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| 11 Sep 10, 3:33 PM BadWulf UK(TA), 6 yrs   |
But I wonder if you say that from the position of having been involved with somebody wonderful on-line or are you just guessing what might or might not be possible from the 'outside' as it where? Sometimes, life being what it is, you meet somebody, with which the most incredible connection is possible. Ideally life allows that to be in real life, but even if it isn't, cyber with that person can be far more fulfilling than real life with somebody else. Vague lumping and generalisations (not you especially Max) can never cover individual circumstances and situations. Life is not neat and tidy and a sliver of truffle is better than a plateful of spam. Wulfy
My, what sharp teeth I have. | |
| 11 Sep 10, 3:56 PM cuffedboi UK(CF), 4 yrs |
I found it a good way to experience cum control and training...and it got the bug to meet for real...but it built up my confidence | |
| 12 Sep 10, 7:27 PM will_ingtoplease UK(LN), 3 yrs |
for me once you have done the real thing in the presence of a Mistress, Online does not interest me at all . Distance and reality of work do make the sessions rarer than I would like, but nothing compares to being there under the full control of mistress, plus I love bondage , so that is a problem on line .and nowing Mistress IS going to whip your bum WOW, dozens maybe hundreds of more reasons If it is done right online you probally are under control,if not your a fake ,but only guessing the experiences must be limited. And privacy even at home can be tricky , at a specified time, your online session is booked. you can not say there was roadworks or traffic jams ,for being late , Not that I do anyway as always make sure I allow for that when travelling , spent hours waiting close by in my car over the years ,Thinking about you can guess Many must do online and love it , great enjoy, | |
| 12 Sep 10, 8:05 PM LovingDom2 3 yrs |
I've tended to avoid online at all costs, one I don't think I would be very good at it, I'm much better having met someone, and two I don't think I would want to invest so much time and effort and then find once we've met we didn't like each other enough for what ever reason. So I have always been the ...no not for me... keep things simple and straightforward.. But having read your post Wulfy, I can see the benefit, its always about the connection, and maybe you were lucky, and maybe I should tempt my luck a little more often ! lol lol | |
| 13 Sep 10, 4:35 AM MissSuzy UK(SO), 3 yrs |
I have noticed with online / telephone domination and a few other kinks I have been asked about, it is amazing how someones like of it goes as soon as money gets mentiond. Any time I have been asked, I say yes I will do it but they must get me a £5 mobile phone voucher so I can call them anytime - suddenly not interested. The other one I get (and only because of the picture of me in the nylon FF stockings) is about foot worship. Again I say yes (I actually love it and could sit and have it done for hours) but say they will have to supply the nylons or give me £20 to get a new pair. Even giving links to sites to shows that is how much they really cost, suddenly not interested or normal cheap stockings will do. Suzy Smith | |
| 13 Sep 10, 6:35 AM Cassius UK, 3 yrs |
It was fun at the time,here and on another site. But when it was "blind" it was never clear who was on the other end. I did end up wanting to meet a woman who sounded delightful, but she was not interested. Occasionally,when we have a gap, I do this with my sub, and we are both happy with this as a substitute, but the Real Thing is so many times better that anything else is a mere shadow...aftercare is, well, impossible for example! But each to their own. Practise senseless acts of beauty. | |
| 13 Sep 10, 8:28 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
I love when this is asked it is full of people who won't do it. Anyways my first, most intense and most memorable relationship was almost exclusively online, we drifted apart once we met because people can be so much better on the internet, enthusiasm can be easier and you can sit around in your pj's feeling like the sexiest person in the universe. I found it liberating and interesting, conversations based on the mind rather than tits vaginas and cocks. Also, you don't have to fancy someone online, physical anything is unimportant, one thing that is interesting to me is how much that counts in real life. Also if you are busy with work or whatever, or live miles away from anything its easier I am jaded but I have been with so many people I am incompatible with in real life that my nieave youth seems so much more wonderful As twue as words spoken under interrogation. | |
| 13 Sep 10, 9:24 PM transtara UK(OX), 8 yrs |
Pointless, too easy to 'cheat', pretend or just switch the computer off !. 'imo 'Open up your heart to me I would be your slave' Lyric's without the permission of David Robert Jones | |
| 13 Sep 10, 10:53 PM ScarlettDeWinter UK(BS), 3 yrs |
I think if you already know the person in R/L and you're separated for whatever reason, then it could work. But with someone I'd never met? I wouldn't go there. Chemistry is a big deal for me, and so is the physical side of play. I can see it working as a short term fix, but not as a long term solution. well behaved women rarely make history | |
| 14 Sep 10, 9:05 AM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
If you are invested in it then you don't. Also its easy to cheat on or off
As twue as words spoken under interrogation. |
i certainly would never engage otherwise.