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| Sun 5 Sep 10, 9:51 PM Dollface UK, 6 yrs   |
I'll put my hands up; I'm one of life's flinchers when it comes to playing. I'll stand there and take whatever's thrown at me, but rest assured that I'll be twitching like an abused animal when their new owner reaches to switch the light on or similar. Now. I've never had any complaints, but I was wondering what other people's experiences were, or indeed any dominant/sadistic perspectives on their partners flinching. It does boil down to it being a somewhat negative motion - again, the abused animal thing - but in my personal experience it's quite the opposite in that it usually proceeds something I've been clamouring after all evening. Does it irritate? Arouse? Leave people with a gaping void of indifference? Has anyone been able to surpress the urge? "When you're going through hell, keep going." |
| 5 Sep 10, 10:02 PM Drew_Heller UK(LS), 4 yrs  |
From my perspective it arouses - means you're feeling some fear so it simply means I'm going to have to hurt you that little bit more... |
| 5 Sep 10, 10:05 PM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
I am not sure. I know I am unable to stand still, even when told and have received a few slaps for it in my time. I think this is down to self preservation. Next time I 'play' I will take note, lol
It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it |
| 5 Sep 10, 10:08 PM El_Presidente UK(G), 4 yrs     |
I must say I quite like it. I find it quite interesting (not to mention fun) to play around with the flinching instinct by repeatedly slapping the immobilised flincher until they train themselves (temporarily) not to flinch. Of course you have to throw in a few dummies and a bit of mocking here and there too. Beyond the point of not flinching any more, I find that people tend to reach a state of inner calm and resignation, which is nice.
If you're a really bad flincher, then I guess you'd end up with a pretty sore face! Quit yo' jibber-jabber! Edited 5 Sep 10, 10:11 PM by El_Presidente |
| 5 Sep 10, 10:14 PM sub_chick UK(SN), 3 yrs |
Gosh i think i either flinch or am having to be reminded to "breathe" when waiting for the next slap/spank |
| 5 Sep 10, 10:16 PM Miss_Poppins UK(RG), 2 yrs |
I've never given it much thought, but I do flinch all the time. I'd say that 7 times out of 10 he slaps me when his hand approaches my cheek. 3 times he might caress me or not do anything at all.
Considering the statistics, I'm definitely going to flinch
Hab keine Angst, einen großen Schritt zu machen, wenn dies nötig ist. Ein Abgrund lässt sich nicht mit zwei kleinen Sprüngen überqueren (David Lloyd George). |
| 5 Sep 10, 10:21 PM flamesdesire UK(OX), 4 yrs |
I dont just flinch, I tense up as well. Both of which I have been told off for. But I like a bit of fear to keep me guessing. jxx Keep smiling - it makes people wonder what you've been up to. |
| 5 Sep 10, 10:23 PM caprycorn 8 yrs |
If she flinches when I'm cutting her, it annoys me because I want her to Keep Fucking Still (I get all kinds of arsey if she makes my hand slip). If she flinches when I'm whipping her, or caning her, or slapping her, or doing all kinds of evil things to her, then it means I'm getting it right. It also gives me an excuse to hit her harder / use something worse (along the lines of "I told you not to MOVE") although who needs an excuse really? It just all adds to the mindfuck, knowing she is steeling herself and knowing that she's going to fail... Such fun being a sadist! My imaginary friend thinks that you have a problem |
| 5 Sep 10, 10:26 PM subbietrouble 2 yrs |
Yeah I flinch terribly. It's so embarrassing when you flinch before the impact... and then there's no impact. It reminds me of the saying 'you cry before you're hurt'. I like to think of it as preparedness  As for Himself, I think he quite likes it, it shows that whatever he's doing, it's hurting and it's scaring me. subbie xxx |
| 5 Sep 10, 10:26 PM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs |
I don't think I often flinch when being caned, I just have to get my breathing right. But that's because I know what's coming and can prepare. A slap out of the blue is more likely to make me flinch, unless it's so out of the blue that I don't have time to react.
"I saw that my witticism was unperceived and quietly replaced it in the treasury of my mind." — Flann O'Brien Edited 5 Sep 10, 10:30 PM by fellatrix |
| 5 Sep 10, 10:28 PM Dark_Cherry UK(B), 2 yrs    |
Oh I LOVE it when I have a sub that flinches. Especially when I get them counting their hits. They hear the swish or see whatever's coming towards them and then the inevitable flinch. Better still when you don't actually hit them but can just laugh at their fear when they flinch...delicious. Do the thing you fear the most and the death of fear is certain - Mark Twain |
Sometimes I wish I wouldn't as it gives away how scared I am of being slapped. However it's also a very submissive gesture and it in a way puts me in my place 