This post is on the D/s & M/s web board.
| Sun 17 Oct 10, 4:46 PM chrisco UK(HD), 2 yrs  |
hello all.
just wanted to comment on something that does my head in. curious why there are so many subs and Dommes in the world, but for some reason it seems near impossible to meet anyone for real. is it just me or do most subs Dommes and switches feel this way to ?. i know what i am about and i consider myself 100% genuine in what i am looking for in regards to meeting a Domme etc. but after many emails and chats with various people it always comes to nothing. hate to sound desperate because i am not lol, but do i unknowingly put out some bad vibe to these people lol. or maybe its just that most Dommes only wan to know you if your paying ?. anyway thats my bitching over. | |
| 17 Oct 10, 4:55 PM Mistress_sultrybelle UK(G), 2 yrs £  |
Get out from behind the computer, the internet is a good way to start meeting people but munches are much better. http://www.mistresssultrybelle.com/ http://www.glasgow-mistress.co.uk/ http://www.glasgowdominatrix.co.uk/ | |
| 17 Oct 10, 4:57 PM Atrebate UK, 4 yrs |
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/uk/event_dates/... http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/uk/munches/all/ But then you must know this, having been registered on the site for a year. "There's no D/s in Team" (Sparks, V., 2009, pers. comm.) | |
| 17 Oct 10, 5:03 PM Sam333 20 mths |
I have met well over 30 genuine fun loving dommes, no such thing as a free lunch pure economics, get out there and have fun> | |
| 17 Oct 10, 5:05 PM Bop_it_plus_kitten 23 mths |
Not everyone wants to go to munches or even events but it may well increase your chances of meeting someone. Similarily there are plenty of Dominant women 'out there' but if your view is tinted i.e they only want you if your willing to pay' its going to narrow your chances even more. If your trying to meet someone on IC read the blogs, reply, memo etc it may be the long journey but at least you will get an inkling into personality and what counts for them. good luck Bop it | |
| 17 Oct 10, 5:06 PM CarolinaMoon IE, 5 yrs |
As above, get out and meet people. Go to a club or a munch. Post more so people get an idea of you. You look attractive. If you come across as nice/intelligent/fun/(other good things) you should do ok in the real world. | |
| 17 Oct 10, 5:09 PM Ms_Crimson UK(LS), 23 mths |
Leeds munch is on Saturday why not pop along and meet people. | |
| 17 Oct 10, 5:10 PM Sam333 20 mths |
Pro mistresses provide a valid service, as do accountants, lawyers,plumbers. electricians etc. | |
| 17 Oct 10, 5:13 PM chrisco UK(HD), 2 yrs |
i hear that and agree. but i am not into going to munches, well not alone. i would love to go to clubs but once again i am not into the going on own. sure would have a good time once there, but the idea of going out with no friends seems alien to me. i am more than willing to go to clubs etc and meet, but with the help of the interent i would of thought it a great way to get to know people, then meet them, but for me that doesnt seem to work. ive only ever met one real Domme online who i met, but that didnt go anywhere for one reason of another. you would think its so easy t meet with help of internet. you see someone who looking for same. email them, start chatting, then in time meet. but my expeiance shown it not like that at all. | |
| 17 Oct 10, 5:17 PM Sam333 20 mths |
Face to face is reality
| |
| 17 Oct 10, 5:19 PM Beverley UK(CT), 11 yrs |
Thoughts such as "well I suppose I have to pay for it" do translate some offputting vibes at times to those who never charged and never will. Not aimed at the OP but a passive-aggressive approach is actually worse than desperation. The subs women are interested in have usually made themselves noticeable in some positive way. Be positive, bright and get yourself out there. Plus, male subs should pal up with female subs. They do tend to like matchmaking. Plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose. |
