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| Sun 10 Oct 10, 6:35 PM hot_pimienta UK(LE), 19 mths  |
I am a newish Bi Dom male. Is that considered a submissive act on behalf of the Dom. to suck his male subs cock ? I enjoy eating pussy and would have no qualms doing that to a female sub, yet it I love to suck cock, but it does not seem right that I should do so to a male sub. So I just make them suck mine and leave it there. Is it just me ? Do other male Doms want to give their male subs oral or is their an etiquette here ? Would love to have your opinions or advice. |
| 10 Oct 10, 6:38 PM Gobacktosleep UK(M), 2 yrs |
Do as you wish. You're the dom, afterall. And if it feels submissive to you make it otherwise. Use your teeth a little, edge them, forbid them to cum etc etc. |
| 10 Oct 10, 6:42 PM Butterscotch UK(RM), 3 yrs |
A Dom/me does exactly as they please so enjoy and have fun  |
| 10 Oct 10, 7:38 PM not_lost_still_lady UK(PE), 22 mths       |
or tie him down before doing it why deny yourself, find a way that makes you feel good and go for it "I used to think I was serving humanity...and I pleasured in the thought. Then I discovered that humanity does not want to be served; on the contrary it resents any attempt to serve it. So now I do what pleases ?" extract from Stranger In A Strange Land by R.A. Heinlein |
| 10 Oct 10, 7:46 PM Top_Class UK(GU), 2 yrs |
Everything already said is spot on. You do what you want. However to get though the mental threshold, a slightly negative feeling about giving oral-penile stimulation to a male sub then why not view the act as a reward to a sub who pleases you? Spot something they do that does please you and use that as a smokescreen to enjoy yourself while telling them how much they've pleased you. If your sub is truly sub they'll get a boost from the pleasure of pleasing you plus, if they enjoy oral too, the pleasure of getting a blow-job as well. That should get you over the mental threshold of only subs suck cock and into a valid, 'domly' reason to do what you like to do. Then, once past that you can move forward into even more domly ways of making oral even more fun for you while making receiving oral even more of a sub's challenge as they try to please you. Stipulate that you have control of their desire to ejaculate and then stimulate them more and more in both nice and not so nice ways (putting a vibrator on their balls, or pegs and clamps there instead). You can have as much oral as you want and decide whether they view it as a nice option or a less nice one as they try to please you.
"Fork handles?" "No, not 'fork handles' ... four candles." |
| 10 Oct 10, 7:51 PM Visualize UK(CV), 5 yrs |
Hmmm, I don't personally subscribe to this Dom(mes) can and should do what the hell they want - something more along the line of some of what they want and some of what you want is more likely to make for an enduring relationship. That said, if you want to suck your subs cock, then I guess he won't be complaining. |
| 10 Oct 10, 7:53 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
I'm not that keen as a submissive on oral sex being done on me but the bottom line is the dom decides and if I can keep that in mind I can kind of feel it's dominance. |
