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| Thu 21 Oct 10, 11:29 AM just_six UK(CH), 10 yrs  |
So as not to hijack the Yes Sir thread with my comments... Boot on other foot here. i always called my ex Master, to His face, to friends, in emails etc etc, to the point that i actually found it cringe-worthy to introduce Him to others by His given name. Now we no longer have D/s in our relationship, (after ten years) i can't refer to Him as anything at all. It feels seriously wrong to use His given name, and as He isn't my Master anymore, that doesn't seem appropriate. Having said that, we've discussed it at extremely great length, and to me Master became His actual name. Friends have come up with various suggestions, but two months into our non D/s relationship, i'm still no nearer a solution! | ||
| 21 Oct 10, 11:35 AM MissP UK(EN), 8 yrs |
Show that you can move on by using his name. Anything else is just silly, and I'm sure you, he and your friends have better things to do than spend 2 months discussing this. | ||
| 21 Oct 10, 11:38 AM saraxx UK, 7 yrs |
Not feeling a need to call a dominant partner by anything than their given name does have its advantages! 'A woman, without her man, is nothing. | ||
| 21 Oct 10, 11:41 AM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs |
Facetious one liner: Aren't all exs just refered to as 'the bastard'.  | ||
| 21 Oct 10, 11:44 AM salacious UK(NN), 2 yrs |
No, some are twats, and some are idiots. And some are all three. I know the world doesn't revolve around me, it revolves around the sun, which happens to shine out of my arse!! | ||
| 21 Oct 10, 12:09 PM just_six UK(CH), 10 yrs |
Haha, not this one...we are still the very best of friends!
i realised that those who don't see the need for "honorific" titles would not understand my dilemma, and i haven't spent the entire two months thinking about it, or indeed discussing with friends, i'm a quite stable person really All i was saying was that as i'd called Him nothing but Master (and of course the obligatory "bastard" under my breath many times during play!!) that it was difficult for me to call Him by anything else. To me it was like someone suddenly changing their given name after knowing them for a very long time and finding it hard to get used to.
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| 21 Oct 10, 12:17 PM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs |
I think it's good that you have been able to remain friends as sometimes the hurt of a relationship breakup can cause you to cut off all ties. I think after ten years together it's bound to feel strange not calling him sir/master. But I think perhaps if you use his name then given time it will begin to feel natural. edited 'cos I can't spell Edited 21 Oct 10, 12:18 PM by fellatrix | ||
| 21 Oct 10, 12:46 PM Qwoins_calamity UK(S), 3 yrs  |
totaly agree with six i find using Sirs given name hard and even in nills surroundings i forget myself and call Him Sir . my kids think its a nickname i gave him 
Good girls blush during naughty scenes in the movies. Bad girls smile because they know they can do better. | ||
| 21 Oct 10, 12:48 PM just_six UK(CH), 10 yrs |
What's even funnier, is that even i call your Sir, Sir | ||
| 21 Oct 10, 12:49 PM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
If you feel his name doesn't feel right, how about just calling him "M" - as a term of endearment for a friend, but which shows the change from "Master"? it would still take some getting used to but might be less difficult than his name. (Assuming of course he would be happy with "M"!)
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| 21 Oct 10, 12:57 PM just_six UK(CH), 10 yrs |
That's a good suggestion actually...our social circle would then include 1 M, 3 Ds, 1 e, 1 Q, 1 j...we could start our own alphabet! |
