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| miss_chief |
on Sun 21 Nov 10, 10:49 PM to miss_chief's blog.
i have never been bullied in my life and never intend to be but it does amuse me how bullies work.
One of my best friends at school was bullied and it was horrible watching her life being affected by the bullies, i did stick up for her, which could have got me bullied as well but it never happened but it didn't really help her much either.
i know of course that bullying does go on on the internet, you hear about it all the time, and it's happened on here too. i know of one sub who was bullied by her ex Dom and his nasty little sidekick and whilst i dont think she left the lifestyle exactly she did stop posting on here....which i think is sad.
i do believe that once would be bullies are confronted then they either leave well alone or call up their pals to help them with their little campaign.
You wouldn't think that grown men and women would act like this would you but sadly they do.
So would you stand up to them or disappear? i know what i would do but again i think that depends on the individual.
play safe x
| 21 Nov 10, 10:52 PM Lady_Lancashire 23 mths £ |
When people state that they feel like leaving the scene because of what goes on online, I say keep the scene but log off. The Red Rose Whispers Of Passion (J o'B R) | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:55 PM miss_chief UK(M), 7 yrs |
true....i dont think i could ever be affected by what someone says online as a lot of people are smart on the computer but could never be face to face however i dont think online bullies could ever make me leave the scene but of course some people just cant handle bullying cyber or not x | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:59 PM Masters_Delight UK(WD), 5 yrs |
I always give as good as i get. I do think it's a good idea to take a break from being online though if things are getting a bit out of hand. I'm so fucking fabulous, i piss glitter. | |
| 21 Nov 10, 11:30 PM Relaxed_and_Chaotic UK(SE), 3 yrs |
It's all too easy to take what is said on a computer screen to heart. i too know of one sub who was hounded off here by her ex Dom and his little friend...that sub is still in the scene, but quite rightly staying clear of IC... That same so called Dom also attempted to bully me on here and via personal email, they were left in no uncertain terms how i felt about that lol! We have to remember that most of the time it's just pixels on a screen. Not important. "There is no such thing as liberty. You only change one sort of domination for another. All we can do is to choose our master." D. H. Lawrence | |
| 21 Nov 10, 11:35 PM MissKimberley_1 NL, 2 yrs £ |
The best thing to do is to ignore them. The things they want (attention, a reaction) is exactly how to get at them. Ignore them and carry on regardless. Eventually, they will give up. And it will bother you less over time, too. Next UK visit 25-29 November, will be attending Pedestal. | |
| 22 Nov 10, 12:08 AM totallycoverme UK(M), 4 yrs |
the frustrating thing is that, in my experience, it is really difficult to know how to deal with a bully because not being a bully myself, I have no idea how to get into the persons head and understand what makes them tick. As a result it is really difficult to know a) why they're behaving like this and b) what you can do to deter them from behaving like this. I'm more likely to get mega mega angry inside but don't know where to direct this and it eats at me. That's my experience of what bullying did to me anyways. Ironically, the plus side is that you're better off for not knowing what it is to be a bully and as part of that, what you can do to stop them. I suppose there are measures you can take to block them online and in real life well, I guess avoid at all costs and if you're unlucky enough to encounter them, keep telling yourself that theyre scum and you're not It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice | |
| 22 Nov 10, 12:44 AM William_Rubin UK, 19 mths |
The problem with percieved bullying, especially on line, is that more so called subs participate than Doms. I know of at least two subs who have contrived to discredit a Dom because they believed the lies told by his former sub, It is always difficult for a Dom to defend him(her) self on line especially when the sub plays the poor me card. I always feel that when a sub has posted numerous what a great Dom I have posts, followed by a look how he/she hurt me, when she/he wants to walk away the probability is that the sub is the cause of the problem. Unfortunately, they often get public sympathy and the Dom gets abuse and what, to me, is on line bullying | |
| 22 Nov 10, 7:18 AM miss_chief UK(M), 7 yrs |
yes I can totally agree with that as bullying can take many forms from a diverse range of people be they Dom or sub however the poor me blogs can also be posted from the so called Doms too. I don't think it matters what orientation the bully is, Dom/Domme/ switch/sub, I guess if this kind of behaviour happens online it comes down to who is believed online by people who don't know either party or people who do know them and whether they then decide to join in with the bullying. It's just sad really that adults have to resort to this. |
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