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| hollythedolly |
on Mon 4 Oct 10, 11:52 AM to the O_and_P group.
I'm quite curious to know how others opinions are on long distance relationships would work within o&p.
I struggle to understand that in a D/s dynamic that you can fully submit to anyone who lives in a different country sometimes even if you are in a different county it's hard.
But i would like to see how others think.
| 4 Oct 10, 12:46 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
Agree with you Holly - though i guess relationships where you might be frequently apart could work. I'm not saying it can't work - just that, like you, I can't understand how it could. My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | |||||
| 4 Oct 10, 12:50 PM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs  |
Why? begging is my business | |||||
| 4 Oct 10, 2:02 PM Lady_Lucan UK(L), 4 yrs |
Well, I'm managing one at the moment. I'm working in Greece while my boy of three years' standing holds the fort back in the UK. As you might expect, communication is the key. We use email, texts, phone calls and Skype to ensure we spend at least an hour's quality time per day connecting with each other. We've had to be creative with tasks and expressions of D/s, knowing that we will only be spending a total of 4 months of the year together in person, but it's going very well so far, and I have to say has actually amplified our love and enriched the piquancy of our relationship in many ways. It's funny, but working on ourselves, as well as the relationship, has been paying dividends too. There are vanilla opportunities for self-development available here which I had no access to in the UK, and my boy has been dusting off his old pursuits and forging some new ones. We were talking about this at the weekend, and my overall comment was that I expect him to conduct self-care proactively, as part of his submission. Whether we are in the same room, or thousands of miles apart, he is still able to serve me in a multiude of ways, and I can control him with a mere line of text.
Alla kalla 'Ey la'/Hella! (Delete as appropriate.) | |||||
| 4 Oct 10, 2:09 PM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs |
Did you have a relationship in the uk before you had to go to greece or did you meet on line or meet in greece?
begging is my business | |||||
| 4 Oct 10, 2:28 PM Lady_Lucan UK(L), 4 yrs |
We were together for just under 3 years in the UK before I moved to Greece. Is this not the kind of thing you were asking about? 'Ey la'/Hella! (Delete as appropriate.) | |||||
| 4 Oct 10, 2:32 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs |
Why what? My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | |||||
| 4 Oct 10, 2:57 PM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs |
Why do you think it wont work? begging is my business | |||||
| 4 Oct 10, 2:59 PM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs |
Sorry i was also thinking of those who have met on the net. begging is my business | |||||
| 4 Oct 10, 3:05 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs |
I think if you had time together, even infrequently, the times between could be sustained. A long-distance relationship (only) to me seems artificial and difficult to sustain. My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | |||||
| 4 Oct 10, 3:20 PM SimpleSoul UK, 6 yrs |
It all depends on what we mean by long distance I guess, as in online only? I do know of one long term relationship where they physically met once a year if that. It was however a very intense and real relationship for them. So I know it can work for some people. Not my cup of tea as I do like the physical side of things now and again and without needing to fly the Atlantic. Having said that, unless one lives together and dont leave each other's sides (work for example gets in the way lol) then dont all relationships have some 'long distance' elemens to some extent?
That's why an O&P relationship may have rules and rituals to reinforce things when apart. That's how I see it anyway
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