallie UK, 2 yrs |
I'm sub and can't imagine being dominant in my relationships anymore but put me in a vanilla situation and I can take control of it, but I hesitate to say I dominate although others may disagree. So yep I'm consistently inconsistent lol. What I like about threads such as these is the opportunity to explore and understand ourselves better and for others to see that they don't have to conform to anyone elses expectations as we are all different. That's not pigeon holing but discussion. Tazallie | |
| 1 Dec 10, 11:39 AM bighappygoth39 UK(WS), 2 yrs |
I can't imagine ever being comfortable being sub. I was at one time seeing a guy who had made out he was sub, but in fact it turned out he was indeed Dom, which I didn't like one bit. I am so much happier with my current relationship as my boyfriend is genuinely submissive, which compliments my natural dominant personality. :D Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. - Oscar Wilde | |
| 1 Dec 10, 2:26 PM Mysubeyes 19 mths |
Couldn't agree more with you tazallie.... In day to day work/friend life I would be considered dominant albeit in a nurturing supportive way. Put me in a relationship and I totally sub, all gooey and girlie and can't make a decision to save my life :>) mse x |
