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on Thu 4 Nov 10, 6:48 AM to Rapunzel's blog.
As I am about to depart for the house party with all the flirting involved and the need and yearning to play with sexy men, it occurs to me that there is an essential conundrum in submissiveness. That is, you should be good and if you are bad, you get punished. However, most submissives actually like being punished, which is why they are submissive in the first place. So doesn't it go against the grain that if you are bad, you get pleasured but if you are good, you do not?
I find it very hard to ask to play. In my submissive world view, the Dom should want to a) play with me and b) take the steps necessary to achieve this. Just to put this in context, this does not involve swinging through a crocodile-infested swamp with a knife in their teeth and a box of Milk Tray tucked down their trousers*. It quite often only needs the line “You'll be sorry you've said that. Bend over!” which hardly requires a degree in Advanced Domliness. I like to think I'm pretty easy to Dom. So why is it that I so often end up as the wallflower in the corner?
Part of it is confidence. At any given party, there will be the following other submissives:
1. The Pretty One. This is the hot & fit chick that all the chaps want to play with. Watch the Sub's efforts here as the Doms circle the prey, sticking out their chests, flirting, casting saucy glances and playing with their hair. She is generally blonde, is certainly a UK size 10 or less and has a certain air of confidence and will be a bit shrieky, thus irritating the hell out of the girls but winning over the chaps with one flutter of her eyelashes.
2. The Newbie. This is the new girl, who hasn't done very much and (naturally) is therefore rather desirable to the guys. She is also up for it in an endearing 'Oo, I'm a bit scared' kind of way. I can understand this desire – when I am wearing my Dom hat**, I am a sucker for this.
3. The Brat. This is the girl who may not be the most gorgeous (although a combination of one and three, Pretty Brats are guaranteed to raise hatred in every other female breast in the room) but has the biggest personality and behaves like an overactive Ritalin-addicted ten-year old. Which Doms, for some reason, love and love to deal with.
4. The Smug Married/Partnered. This is a coupled up person, who will be played with by their own Dom. In theory, I should fall into this category, but as I'm in an open relationship and @LordFawcett can have me at any time, he tends to go for the thrill of the chase.
5. The Accidental Anarchist. This is the person who constantly puts their foot in it, usually not on purpose. But her gaffe-strewn conversation gives the Doms an opening…
6. The Pseudo-Intellectual. This submissive girl tries to pretend she is like, so above this party stuff and really only wants to discuss the relationship between Sartre and some obscure form of Japanese rope bondage. Whereas actually, she is reeling in the man by flattering his pretensions – and we all know that the ego-fulfilled dom is the one who feels his hand itch!
Then you have the others. We are usually the ones who are:
-Hosting the party or helping with it, topping up glasses, arranging food, pointing out the toilets and rubbing cream into the bottoms of already-dealt-with girls.
-Making not-too-bad jokes, chatting to other girls and wistfully observing the progress of our more obvious sisters.
- Dealing with any emotional issue that may arise and involve tears and screaming. Believe it or not, at a party like this, this is quite common.
-Hopefully looking at our chosen player and hoping he might notice us. Trying not to be obvious, because it's vulgar and American to be so forward (Sorry Americans, I do love you most of the time!).
Naturally, what generally happens is that all the obvious and up for it people who in one way or another asked for it, get it. Everyone else doesn't. Or worse, they possibly, towards the end of the evening, get what I term a 'sympathy spank' from one of the kindlier doms there who will read the desolation in their eyes and feel a stirring of gentlemanly feeling. This is generally not enjoyable, because there's nothing worse than someone dealing with you because they feel sorry for you and aren't actually that up for it. I'd rather go without.
And in here is the inherent contradiction again. You behave in what you consider to be a properly submissive manner, you don't nag or push and what you get is – zilch.
Sigh. My mother always told me life was unfair. She's never been proved wrong yet!
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*Only in some types of specific roleplay, such as 'Genteel Maiden Captured by Mad Sunflower -Worshipping priests of Bonga Bonga'
**Which is a fetching mini top hat with a sexy veil.
| 4 Nov 10, 7:35 AM wonderer UK, 5 yrs |
Hope you have a great time and get the fun you desire (or should that be the punishment you deserve?  ) Can't imagine why any red-blooded Dom wouldn't want to oblige, but then I'm not a Dom so perhaps I don't understand.Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est. http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/226772/ | |
| 4 Nov 10, 7:48 AM Betony UK, 7 yrs |
You've just convinced me that life's far simpler for a
slave 'I'm somewhat contemptuously convinced that sentimentality is the refuge of those without genuine emotions' Nigella Lawson | |
| 4 Nov 10, 8:49 AM littlenic 5 yrs |
Well, of course, role play doesn't have to be about punishment, as well you know I would think. How about the dominant, rather than an upstanding member of the community looking to correct you, being a wanton reprobate who will take you just because he so wishes?
I wonder, though, whether it's the punishment itself that sometimes gives the submissive the frisson... so if you're too well-behaved, you could always be punished for that
Failing all that though... I found at the house parties I attended that the "last to breakfast" ploy worked perfectly every time in terms of getting me a whacking Have lots of fun, lovely, and I'm sure you won't need to ask.
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| 4 Nov 10, 8:52 AM silent_lucidity UK(M), 4 yrs |
So very well observed, I'm just sat here trying to work out which category I usually fit into when I'm at events 
You're correct in pointing out the paradox that a good sub faces, let's hope the domly ones take this on board!Enjoy the party. Charl x | |
| 8 Nov 10, 7:23 PM Neo_Victorian UK(OX), 2 yrs |
Speaking as one of the Gentleman at the house party, (although by far the least experianced when it comes to both house parties and the kinky life in general), Its a bit of a shame that I didn't read this before I set out for Lord Fawcetts country estate, but I think you are really looking at this the wrong way. Nautrually I'm not speaking for anybody else but myself here. The reason is that, as the Archduchess, you are intimdating. I agree it is easy to say “You'll be sorry you've said that. Bend over!” however as you are an Archdutchess, its a very different kettle of fish to saying “You'll be sorry you've said that Your Grace. Bend over!”. It's not just a case of "It is Rapunzel in a fancy gown" during the weekend, you are the Archduchess, You are the reason we are here! Far from being a wallflower you are the centre of attention most of the time and rightly so! I doubt its acceptable social Etiquette to be telling an Archduchess that she have been a very naughty girl and she is going across your knee.* Had you not been so grand I would have been more than happy to have my wicked way with you.** As you are that grand, things require a bit more effort. Anyway in my view Viscount Dudley (My character during the house party) was acting far to much like a creep. I cringingly recall him running to you like a well trained west highland terrier to return the stolen pearl necklace*** and saying that "The knowledge of her Grace's honour being intact was reward enough" Somebody pass the sick bag Now had I been thinking in my normal way (well my Kinky-Normal way), I may have returned it, but only after black-mailing you to........well that would be telling.... So Archduchess, shall we arrange a replay of the "Return of the Pearl Neckless"**** scene at some point soon? I'm sure that ArchDuke will be most angry should he discover that she doesn't have it by the time he returns........... --------------------------------------------------- ------- * Unless you are a King of course, I'm pretty sure Kings are allowed to do this ** Then again I also felt sorry for Mary Francis and I would have gone a little easier on her but I had a 50 Guinea wager with the Duke of Oxford to see if I could make her cry with my final six strokes. *** No, not that kind of pearl neckless **** No, STILL not that kind of pearl neckless Edited 8 Nov 10, 7:46 PM by Neo_Victorian |
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