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| 13 Sep 10, 2:13 PM ToakReon  UK(RH), 12 yrs   |
OK - an expansion. For "journalist" read "journalist and editor", for "broadcaster" read "broadcaster and program manager/producer". I accept the temptation to be sensationalist isn't JUST in the "front line" but runs deep right through the media. Toak FEMALE, BONDAGE-FRIENDLY MODEL SOUGHT. I am seeking to update my "How To" shibari bondage pictures (see my profile pics, the clothed blonde tied in red and black) with a model more "enthusiastic" about BDSM, and who is happy to be photographed nude. MEMO ME if this is you. Edited 13 Sep 10, 2:14 PM by ToakReon | |||
| 16 Sep 10, 10:02 AM Tim_themerciless UK(N), 2 yrs |
I would NOT start with elaborating on the sexual/kinky parts, the leathers, the handcuffs, the chains etc.. That is exactly what makes us look like freaks to the general public. In stead, I would focus on the relationship part, in a way that in most cases is very easy to understand for vanilla's. Just remember how many women are addicted to Harlequin books that always have a male figure present that is a leader? [/quote] I like your suggestion. And yes you are right it wouldnt usually be best to focus on the fetishistic ojects. That said an article in 'Company' about handcuffs drawing a link to harder BDSM activity - would that necessarily be so hard to imagine or so bad? I wouldnt try it with 'Nuts' or the Daily Star. I would love to see it in 'Family Circle', but am probably being a little too ambitious with that one. I was meaning look for the ways that vanilla sexualities are similar to ours. Was not primarily suggesting drawing attention to the objects themselves - rather the mind states of vanilla people who dabble with them. The devil is often in the detail. I think how you create imaginative identification between 'them' and 'us'is going to be firstly dependant on how well you judge what is most appropriate in a particular situation and secondly on how well you execute that particular line. The precise way yo do that may vary a lot. I think the danger with BDSM campaigning is to represent ourselves as a wholely separate group who must assert their difference from the many. Don't people get irritated by P/R from what they see as minority self- interest groups? I have seen pro- cycling press coverage whose intention was to say that is was good that a new cycle path has been opened. But it came over as - thousands of pounds of tax payers money has been wasted on some eccentric middle class bike nuts in anoraks. They were overly self-obsorbed and did not communicate adequately to others, why non-cyclists should be happy that cycle paths are built. So people should be wary of coming over as a purely self-interest group. Assert the bottom lines - difference and rights, by all means. But also make that link explicit, between vanilla majorities need for imaginative, intense sexual and romantic exploration and ours.
Edited 16 Sep 10, 1:43 PM by Tim_themerciless | |||
| 16 Sep 10, 11:05 AM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
Thank goodness But, that means one of the first things to tackle is that part of the BDSM spectrum that denigrates and disrespects those who have relationships (ie, those that characterise others as Twue): Their play kink is ok, but so is our relationship kink.We are too small a community to raise our media profile, initially at least, as a spectrum of interests - that will dilute the message and provide opportunities for critics. We need to pick on things almost all of us can agree a common position on - we must be "on message" a la Mandelson. Further that also means the pseuds who deserve the epithet Twue/Twoo also need to be tackled. What do i mean by tackled? Nothing that implies any lack of respect for those whose BDSM is an engrossing hobby rather than something relationship based, just that the relationship-based community (many of whom, me included, have chips on their shoulders about the way some others regard the things we take seriously as trivial or unreal) needs to do more to obtain acceptance from others: Real Trueness needs to be absolutely separated from fantasy-based Twooness to begin with. My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | |||
| 23 Sep 10, 10:24 AM Degenerate UK(M), 5 yrs  |
OK here's an example which is on topic for the debate here - as Purvection and I have been saying, it's not whether to work with the media, but WHICH work to accept and how to come across .. quote from the poly forum:
"Waddell media interviewed me (as a polyamorist) for 4Thought on marriage and adultery for a 90 second film after their main news - it's a series which runs every day. Everyone seems pretty pleased with the results, so thanks for all the positive feedback People have various views of media, but this one is hopefully a good example of picking the right work to show that it's not about whether we take media opportunities so much as about knowing which ones to turn down. If it weren't my mush on the screen I'd be running round excitedly today screaming WOW
Waddell media via their assistant producer Laura are as delighted as I am that we're getting really positive feedback. Almost smug.. as everyone else turned down this piece of work and gave her a hard time - when it was obvious to me at first contact this was a film *someone* really should do. In the end it was me :/ De"
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