get my blue face paint, i'm off to pick a fight... (96)

simple issue this time; why is everybody on here so damm accepting of each other?

let me explain, on here people like many diffrent things but few ever seem to say "erm excuse me pal but thats just odd". i'm not point to anybody in particular but i've seen posts on here that are borderline police reportable. people hinting strongly at having "rape-ish" feeling brewing up inside them is well to me a bit scary.

im NOT slating anybodys kink, lifestyle choise, gender or shoe size here but surely sometimes other people on these boards must get the same feeling as i do when i read a post or two and think "i hope i dont me *** in a dark alley one night..."

are we scared are we all groovy flower power kids or is it that british instinct to look the other way and not embarass someone? perhaps people do get slapped down here and i dont see it?

i'm not asking for some kind of immature football forum slagging matches to break out but surely the occasional "thats not on" wouldnt be that bad?

hopes may rise on the Grasmeres but honey pie, you're not safe here

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hopes may rise on the Grasmeres but honey pie, you're not safe here

Generally, YKIOK is the accepted rule of thumb. We're all different, and some are, obviously, downright wrong. But that doesn't give anybody the right to slate anybody else's kinks and desires. Unless it's me, obviously

Now you've mentioned it, what has happened to all the slanging matches??

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Do you know why this is? Because, to quote @xDLPMx and her weblog of the same name, we really are all freaks. The moment somebody decides to climb up onto the moral high ground and starts to tell other people, as you so eloquently put it, "erm excuse me pal but thats just odd", not only do they leave themselves open for the exact same criticism but they piss on the concept of "Your Kink Is OK" from a great height.

And that's a bad thing, in case you haven't noticed. YKIOK is one of the few tenets the majority of people here accept and follow for that first reason above - when you start declaring that other peoples' kinks are "odd" or "weird" or "thats not on", you leave yourself open for the same criticism, and any argument that can be defeated just by turning it on the person presenting it is a fairly poor one.

Now imagine a scene where YKIOK doesn't exist and never existed. You've probably seen that a lot of Goreans get stick for it for one reason or another, as have people who like ultraviolence or fear play - that's what the scene would be like for everybody. Rather than support and advice, a thread like the one on breathplay further down the page would be filled with comments about how the thread starter was taking part in a stupidly dangerous activity and how he/she should stop now before somebody got hurt regardless of how entertaining it is to them and their partners. Is that what you want to see?

Consider this as well. Although as a cross-section of society we're fairly diverse, we're also a minority as well - we're all people into some facet of BDSM and who are out about it. How out each individual is obviously differs from person to person, but at the very least, everybody here is out to themselves, they've accepted they like this. We're a minority; why shouldn't we tolerate each other?

Sure, there are things you'll read and think to yourself "y'know, I don't really like that". I did today, reading this blog post from @IndelibleMarker, well known for being a lover of fear play scenes like that, because the scene described in there goes beyond my limits. But (and here's the important part) if he wants to do that, who the fuck am I to say "no, you can't/shouldn't, that's not right"?

Get back to me when you've got an answer for that question.

Oh, well, that's easy. Tucker's Law: If some cunt can fuck something up, that cunt will pick the worst possible time to fucking fuck it up because that cunt's a cunt. I've got that embroidered on a teatowel at home.

Edited 1 Sep 10, 11:07 PM by Grasshopper

my point was that when someone one states that they feel they have tendancies inside them to harm others and that they are "channeling" them into BDSM i think other people should not be posting "hey thats cool".

i seriously think if you posted on here "i hate red paint" the first post would say "why do you hate blue paint so much?"

hopes may rise on the Grasmeres but honey pie, you're not safe here

You did, but your post was pretty badly written. Clearly. But in reply to your actual point:

1 - I think it's bullshit to start with. The closest I've seen to the stuff you're alleging gets posted here are @AshUK's blog posts and, just for the record, those are works of fiction. They're not real-life occurrences.

2 - Think very hard about the posts in question. Are you quite certain these people aren't simply talking about sadism rather than psychosis? There's a pretty big difference between enjoying hurting others and having some kind of need to hurt others.

3 - And most important, this is the Internet. Approximately 97% of everything said on the Internet is a lie and even if you don't believe that, it is not exactly implausible that there are people who'll lie to make themselves look better/more uber-domly/darker and edgier/whatever they're going for.

Oh, well, that's easy. Tucker's Law: If some cunt can fuck something up, that cunt will pick the worst possible time to fucking fuck it up because that cunt's a cunt. I've got that embroidered on a teatowel at home.

Question to the OP: So whats your definition of Sadism, Im interested to hear your thoughts. I gain pleasure from "hurting" people doesnt mean Im a serial killer or psychopath.

Maybe its just how people write that makes you "think" hold on thats a bit un-nearving.

I would take a stab in the dark that alot dont actually do what they say or write about, its a bit of fun on the web, there are those who do but again play within comfort zones and the evil dom/me/sadist etc.. is a smoke screne to get the other in the mood.

then theres those who are just plain evil and do hurt others but through consential agreement beforehand.

Everytime I play I get hurt "whats not sore about a boot in the balls" I see others sticking needles into places needles shouldnt be stuck (normaly).

Nails being driven into scrotums etc...

Can I ask why does it bother you so much to write about it do you think sites like IC/fetlife etc.. encourage abusive people and BDSM is again a smoke blanket.

I do feel theres alot of misfits, vulnerable, only here cause they dont fit in anywhere else people but im sure if I gathered 150,000 strangers together there would be probably justas many misfits.

I rekon if anyone is harmed those on the receiving end would out the said person publicly and take the ban from the site (I know I would) to make sure others are aware.

Thing is its a website and alot of the stuff thats posted isnt real or doesnt happen and those behind the posts are only having a bit of online fun so I wouldnt worry to much about it.

I think the members police theis site very well to ensure if something feels or sounds a bit strange that the right people i.e. Admin are made aware.

Nothing wrong fantasising about raping someone doing it is where it becomes an issue.

There is nor fear in love;but perfect love casteth out fear

dude you seem pretty pent up here and are also bordering on talking down to me, still you have been posting here for a whole six months so I should bow down to your superior knowledge.

hopes may rise on the Grasmeres but honey pie, you're not safe here

and what's wrong with just letting people be

if you really think it's borderline whatever report it. that's just my opinion though