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| Sun 21 Nov 10, 10:06 PM danalterego UK(W), 10 yrs |
would i be right in saying that most subs have a negative self image? or at least parts of their personality that has become associated with a negative self image? to subs ... how has your experience of being sub affected your self image? have you become more self confident and positive about your life or less self confident and more negative? | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:08 PM shit_sub UK(W), 5 yrs  |
nope | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:09 PM totallycoverme UK(M), 4 yrs |
when people have treated me bad i've felt crap when people have treated me good i've felt amazing
i've had issues in the past relating to self image and these days i find myself on the up I don't think though, that these things correlate with me being submissive. Sure, there have been things in BDSM that have strongly influenced how I feel about myself but I think this is more a human nature and being a human thing rather than a bdsm and being a submissive thing It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:09 PM foxgirl UK(LN), 22 mths |
Oh god, I am a thousand times more confident about myself since I entered the 'scene'. Now, that has very little to do with the scene itself (except for the magical discovery that there are people out there who genuinely find me interesting enough to talk to and attractive enough to sleep with/abuse, which was groundbreaking, truly) and a lot to do with joining the 'scene' coinciding with a massive shake up of events in my life and the decision being made by me to stop indulging in negativity wherever possible. However, having the freedom to express my sexuality and grow in that area has undoubtedly massively influenced my personal stability and confidence. I think it's a big and unfair generalisation to suggest that subs have poor self image. I half expect you to get pounced on for it. I am more than anyone thinks I can be. | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:10 PM syndeetoo UK(WC), 6 yrs |
9 years? Is this "ask a stupid question" night? | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:11 PM syndeetoo UK(WC), 6 yrs |
why half? gorgeously synd | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:11 PM shit_sub UK(W), 5 yrs |
round here it's *always* ask a stupid question night p.s. whatareya, new? | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:11 PM foxgirl UK(LN), 22 mths |
I am more than anyone thinks I can be. | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:13 PM polly_pocket UK(CF), 3 yrs  |
i can only speak from a female perspective although i do know male and female submissives who have no issues with their self image at all, me included!In fact, it takes a certain degree of self confidence to actually tune into your submissive tendencies especially when you are not sure where they may take you!!being submissive does not mean subdued, and people are human beings first and foremost, therefore its a given that we will all have different characteristics, pollyx | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:13 PM Randomizer UK(WC), 23 mths |
Most sensible PEOPLE have negative self-image. Although, it's entirely people more people on the scene do than in the rest of life - having society tell you your sexual beliefs I freakish and wrong and that. Although, frankly, total conjecture. From what I've seen, most subs seem to be perfectly sensible. Well, not sensible obviously, but not particularly negative. | |
| 21 Nov 10, 10:14 PM epona74 UK(SL), 7 yrs |
Why on EARTH would you think that? There are subs that have a negative self-image, sure. There are dominants that have a negative self-image, and switches too. I'm a submissive because my sexuality is wired that way. I have a fantastic self-image, which has nothing whatsoever to do with that. Two roads diverged in a wood and I, I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference. (R. Frost) |
