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7 Nov 10, 11:28 AM
mis_understood
UK(SL), 4 yrs

freddieinpyjamas wrote:

mis_understood wrote:
i've always found the chat room to be way too cliqish and therefore unfriendly to use so it makes no difference to me.

Without wanting to be stand offish here and with all due respect as I know we aint exactly on each others xmas card lists, you know as well as I do a certain site and chatroom that you seem to be a fully paid up member to is completely run on the principals of bullying from a certain clique. So to accuse the Informed Chatroom of being cliquish is a case of pot kettle black. I apologise if this sounds harsh.

As in everything in life, in this free world, your opinion is just as valuable as mine even if it is different.

mis_u misunderstood always

7 Nov 10, 11:37 AM
Beverley
UK(CT), 11 yrs

I'd mind. I wouldn't have met my partner - or come back to the UK - if I hadn't have been casually chatting to someone simply to have a little contact with people who weren't appalled by my kink.

It is really simple, to be honest. There are a COUPLE of people in there who pick on others and cause problems. For the most part it is perfectly nice, silly etc and MOST people don't have any real issues.

There are a couple of people who shit stir and will do so wherever they are. No reason why a facility which has been so very useful over the years should be ruined for everyone else other than a couple of people. Why should everyone else have to suffer?

I'd be very sad to see it go. Plus:

soxnboots wrote:
Always found it too hard to use. Look away for a second and a few lines of chat vanish. Plus the other chatrooms on the list are never used. Dont get rid, just a REVAMP maybe..

This.

Plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose.

Edited 7 Nov 10, 11:42 AM by Beverley

7 Nov 10, 11:40 AM
Mrs_Bastard
UK(LN), 2 yrs

mistywolf wrote:

normalbloke wrote:
I use the chatroom on and off and have never seen any sort of bullying. Disagreements yes but no different to the boards sometimes.

Instead of closing them down how about trying a different tack?

I've noticed the regional rooms are never used so why not make them theme related.

So you would have one for general chat, one maybe for more serious D/s discussion, one for training tips or whatever.

I've often wanted to have a serious D/s discussion but its hard sometimes in the middle a general chat.

This sounds like a good idea but not sure if it would help with the trolls and people wanting to have a go at others.

You are right that it sometimes can be difficult to have a serious discussion about something specific to BDSM rather than general chat. It might be why it sometimes seems cliqueish - if I have a question about BDSM and I find a couple of people in the chat room who are able to give some advice or an opinion then I tend to continue with that conversation with those people so I will be as guilty as everyone else of ignoring others at that point. I find it easier to ask in the chat room though than post on the boards as a conversation format is more natural and flows better. I would lose this option if the chat room was closed.

I use the chatroom a lot for the company of people who I class as friends and for the fact that it is the only place I know where you can drop in for a general chat with people and BDSM will be just another normal part of the chat like any other part of life. That said it has been getting more and more unpleasant in there recently and if Admin have to close it then I dare say I can keep up with friends individually on messenger and for the few questions I might have I will think about posting on the discussion boards instead or just asking other users that I know by memo.

It is a sad thing if the rooms have to be closed and I will miss them but Admin has a point and has to do what is best for the site as a whole. I have to agree that it seems to be getting worse.

I memo'd Admin last week, asking if there was a way of changing the room titles to for example a topic room, a newbie room etc. We do sometimes use another room, and have found it really good fun. A small group of like minded people having a laugh. Trouble is many don't join us cause of the room name, thinking cause they are from another town they are not welcome.....untrue, if you see me in another room and want to join us, come on in!

7 Nov 10, 11:47 AM
Arthur_Biscuit
UK(CT), 2 yrs

I've not only met people in real life via the room, but met my other half too.

Seems a shame to deny others the same chance in the future.

Edited 7 Nov 10, 11:58 AM by Arthur_Biscuit

7 Nov 10, 11:50 AM
scarlettsamm
UK(BL), 6 yrs

there are a lot of people who for many reasons cant get out and about to meet people socially, the ic chat room is a big part of their BDSM lives, it doent seem fair that they should lose out because of a few nasty people with "issues".

Iggy button the bullies, and DONT feed them

the people chatting in the room can see who the bullies are, if no one pays them any attention, they will get bored & go away eventually.

and Lady Stardust sang her songs, of.....
..............Darkness and Disgrace.

7 Nov 10, 11:50 AM
Steph_TV
UK(SY), 3 yrs

Why not ban the bullies ? Everyone knows who they are. They've been banned before, the mistake was letting them back in.

Is it not enough to appreciate the beauty of the garden without having to believe there are fairies at the bottom of it ?

7 Nov 10, 11:51 AM
Pheonix_Ian
3 yrs

I used it sometimes, but it isn't a necessity. If I want to maintain contacts in chat I usually get their e-mail address and by that I know that the person isn't a bully as trust is there.

Its a nice thought having but need thinking out further say an anti-bully button or a block chat function that exists on the chat page.

7 Nov 10, 12:15 PM
Beverley
UK(CT), 11 yrs

Feral_Laref wrote:
Its a nice thought having but need thinking out further say an anti-bully button or a block chat function that exists on the chat page.

There IS an ignore function though. I wish it totally eradicated all posts from the people concerned, as well as blocked posts on here too. However, it is missing the point cos the sort of people who have to keep starting up problems don't use the ignore function.

Edited to say, it would be better as an instant hit.

Also, maybe the logs should only be available to ADMIN not the general public as people often read through to see if anything has been said about them (apparently - not speaking from my own point of view).

Plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose.

Edited 7 Nov 10, 12:19 PM by Beverley

7 Nov 10, 12:23 PM
Captain_Sensible
UK(WV), 20 mths

Bullying is rife on internet forums and always assisted by poor moderation-temporary bans and 3 strikes and you are out is essential

Each a glimpse and gone forever.

7 Nov 10, 12:28 PM
River_Deep
UK, 6 yrs

I have never heard of anyone saying anything good about it (until now of course) Same old stuff, you only hear the negative.

I do not use it as it is not smooth and you miss so much as it jumps 6+ lines at time.

Would not miss it if it went.

It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it
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