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| Sun 14 Nov 10, 12:56 PM vis_a_vis UK(CB), 2 yrs   |
...according to some random in the pub I was chatting to last night. OK, perhaps he is actually in the scene himself and just trying to cover it up by going over the top, but the long and short of it is that the majority of the nameless public consider us all to be odd. I actually don't mind being odd (read as different from the rest). There are loads of people interested privately too but purely from the kinky bedroom perspective. What is it that scares people about the scene? Do you mind being labelled as a freak? Also is this specific to the UK, are we too prudish? Do you have experience of other countries being far more open and receptive to BDSM? Will the UK ever learn to accept - in say 20 years time? Keep it kinky! | ||
| 14 Nov 10, 12:59 PM Scorpionic UK(BN), 6 yrs     |
You could have just said to the guy in the pub "Takes one to know one!" 
I'm proud to be a freak! Always have been, always will be - and not just for my kinky predilections, either! "You can't always get what you want - but if you try sometimes - you might find you get what you need!" ~ Rolling Stones Edited 14 Nov 10, 1:00 PM by Scorpionic | ||
| 14 Nov 10, 1:04 PM vis_a_vis UK(CB), 2 yrs |
Actually, it was a pretty long discussion, but every pushback to him or discussion point was just 'Yes but they're all just f*ckin weird'. He was completely closed off to any negotiation or meeting in the middle, I eventually got bored of arguing as he couldn't even make a valid point without repeating the same stand off-ish point of view. He didn't like the idea that there were probably over 30% of the pub at least closet kinkster or that it was people like him who make them that way. Grr Keep it kinky! | ||
| 14 Nov 10, 1:06 PM Scorpionic UK(BN), 6 yrs |
Ah, yes - annoying, but at least you tried. Agree to disagree etc.
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| 14 Nov 10, 1:08 PM HermioneJean UK, 22 mths |
Possibly a case of, the gentleman doth protest too much. Our kink is incredibly common as far as I can work out. But it is still a very private thing. And never worry about kicking against the majority - I lost my 'X Factor' virginity last week when I was forced to sit through it - it was as awful as I'd always imagined, and I don't in the least mind being in a minority of one over that particular subject. | ||
| 14 Nov 10, 1:08 PM GodKingEmperor 2 yrs |
will the uk learn to accept? That is silly to say, The UK has a seedy underside and always has done. people don't want to admit to it because it tarnish's a person status in daily life. It really is none of anyone business what goes on in the bedroom, but we do want to meet people the same as us which is why we visit site like this in hopes of finding someone to meet up with an enjoy other aspects of our sexuality that go un touched in a stereo typical life style. I went to Egypt and I read a copy of bizarre on the flight, I can pick that up at any local newsagents. Put it in my bag, went and forgot about it. My room was broken into. they stole $50 and the magazine. Despite the fact I was robbed and they found the magazine in another person room when they went searching for it. I was asked to leave because it had some erotic photos of women in that were quite tame to be honest. Uk is pretty BDSM friendly. loveless vessels we vow solo love we see love solve loss else we see love sow woe selves we woo we lose losses we leavee we owe we sell loose vows so we love less well so low so level wolves evolve | ||
| 14 Nov 10, 1:10 PM freddiein40s UK, 6 yrs |
Unfortunatly those people like blokey in the pub are always going to live sterotype lives. There minds will be narrow, it all black and white and any form of creativity will be frowned upon. I know which side id sooner be on!
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| 14 Nov 10, 1:10 PM syndeetoo UK(WC), 6 yrs |
I rather hope not; if my rather 'boisterous' approach to sex was considered the norm I'd be afraid, very afraid. | ||
| 14 Nov 10, 1:12 PM syndeetoo UK(WC), 6 yrs |
Were you restrained at the time? How perfectly awful. I am glad to say that even H wouldn't force me to watch the X factor. | ||
| 14 Nov 10, 1:15 PM uktequila 3 yrs |
Here here! I love that my tastes are a bit odd, and like it in other people too. It makes them interesting and fun. It sounds like a thoughtless 'must fit in' reflex going on there, not that i'm an expert psychologist or anything. Anyway, anything other than silent and functional missionary sex can be seen as perverted if you follow his logic. Buffoon! (Him not you, obviously) | ||
| 14 Nov 10, 1:15 PM Lady_Anna_Bradford UK(BD), 5 yrs   |
In my experience, anecdotal admittedly, the 'UK public' don't care. They understand consent. They might raise an eyebrow or have a giggle but that is it, and I'm guilty of that myself when I read some of the stuff people get up to. It's about time we dropped the 'them and us' mentality. It doesn't exist. The only 'them' are the papers who orgasm over lurid headlines and the potential of increased sales, and the employers who are scared of the papers. "If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness |
