Un-domly behaviour... (42)

Occasionally I like to be bitten, or scratched during rough play. I don't see myself as submissive in any way, but if you did that to a dom/me and they didn't punish you for it at any point, would you see that as a sign of weakness? A sign of possible subness/switchness?

It really does depend on my mood, sometimes biting me (or scratching me) results in a good, hardcore spanking.

But on the occasions when it doesn't, would you view that as un-domly?

*Edit* - when I say sometimes biting me results in a good, hardcore spanking, I mean once. It happened once. Just a little clarification! And she didn't bite on any other occasion.

Edited Thu 16 Sep 10, 12:17 AM by LovingLord

Analysing it further, you could possibly say it's a Dom with masochistic tendancies/likes, which, for the record, doesn't (in and of itself) detract in any way from a person's dominance/ability to dominate.

But that's only my opinion. I'm sure there will be many who will disagree.

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You seem to be equating 'submissive' with 'weakness'.

Odd. Very odd.

But you are sending mixed messages if you are saying you like it, and then sometimes - and she doesn't know what times, you're punishing her for it?

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I don't see why you draw that conclusion. I'm asking if subs would see it as weak OR a sign of being sub, not drawing a paralel between being sub and being weak.

MissP wrote: I've never allowed my dommliness to get in the way of a good shag But you are sending mixed messages if you are saying you like it, and then sometimes - and she doesn't know what times, you're punishing her for it?

True, but I don't think I ever punished a girl for biting me whome I'd also allowed to bite me...

In fact, I've only ever given one girl a beating for biting me. Which I shouldn't have, since I quite liked it. I was younger and dumber, and I took it as a sign she wanted a bit of punishing - when it was just a sign she was enjoying herself, she told me later. The spanking wasn't particularly welcome.

I really should've been clearer on that, my OP does make it sound like I'm regularly being schitzo in my treatment of a girl.

Sorry for the confusion, but bear in mind it's not something that happens much...

It seems to me that you're concrned about the activity itself being undomly, thus creating your perceived undomly reaction?

Good sex, whoever's on top and doing what to whom, is good sex. Relax, enjoy.

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Seconded. I like a little biting/scratching too.

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