Posted by pod333 on Mon 6 Sep 10, 10:57 PM to pod333's blog.
In a moment of boredom I decided to try the OKcupid dating site, not really because I actually want a date, but more because it is a source of much interesting data (often cited by @bohnanza, the unofficial Statistician Royal of IC) and because the inner geek in me wanted to have my own flowchart to the ideal date to see where I have been going wrong all those years.
Yes, I like facts & figures and better still nice graphs, and (sadly) I like XKCD with its geeky joke and insight which might help some folk.
Thus I toiled away for several hours answering the OKcupid questions that, presumably, have been chosen to reveal you goals and interests, strengths and weaknesses, and of course personality & sexuality. And I really mean hours, as they appear to have a grand total in excess of 1100 questions, of which I answered a little over 270 before finally losing the will to live.
But I got my own flow-chart 
It had only a faction of the answered questions (thankfully!) and some appears to have a strange and unfathomable significance. Is it really essential for any date to brush her teeth at least twice a day? Sadly the questions did not seem to cover some fundamental aspects of a relationship, such as "Are you an unbalanced psycho who will seriously piss me off?" That would appear to me to be a natural thing to want to know before you get in to a relationship.
Now after some time, I got an email informing me I had a match - wow! And then I found out something most surprising - in spite of being kinkier than my match, I am "normal" in the kinkiness scale! Now most of my friends think I am somewhat deviant, and as one of the denizens of IC I guess I am in good company when it comes to kinkiness. And yet, on the OKcupid site I am rated as normal, very normal in fact. I have submitted the resulting graphs as my profile picture (pending review, so may not be up at the time of writing this) and it seems I am at exactly 0.0% on the relative scale of kinkiness. How can this be?
I can think of a couple of possibilities. One obvious one is that I am very normal, and thus most folk deep down are actually just like me and like some spanking, bondage, oral sex, etc, but simple hide it from the Vicar. Yes, all of those folk down at the bingo hall are not idly passing life's precious hours thinking about the numbers being called, but really having dark moist thoughts along the lines of '69' being called for real...
The other case is that a lot of folk on dating sites are really much kinkier than average, and so I happen to be mid-way between Joe 'dull' Public and Jane 'throbbing' Pubic. Maybe this applied to all main-stream dating sites, or maybe just OKcupid?
Finally, it could be that folk on dating sites get kinkier as they get older, reaching down for dirtier ways to amuse themselves, and that OKcupid's ratings are relative to the 'normal' case for my age-group. But do people get kinkier with age, opening up to wider possibilities stretching their capacity for fun? Tiring of the daily routine of their youth?
Answers please on the back of a post card from Amsterdam...
Edited Mon 6 Sep 10, 11:00 PM by pod333
| 7 Sep 10, 1:41 AM LittleLadyBecca 4 yrs |
You haven't answered any of the questions that OKC has categorised as 'kinky' yet. Give it time, you will :D B x "This is my word and as such, is beyond contestation" - The Black Pri | |
| 7 Sep 10, 9:01 AM pod333 UK(DD), 6 yrs |
I did make a point of answering more of the sex based questions, as they amuse me, than other lifestyle ones. Maybe they have just hidden them? Maybe the listing of sex-based questions were already filtered by the less-than-average kinkiness of the match?
Time will tell Bollocks spoken like an real expert. | |
| 12 Sep 10, 11:25 AM pod333 UK(DD), 6 yrs |
Time is, indeed, telling. It seems out of the couple of dozen profiles I have looked at on OKcupid, at least 5 are from IC folk I know! I guess that skews 'normality' a bit Bollocks spoken like an real expert. |
