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| 30 Sep 10, 1:43 PM Reversed 23 mths  |
OK - reading this thread is becoming a tad masochistic!
I'd like a list of all the male dominants who pamper please... as soon as poss..... phone numbers and photos would be good too. Am available for domination by pampering at very short notice. Like... just about now....? | ||||
| 30 Sep 10, 2:27 PM LovingLord 3 yrs |
I love that old fashioned Gentleman stuff. Holding a door open, putting my hand on the small of her back and guiding her into the room. Deciding where and when we cross the road, stepping out first. Making sure I'm on her left when the road is to the left, and on her right when the road is to her right. There's no conflict between domination and care for me. It's what a Gentleman just does naturally. Leads, dominates, and cares for his woman. And if she likes it, then why not? As Toakreon said, it has to work for both parties or it won't work for either...
As a photographer, I've sometimes found myself let down by a makeup artist. So I'm seriously considering taking a course in makeup artistry. If you were offered a manicure, would it seem weird? Is there such a thing as too much/the wrong type of pampering? I'll be honest, I'm more the massages/feeding her chocolate type of pamperer, but it's a question that's now rattling around my brain! It's all in your head... | ||||
| 30 Sep 10, 2:38 PM ComfortablyNumb UK(RG), 4 yrs    |
Exactly! Thanks for describing it better than me
I have had a Dom do my make up before, it wasn't weird. (still still, shut up!) He was good at it, if he wasn't, now that would have been weird. | ||||
| 30 Sep 10, 2:40 PM Beverley UK(CT), 11 yrs |
I realise that this thread is about dominants, but it's interesting that simple gentlemanly manners are now seen as pampering in these days of bloke-ness. Working in Poland for a while it was still very common to see these kind of manners in use every day.
Viva chivalry, however it manifests Plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose. | ||||
| 30 Sep 10, 2:41 PM mini_velvet UK(EH), 6 yrs |
amen! | ||||
| 30 Sep 10, 2:42 PM Daddywithgirl 3 yrs |
This Daddy definitely pampers his little girl.......when she has been good. (º•.¸(¨*•.¸¸.•*¨)¸.•º) | ||||
| 30 Sep 10, 2:50 PM Painpet UK(CB), 3 yrs |
It wouldn't be weird no, it would be nice and acceptable. If they can do it then great, if they can't then I'm still game as it can be a giggle. For me though it's not on the top of my list as that's something I am happy doing myself anyway. The thought is nice though.
I guess for me it would be being allowed that slice of chocolate cake I have had my eye on. Or to take me to that place I may have mentioned in passing in converstaion, just little things that can mean a lot. If he's into all the girly pamper things then yay for me I woudn't say no
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| 30 Sep 10, 4:10 PM janusxuk UK(HP), 7 yrs |
As the Dom refered to by@ComfortablyNumb the difference in perception of what is Domly and what is being a Good Person between subs and Doms as exemplified by us is, I think anyway, remarkable. To paraphrase @TheSilverFox says, the art of being a Gentleman, or a Dom is knowing when not to be. Many days one day Edited 30 Sep 10, 5:03 PM by janusxuk | ||||
| 30 Sep 10, 4:15 PM LovingLord 3 yrs |
I haven't used a bus in a long time. I had to yesterday, to go pick up my car. A little old lady got on the bus and stood near me. I got up and offered her the seat - just for a second she looked at me like I had another arm growing out of my forehead. Then she smiled, thanked me and sat down. I think that bloke-ness isn't entirely to blame though. When I was in college, I was told by one of my teachers that I couldn't use the word "manhole cover". It was to be "personhole cover" because anything with "man" in it was sexist. I pointed out that "woman" means "of man". That got added to the list. "Human" was next, then "mankind". "Blackboard" was to be "chalkboard" and "whiteboard was to be "inkboard" so as not to be racist. An argument broke out, in which it came to light that opening a door for woman (not sure how we got round to that) is demeaning, because it infers she's somehow "inferior". So whilst I support feminism (equal pay for equal work, the right not to be groped or harassed etc etc) I do think that some militant/extremist bra-burners and PC activists have a lot of explaining to do in regards to the death of chivalry.
The cake I can see as pampering, but taking a girl to somewhere she fancies going doesn't seem so much pampering as just a nice day out for both parties. Unless it's somewhere I really, really had no interest in going - but I'm a photographer. I'm interested in *everything*. And photographing it from weird angles.
I've never tried it, so I don't know if it'd be fun or not. I think it would depend on her reaction - if she loved it, then I can see myself enjoying it too (almost "by proxy"). I do love the bathing thing that some people have mentioned though. Great idea. So very sensual. I think that the intense sensuality of it is why I enjoy giving massages... It's all in your head... | ||||
| 30 Sep 10, 4:40 PM Blaze09 UK(WV), 3 yrs |
when i first got into BDSM well found out what it was called because of my gentlemanly manners i was mistaken for being sub and so tried starting out on that rote didn't last very long let me tell you but in the western world I've found that those self same manners get me into trouble more oft than not when out and about because I'm told its creepy or they can get their own doors. I've found it rare to find a woman that appreciates these old virtues much to my distress lol |
