Thu 25 Nov 10, 12:58 PM
Scribbles
UK(RH), 4 yrs
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I'm interested to know whether others beside me have felt that sex with a dominant you're very keen on can bring a kind of ... well I've put orgasms in inverted commas because it's not quite like that. It's something that happens in the mind, which sex seems to create but not in the usual muscular/skin-nerve stimulation way. The moment, the intensity, seems to get so great as to sort of "pop", giving some mental feelings of ecstasy slightly like orgasm but without the rhythmic part. I've only had it during sex but I have a feeling that other things could trigger it. Actually I could believe that very highly charged vanilla sex could perhaps cause the same.
I don't think it's the same as sub-space: I feel very present, very aware, and it takes only a minute or so to feel more normal again, although still a bit soppy.
So: have you felt this or known another to, or - what do you feel in similar circumstances? |
25 Nov 10, 1:06 PM
paulss
UK(NR), 8 yrs
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scribbles wrote:
"Orgasms" in submission
I'm interested to know whether others beside me have felt that sex with a dominant you're very keen on can bring a kind of ... well I've put orgasms in inverted commas because it's not quite like that. It's something that happens in the mind, which sex seems to create but not in the usual muscular/skin-nerve stimulation way. The moment, the intensity, seems to get so great as to sort of "pop", giving some mental feelings of ecstasy slightly like orgasm but without the rhythmic part. I've only had it during sex but I have a feeling that other things could trigger it. Actually I could believe that very highly charged vanilla sex could perhaps cause the same.
I don't think it's the same as sub-space: I feel very present, very aware, and it takes only a minute or so to feel more normal again, although still a bit soppy.
So: have you felt this or known another to, or - what do you feel in similar circumstances?
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I do know what you mean. I can get a sort of orgasmic pleasure but with no actual orgasm from giving my Mistress Her pleasure and orgasms.
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25 Nov 10, 1:10 PM
Contessa_dei_Fiori
UK(N), 2 yrs
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Can you bottle this feeling?  |
25 Nov 10, 2:02 PM
Pegasusliz
UK(E), 3 yrs
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Oh yes know this feeling very well, i love it, a memory of the event can even provide a small wave of the same feeling, but it fades fast. The intesity of it is as intoxicating as an orgasm. Once brought about just by my first real Dom telling me how good i was after a pretty heavy and intense scene. He noticed and tried hard to repeat it as often as he could, usually while out shopping or eating not always successfully but still it worked sometimes. Fun times! |
25 Nov 10, 3:15 PM
Captain_Sensible
UK(WV), 20 mths
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scribbles wrote:
"Orgasms" in submission
I'm interested to know whether others beside me have felt that sex with a dominant you're very keen on can bring a kind of ... well I've put orgasms in inverted commas because it's not quite like that. It's something that happens in the mind, which sex seems to create but not in the usual muscular/skin-nerve stimulation way. The moment, the intensity, seems to get so great as to sort of "pop", giving some mental feelings of ecstasy slightly like orgasm but without the rhythmic part. I've only had it during sex but I have a feeling that other things could trigger it. Actually I could believe that very highly charged vanilla sex could perhaps cause the same.
I don't think it's the same as sub-space: I feel very present, very aware, and it takes only a minute or so to feel more normal again, although still a bit soppy.
So: have you felt this or known another to, or - what do you feel in similar circumstances?
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Is this not the big plus of BDSM against vanilla?
Each a glimpse and gone forever.
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25 Nov 10, 3:25 PM
Scribbles
UK(RH), 4 yrs
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I don't think so. This is one route to a certain state of mind and I have a strong suspicion that it's not the only one. For example I think tantra might lots to offer along these lines.
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25 Nov 10, 3:55 PM
foxgirl
UK(LN), 22 mths
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paulss wrote:
I do know what you mean. I can get a sort of orgasmic pleasure but with no actual orgasm from giving my Mistress Her pleasure and orgasms. |
+1. (Well, different gender typically of Dominant but still.)
I'm very fond of that feeling.
I am more than anyone thinks I can be.
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25 Nov 10, 5:28 PM
tanken
UK(NR), 2 yrs
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scribbles wrote:
"Orgasms" in submission
I'm interested to know whether others beside me have felt that sex with a dominant you're very keen on can bring a kind of ... well I've put orgasms in inverted commas because it's not quite like that. It's something that happens in the mind, which sex seems to create but not in the usual muscular/skin-nerve stimulation way. The moment, the intensity, seems to get so great as to sort of "pop", giving some mental feelings of ecstasy slightly like orgasm but without the rhythmic part. I've only had it during sex but I have a feeling that other things could trigger it. Actually I could believe that very highly charged vanilla sex could perhaps cause the same.
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I get it both with fantasising about very sadistic women and sometimes being in the presence of such women. These fantasies are not SSC nor anything I've ever tried but the rush of sex hormones and the 'high' in the brain is very powerful as is the feeling to submit
'Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather' - Velvet Underground
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25 Nov 10, 9:41 PM
Alessandro86
UK(GU), 2 yrs
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Yep, I've had that. Once it was so strong I actually passed out. Is it something to do with endorphins/adrenaline? |
26 Nov 10, 12:46 PM
tanken
UK(NR), 2 yrs
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Alessandro86 wrote:
Yep, I've had that. Once it was so strong I actually passed out. Is it something to do with endorphins/adrenaline?
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I think hormones are obviously involved and give the pleasurable feeling throughout the body (my guess - I only did 'O' level biology back in 1967 ) However, I'm sure the brain is involved too and what fascinates me is how certain thoughts provoke these feelings and why.
Mine go back to late childhood (about 12 years old) but in the last 10 years my fantasies have become more vivid and continued to evolve albeit along the same lines they started out from. And when women give me 'that' look it bubbles right up inside of me.
I don't think it is just an individual fantasy though because it gets reinforced every time a woman looks in 'that' kind of interested way. Obviously, I have played a bit too and enjoyed that but I'm wondering if being on my own with a lack of play recently has increased the fantasy side of things?
'Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather' - Velvet Underground
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26 Nov 10, 1:04 PM
owk_visit
CZ, 2 yrs |
scribbles wrote:
"Orgasms" in submission
I'm interested to know whether others beside me have felt that sex with a dominant you're very keen on can bring a kind of ... well I've put orgasms in inverted commas because it's not quite like that. It's something that happens in the mind, which sex seems to create but not in the usual muscular/skin-nerve stimulation way. The moment, the intensity, seems to get so great as to sort of "pop", giving some mental feelings of ecstasy slightly like orgasm but without the rhythmic part. I've only had it during sex but I have a feeling that other things could trigger it. Actually I could believe that very highly charged vanilla sex could perhaps cause the same.
I don't think it's the same as sub-space: I feel very present, very aware, and it takes only a minute or so to feel more normal again, although still a bit soppy.
So: have you felt this or known another to, or - what do you feel in similar circumstances?
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Looking forward to your loved one returning home in the evening can be similarly rewarding. Only the feeling lasts longer but can be equally intensive - in my case, depends on the plans we have for the evening. What I am trying to say is that planning can be more intensive than the act - the act in this context means sex and other pleasures vanillas resort to
Having known each other for 20 years helps greatly - without knowing each other, any interaction is doomed to be superficial and not at all long-lasting.
Just my 2pence... |
