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| Sat 6 Nov 10, 2:33 PM cough_cough UK(W), 4 yrs £  |
So, there is something I am curious about, VERY...... and this curiosity is directed at men here on IC who would consider themselves to be submissive. 1) How would you define your submission? 2) How would you express it? 3) How much success do you have in finding playmates so as express your desires, attributes.....? 4) What do you feel may be a deciding factor in being selected in a lifestyle arrangement, if that was your desire? 5) Would you consider seeing a professional, and if so, why?
I am curious, am I not. So many questions, so little time.. And for the record - I work in the Pro-Domme arena, but would have no issue around having a lifestyle arrangement, if I felt it was of benefit to BOTH parties. So far, what I have been offered is, from my view point, not of any value. "It's not what people say, but what they DO that counts" Edited Sat 6 Nov 10, 2:35 PM by cough_cough | |
| 6 Nov 10, 3:53 PM squeezed_melon 2 yrs |
I describe my submission as hidden. I would express it with actions silently ridden. When our paths cross,we will know it. Fear. No,not now.
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| 6 Nov 10, 5:24 PM safeandsoundbdsm UK(S), 5 yrs |
How would you define a lifestyle arrangement and what benefits would you be looking to recieve? Chris | |
| 6 Nov 10, 5:42 PM Grownup_Frankie UK, 4 yrs |
1) natural 2) naturally 3) n/a 4) love 5) no | |
| 6 Nov 10, 5:52 PM slavedave22 UK(B), 6 yrs  |
1) How would you define your submission? 2) How would you express it? 3) How much success do you have in finding playmates so as express your desires, attributes.....? 4) What do you feel may be a deciding factor in being selected in a lifestyle arrangement, if that was your desire? 5) Would you consider seeing a professional, and if so, why? (1 natural (2 loyalty,total obedience,respect, trust
(3 very little (4 loyality, total obedience, respect, trust and the "click" (5 not now no
Dont i get a parker pen or better a butt plug for completing this survey ?? no animals or trees were harmed in sending this however several million electrons were aggitated Edited 6 Nov 10, 5:55 PM by slavedave22 | |
| 6 Nov 10, 6:06 PM kleenezee 7 yrs |
1) A deep need to please and contribute to her happiness 2) Total commitment to the right person 3) Nil, but have more or less given up, anyway 4) Personal chemistry (vanilla and kinky) 5) Yes, because she will meet my play needs (and just may be the elusive One!)
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| 6 Nov 10, 6:28 PM GodKingEmperor 2 yrs |
1) How would you define your submission? Depends on the situation. In general, to women i show my submission in everyday life, normal things like moving out of the way to let them on a bus, or first through a door. Generally let them lead the way if we are going out, where to go, what club, what we should drink. Just play along. 2) How would you express it? Like i said previously, elaboration on the sex part. depends again. I don't sub to women in sex. But if I have sex with a vanilla woman i let them be on control of the flow, what they like don't like. Most vanilla girls dont like anal sex, but like all the positions and they like to dictate when to change from one to another and pace. 3) How much success do you have in finding playmates so as express your desires, attributes.....? Not many sub girls i have met so I rarely get to play. Like i say I dont sub to women unless it's a vanilla setting which is totally different. So maybe that's how I sub to a women in general as well. I don't find as many playmates as my ego suggests i should 4) What do you feel may be a deciding factor in being selected in a lifestyle arrangement, if that was your desire? OK im going to use this part to talk a bit more about my sub as a man to men. when I sub to a man they HAVE to make sure they play by my rules, it's my body on the line and I dont want to get hurt. lifestyle situation? Not sure about that, but someone who knows what they want, so for example some guys like to dress me up as a girl, or maybe tie me up. some just like to have this sort of house companion for a day where i might cook or clean. It all depends on the DOM and what he is after. 5) Would you consider seeing a professional, and if so, why? They very Idea of giving my hard earned money away to someone makes me laugh. No. I understand it is a service they provide. But to be honest sex and play should be free and fun. Sure I guess if you have cash to burn then why not. But I have better things to spend my money on that the comfort of someone else. I have bills to pay, decorating to do. WHY ON EARTH would I pay for YOUR big screen TV in an hour when i can use the money to get some much need home improvements done. Not to mention the fact £300+ for an hour sometimes more but never less than £150 BWHAHAHAHAHAHAHA you guise u so crazy. no no you wont see penny one from me. Now the subject of playmates going out for drink sharing the cost of a night out to a club, taxi, drinks, food. I'm all for that. I don't mind spotting someone a ticket into a club if they forgot their purse. I will buy drink for my friend because it pleases me to see them have fun, and so on. I guess on a higher end level of financial life £300+ for an hour is the equivalent of buying a drink, But I am not at that level of spending power. However if I were and a meeting like that was as casual as me buying a friend a drink because they are ran out of money, I would. maybe. I get some people feel guilt over the amount of money they have and so chose to go into financial bondage which to me being me is a totally uncomprehending idea to get my head around even if i do understand it. I'm one of these people who thinks sex should be free. and games should be left for in the bedroom. Life is way to complicated to be making it into a game before the bedroom even comes up and adding money on to that. But it weird how money will open doors no? I've been snubbed by a few people whos games i didn't managed to quite understand, and of course there is a matter of trust and safety to me thought of. Yes for a mere £300 i can walk straight into you room, with no warning or previous knowledge of me or who I am. and that totally fine. weird. More stupid than weird, but weird none the less.
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| 6 Nov 10, 6:41 PM Primal_Instinct UK, 20 mths |
1) A gift to be shared with the right person. 2) With passion. 3) Just started looking. 4) Mutual respect, friendship and (ever the optimist) a loving relationship if cupid had a good day with his arrows. 5)Never say never but I hope to meet someone who is more than just kink & fantasy. Exploring minds in different contexts and locations adds depth which enhances relations in my opinion. I have no problem with someone in the Pro-Domme arena it's a specialist service after all. | |
| 6 Nov 10, 7:03 PM Richtea UK(BN), 2 yrs  |
1) In sixty seconds, without hesitation, repetition or deviation. 2) Via the medium of dance. 3) Bugger all. 4) I couldn't live with anyone who chose darjeeling over PG Tips. 5) My psychiatrist is a professional. | |
| 6 Nov 10, 7:10 PM baggies UK(CH), 20 mths |
My submission is not hidden in that I am already willing to help whenever and wherever possible and with the right person this would be complete. I would express it with devotion through submission and through the level of cuddles and hugsand love The deciding factor in a lifestyle relationship is compatability on both sides and a feeling of attraction No I wouldnt consider a Pro-Domme because to me submission depends on compatablitity and that, in my eyes just wont happen with a Pro. I hope you respect the honesty Edited 6 Nov 10, 7:12 PM by baggies | |
| 6 Nov 10, 7:25 PM pleasureswitch UK(E), 6 yrs |
As there have been a ffew snarky comments (hey each to their own !)here, I'm gonna play it straight. With the greatest respect Mistress. 1) A part of my, as a limb is part. 2) To Serve, Honour, Obey and Adore. 3)Floods and Droughts, rarley regular. 4) My real-life honesty. I show up ! 5) Yes, have and will. Ease of "expression". Thanx You for asking Beautiful Mistress. (ed. 'cos of Iis tick) "Yeah I like Kinky stuff,dirty dark pervy stuff,weird sex....
An' Yerself ?" Edited 6 Nov 10, 7:35 PM by pleasureswitch |
