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| relaxed1 |
on Thu 7 Oct 10, 9:46 PM to relaxed1's blog.
I'm constantly puzzled by profiles of people who say they are submissive through and through, want a relationship, and then say that they aren't seeking 24/7. I ask myself “how can this be”? How can one be in a D/s relationship that isn't 24/7?
Now I can understand that most people wouldn't want to be chained up 24/7 (well, most of us have lives), but since when did D/s involve any particular activity? I admire those who say they have no interest in, say, bondage. Why? Because it indicates that they have at least given it some thought and arrived at a conclusion. But D/s is something more than any activity. It is a state of mind, for the D as much as for the s. It isn't something that one can pick up and put down.
My view is that establishing a D/s dynamic between two people is an achievement in itself, it doesn't often happen by chance, and once it's there, it's there. It matters not if the two people are in the same location or not, they are still D and s, 24/7. It's not a choice.
| 7 Oct 10, 10:03 PM misunderstoodslave UK(OL), 2 yrs |
Could not agree more. You are either in or you are out. And if in, it has to be complete and total. For me, at least. I consider myself a 24/7 slave, even though I don't live with my Master, as he is the last thing I think of when going to sleep, and my first waking thought. Anything I can do to serve him makes me happy. Anything else is a waste of time. I don't understand, if you want a real slave/controlled relationship, how you can place limits on it and live it in a safe, contained way. However, YKIOK, so if you are less full-on in your response than me, that's fine. I just don't understand it. |
| 8 Oct 10, 7:40 AM Amber_Light 3 yrs |
Oh I totally agree with this too. I don't get to see Sir as often as I would like but when we are apart it doesn't mean I'm not his slave. Everything I do has the hand of Sir on my shoulder. I sit down at home to watch to TV and may automatically go to cross my legs - a no no which suddenly springs into my head and I sit without crossed legs. I'm angry about something and am just about to use an expletive - another no no (unless Sir is beating the crap out of me and I can shout what the hell I like lol) so I am constantly aware of my position with Sir. There are so many simple things that are part of my daily routine, I have rules and boundaries and they don't just fall away because I'm not physically with Sir. I can't turn my submission off like a tap.
This is the first time I've read a post stating this. Thank you for posting |
