Posted by subette on Sun 31 Oct 10, 9:16 PM to subette's blog.
...but maybe I am.
I own less than I did 5 years ago (no flat and, consequently, less 'things') and have no savings. I earn the same (so less in real terms) than I did back then, and £6k/year less than I did in 2003. I have a failed marriage behind me and, in the last 5 years have only lived in one place for more than 6 months. Plus I have little prospect of being able to buy somewhere myself any time soon.
It's not exactly a life anyone would aspire to.
Thing is, though I could do with a little bit more money (£6k for a deposit on a flat would do me fine) and a little bit more motivation to actually go to the gym and get a bit fitter, I quite like my life at the mo. It's full of lots of different people (old friends, new buddies) and new experiences. I am learning stuff and doing a job that's pretty good with people I like working with. I have no debts and what little I do have I own outright.
Should I be worried?
Subette
Edited Sun 31 Oct 10, 9:23 PM by subette
| 31 Oct 10, 9:25 PM CaramelSauce UK(G), 23 mths  |
You are doing far better than me honey, cant get a job, living with Gran, gave up house to move South with my BF, who it turned out was a total fucking arsehole, and fallen out with one of my best friends over him.....so ......... It's a long way to the top, if you wanna rock n' roll..... | ||
| 31 Oct 10, 9:30 PM subette 2 yrs |
Ahhh - life's ups and downs eh... 'What is more basic than the need to be known? It is the entirety of intimacy, the elixir of love, this knowing.' Audrey Niffenegger - Her Fearful Symmetry | ||
| 31 Oct 10, 9:32 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs       |
The only important thing is whether or not you are happy. The rest is just window dressing. Life is not measured by the breaths we take. but by the moments that take our breath. | ||
| 31 Oct 10, 9:41 PM subette 2 yrs |
I wish the country was run on this basis
@Ama_Sidero for Prime Minister Subette 'What is more basic than the need to be known? It is the entirety of intimacy, the elixir of love, this knowing.' Audrey Niffenegger - Her Fearful Symmetry | ||
| 31 Oct 10, 9:56 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs |
HAHA....no you don't. Everyone would be eating gruel until it was out of debt. You don't have it, you don't spend it. That's my motto. LOL
ETA: But you go to bed with something in tummy & no worries how it's gonna be paid for. Life is not measured by the breaths we take. but by the moments that take our breath. Edited 31 Oct 10, 9:57 PM by Ama_Sidero | ||
| 31 Oct 10, 9:56 PM geek_love 2 yrs |
You're a lot of things, but not a fuck-up, so try not to worry. Its so horrible but you can't just look away. It's like watching a monkey swallow a live hand grenade. | ||
| 31 Oct 10, 10:05 PM subette 2 yrs |
Awww - Mr Love. As long as you don't think I'm a fuck up that's fine by me Subette 'What is more basic than the need to be known? It is the entirety of intimacy, the elixir of love, this knowing.' Audrey Niffenegger - Her Fearful Symmetry | ||
| 31 Oct 10, 10:13 PM Litany UK(E), 11 yrs  |
are any of us in the same position we were 5 years ago, we all make decisions, we all make choices, I wish I could go back to one day and scream at myself not to go to an interview, worst mistake I made but I am here now, plugging on, living and loving , never ever stop. James "Litany, a poncy show-off with wit, a camera, and his own teeth *swoon*"
Fen "You have some strange taste in music"
Me "If I didn't, I wouldn't be half as interesting" | ||
| 31 Oct 10, 11:01 PM GazUK1963 UK(B), 6 yrs |
You are one of many, times are hard. All we can do is make the most of what we have and try to improve things. Just hanging on to what we have is quite an achievement in the current climate.
I agree with the above whole heartedly. I too earn less than I did a few years ago. I work for the public sector; so, at the moment, I feel that I have "The Sword of Damocles Hanging Over My Head". I have very little chance of buying again. Even if I got a better job and a divorce and started buying tomorrow, even if I worked until I was 66, that would only give me 18 1/2 years to pay off what would be a large sum of money. We all have crap in our lives, but we all have good things too. Although there are some things in life that I would change, there is far more that I would not. Take care and enjoy what you have. Gary xxx.
Everyone who lives dies, but not everyone who dies has truly lived. | ||
| 1 Nov 10, 7:55 AM littlenic 5 yrs |
I have some empathy, except for the failed marriage - I have no committed relationships behind me, which according to at least one poster on IC makes me, at my age, some kind of socially inept freak.  With regards to the housing ladder, although I am currently sharing with a friend in order to save money for a deposit, I sometimes find myself stopping and wondering why. What is this big drive to home ownership? When I've done it in the past it's ended in tears - negative equity on the first house, subsidence on the second flat which led to the most stressful two years of my life. You never hear that stuff in the media, all you hear is that home ownership is a sure fire way to happiness and wealth-generation. Add to that that I have no kids, and therefore no one to need to leave an inheritance to, and I'm increasingly coming around to the idea of renting for the rest of my life. The savings might end up going on amazing trips to far-flung places - I've only got one life, and what will I appreciate more on my death bed? Excitement and adventure, or mortgage repayments and the need to find ten grand to repair a damaged roof?
Aaanyway... I agree that happiness is what counts. And I'd be lying if I said I didn't sometimes feel like a bit of a fuck-up, like life has gone a bit wrong and I'd like to start it again please - but that gets me nowhere, so I make the most of where I am now and look forward to all the good things yet to come my way. Edited 1 Nov 10, 2:26 PM by littlenic |
