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| 18 Sep 10, 2:07 PM brainwave UK(CB), 11 yrs   |
I go to a few events on my own and have sometimes felt left out. I think nina's idea is great and would welcome a site like this. | ||
| 18 Sep 10, 2:25 PM DonthaveAname 3 yrs |
I go alone to events but try to arrange to meet people at the event. Though a couple ive gone alone just to have a look. people in my vanilla life are very narrow minded and dont understand a fetish for heels and feet and Fem Domme. so im alone on that front and like events to make more friends. Though i go alone to the event as no one from this area, ive conected with. | ||
| 18 Sep 10, 2:51 PM subtiffany 4 yrs |
For anyone nervous about attending events on their own, if you're in the North West, I can highly recommend Club 666 WHICH IS ON TONIGHT AT THE MANCHESTER DUNGEON IN BURY, and the Kage Club, which is run by Dave the Butcher who is on here and also runs Club 666 ( ON TONIGHT IN BURY!!!!). I went to the last Kage Club as a single guy and had a great time. I would drop Dave a line on here. tiffers | ||
| 18 Sep 10, 4:33 PM trustingsole 2 yrs |
I've been reading this thread with interest as it is a subject very relevant to me. Despite being reasonably assertive in day to day life I am painfully shy about social gatherings, even when I know the people attending. About 3 years ago I realised that the only way to meet like minded people was to get out there and mix it up a bit so, I went to a local Munch. The regular attendees were really friendly and nice and they were falling over each other to be accommodating however, I absolutely hated every second of the whole experience!! I know it's easy to sneer and label the likes of me unsociable but some people are just that way and it doesn't make them any less decent. I just get a little tired of being advised to go to Munches and to circulate with like minded people by others who don't seem to grasp that some just can't do that. I've been on here for a few years (on and off) and hundreds of people have viewed my profile but I've never had a proper reply and no-one has ever shown any interest (photo or no photo) Am I a total freak or are there others in the same boat? | ||
| 18 Sep 10, 5:05 PM Mistress_maria_XTC UK, 5 yrs £ |
Nina in response to your Thread, my partner who is TV found herself in the same position and from her negitive expereince in the scene we now host a fetish club and have parties every Saturday night in the Heart of Mansfield in Nottinghamshire. I tend to be the host dom and openly encourage singles male or female to come along. We all have to start some where and I like to think our parties are one of the warmest welcomes within the scene for new comers or just those that prefer to attend alone. Mistress Maria x (Mansfield Dungeon) Edited 18 Sep 10, 5:06 PM by Mistress_maria_XTC | ||
| 18 Sep 10, 5:06 PM Ms_Crimson UK(LS), 23 mths |
Nina we are attending the BBB tomorrow and will be there about 12.30 ish. Please do come over and say hello, you are more than welcome to join us while we are there. J | ||
| 18 Sep 10, 5:27 PM dragons_sub UK(B), 4 yrs |
I must have been very lucky on my first outing into the scene, I posted on the thread that I was new and thinking of going to a club. I received a few memo's from people going as well as from the house mistresses with offers of meeting me outside to go in. Through out the evening people came up to me to make sure I was ok, I am happy to say that the people I met that first night are still good friends today. I find that some clubs are better for new people in the scene than others, I'm not saying that some are unfriendly, it's just on some occasions there is so much going on that people on their own can be overlooked. I will always reccomend posting on the thread in many instances that alerts the organisers to watchout for you to make sure you are included. I also go to the BBB most months and I am happy to chat xx
My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.-- Dalai Lama | ||
| 18 Sep 10, 5:51 PM venus_flames UK(WR), 5 yrs £ |
I can't believe that no one has mentioned the fact that there are 'meeters and greeters' at the BBB, who volunteer to show newbies round and introduce them to people. If you go on the BBB site I am sure there is a section that explains this to you. I don't know if they still do it as I haven't worked there myself for quite a while now, but it used to be Gaz Uk and Dawn. You could not meet 2 nicer people to show you round and they know everybody. It's a great way of meeting other newbies in the same position as well, as they would likely be getting shown round at the same time. http://www.funfashion.co.uk All hand crafted and custom made. | ||
| 18 Sep 10, 6:15 PM Trussedworthy UK(NW), 6 yrs |
Ahem, new, female and thinking of going to a club.. Que inundation of offers. Realistically it's not the same for the newbie single guys or CD/TVs.
Pretty spot on Dave. I've been to dozens of clubs alone, sometimes specifically to meet people I know, sometimes coincidentally meeting people I've met before, sometimes just with an open minded sense of adventure that we'll see what the night may bring. I like talking to people and will generally start a conversation or just say hello, well someone has to or nobody would never know anybody else, and you'd have quite a small circle of friends if you just relied upon introductions from those you already know. It delights and amuses me the random ways I've first met some people who have gone on to become friends whom I now treasure. Personally I'm very comfortable with and love being in a club atmosphere, alone or otherwise (professionally I spend a lot of time in nightclubs, there have been weeks I've spent more time in clubs than at home). I do realise it can be a daunting prospect to newbies, particularly when adding the fetish element, but as Dave says, you'll never meet people unless you get out and meet people. Don't go with lots of hopes or expectations, just go with the flow, at the very least it has so much potential to make your life a richer experience. Edited 18 Sep 10, 6:24 PM by Trussedworthy | ||
| 18 Sep 10, 9:09 PM MzClio UK(CF), 3 yrs      |
I have been to subversion and other clubs on my own.However I do tend to look and see whose going and read previous posts. blogs ,etc.. And that tends to break the ice ..Ie . I've said to many a person . .love the point of view you made about a certan topic. .and people have come up to me both at LAM and the clubs to say that to me.. . Defiled is my name full sore Through cruel spite and false report That I may say for evermore Fairwell to joy, adieu comfort For wrongfully ye judge of me Unto my fame a mortal wound Say what ye list, it may not be Ye seek for that shall not be found.. Anne Boleyn ...... Taking no prisoners at the moment |
