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| Sat 27 Nov 10, 12:27 AM mq1965 UK(DA), 8 yrs  |
Something of a strange thought came to me, or at least crystallised in my mind, today. Sometimes when reading about burglaries, and particularly about the feelings of invasion that victims get, I get a little feeling of arousal at the thought of having that power over someone - of being in their home, free to completely invade their privacy. Now before the safety police leap all over this, I have to make it clear that I do understand completely how devastating a real burglary can be, and, as with all thoughts of this nature, say that no matter what my private thoughts I do have enough empathy for people not to force it on them - there is no danger of my turning into a real burglar. But still... Isn't it just a little bit thrilling to imagine having that sort of power over someone, to invade their most personal space? To exercise a sort of control over them, knowing/imagining the discomfort it will cause them to know that a complete stranger has had control of their private space, access to all their secrets? Or is it just that I am a bit weird? I suspect this is something more likely to appeal to doms than subs, but I'd be interested to hear if anyone could imagine getting any sort of thrill out of something like that, especially from a submissive viewpoint. (The actual stealing part of it doesn't really enter into my thoughts at all, it is just the control aspects. If there was any taking at all I guess it would be more symbolic - a piece of underwear or something similarly intimate. I suppose it is akin to an idea that probably does appeal to a lot of people, that of a dom/me taking instant control of someone, even in their own home, on a first meet - a stranger with power, but one step removed from the idea of a meet.) | |
| 27 Nov 10, 12:32 AM totallycoverme UK(M), 4 yrs |
Cool! thanks for sharing. I can see how this would work. I think when a Dom and sub live apart, in my experinece, it is more likely that the submissive will visit the Dominants house and you are in their space, you are their guest, you can leave if you so wish. But to have someone in your own home then well, you can hardly run away from your own home now can you. It would make you feel so vulnerable to have someone going through your stuff and invading your space. Maybe tying you up so that they could roam your territory at their will and then perhaps tourture you in the process. So yeah, I think that's one cool fantasy to have. To have privacy removed is to be vulnerable and for the Dominant, I guess power comes with that for them so yeah It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice | |
| 27 Nov 10, 12:38 AM chastityslaveFE 2 yrs |
Got to be honest, I don't like this idea at all. I only want people to have control over me if and when I've given them permission. The thought of a complete stranger going through my stuff makes me want to slowly torture them to death (and they would deserve it). The problem with this fantasy is that it's based on the non-consent of strangers / victims. And yes, I know it's just a fantasy, but when the one who would have the power finds it erotic to do so without prior knowledge or consent, I find that a little icky. Not sure how you could explore this fantasy in a SSC way, unless roleplay with a known and trusted partner would be realistic enough for you. chastity xxx | |
| 27 Nov 10, 12:48 AM mq1965 UK(DA), 8 yrs |
I agree that converting this fantasy into reality in any sort of meaningful way would be difficult - but an awful lot of BDSM fantasies are about non-consensual situations, and an awful lot of people find ways that work for them to consensually role play them in real life, so that is not necessarily a barrier. My bigger concern was that people simply wouldn't find it arousing at all. | |
| 27 Nov 10, 12:48 AM Asshole_Magnet UK(EX), 22 mths |
Enough people like that join the Police as it is thank you very much... | |
| 27 Nov 10, 1:00 AM Scribbles UK(RH), 4 yrs |
Odd fantasies are usually my favourites. | |
| 27 Nov 10, 1:38 AM Beau_Tox UK(CB), 7 yrs   |
It's not burglary, but I always fancied getting someone's key. And then wait for ages before using it for the first time. Silently unlock and enter their house, slowly make your way to their room. Let them wake up with a hand across their mouth and your weight pinning them down. A familiar but unexpected voice in the blackness growling instructions. Handcuffs. Sex forced onto them whilst still partly asleep. Fear, sleep, shock, surprise, strength, arousal, force, climax, departure... | |
| 27 Nov 10, 2:31 AM Empress_Martine UK(HA), 2 yrs £      |
I know someone who made a video based on this sort of fantasy and yes its not odd, its ultra violence thing,YKINOK but if you like then enjoy it. http://empressm7.uboot.com/ Vampire pro/lifestyle ts dom and switch. Age play mummy,medical play , domestic ,sexual energy and outdoor specialist. "Beyond the government,above the police ." | |
| 27 Nov 10, 7:47 AM Thedarkside1 UK, 22 mths |
For a sub to wake up and find a hand over there mouth and there Dom stood next to there bed, will have there heart beating out of there chest, and the power the Dom feels can not be matched, the invassion of there space, and the fact you are taking there last little bit of security and personal space makes it a totaly dominant experience. Add a little violence and rape play, what more could you want. | |
| 27 Nov 10, 8:17 AM MaxFaust NO, 23 mths |
What exactly is odd about this? It seems like a pretty straightforward "invasive violator" scenario that can be played out in ten thousand different ways. | |
| 27 Nov 10, 9:19 AM Sirebel UK, 5 yrs    |
This is a pretty hot fantasy and one I've had the pleasure of fulfilling a long time ago. It's a long story but it was part of a pretty hard core rape play scene. To cut a long story short, a girl gave me the keys to her flat and as long as there was a vase in the window I was allowed to enter and leave as I pleased. The first time was intense. I had never been in her flat before and I chose to go in the middle of a week day. It was incredibly powerful to wander around her flat and look in all her secret places. I went into the flat three or four times, just to get the feel of the place, before coming back one Saturday night at 2am when she was in bed. She asked me several times if I'd been in her flat on a particular day but I always decline to comment, not knowing added to the excitement for her. I kept her keys for about six months and I'd love to do it again. No man is good enough to govern another man without that other's consent. Abraham Lincoln |
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