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| Sat 21 Aug 10, 7:19 PM petrov1955 22 mths |
I have a question regarding how people use the interest tags. As an example, one of my kinks within my Kink is that I like anal sex. In view of that, should I restrict any contacts to female subs that have that on their interest tags?. Just how set in stone are the tags. In peoples experience on this site, do members use the tags fully or do some not list fully for whatever reasons?.
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| 21 Aug 10, 7:34 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs   |
I think that they only give a general idea of what people are into, it's not like a CV or anything
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| 21 Aug 10, 7:42 PM Anansie 3 yrs |
I'd imagine it varies from person to person, depending on what (if anything) they're after. So it could be the maker or breaker for someone, or just a nice ice breaker/conversation starter to further try and understand/figure out if you're on the same wavelength or not. In short: Not very. Probably set in jelly. | ||
| 21 Aug 10, 10:03 PM Avenged UK(NE), 10 yrs |
I wouldn't restrict yourself too much in this way. There are lots of reasons why a girl might not have anal on her profile - only one of them is that she dislikes it. Its possible she hasn't tried it, or is ambivalent, or could get to like it with the right Dom. Having said that, if an interest is really important to you its something you need to ask about very early on. | ||
| 21 Aug 10, 10:15 PM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs |
There are some tags that people may note more than others - poly relationships, for example. Most of them are just interests, but they also might spark interest (or otherwise) in people. If anal sex is a must have, then it's a simple task to emphasise that in one's profile. "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars." - Oscar Wilde | ||
| 21 Aug 10, 10:25 PM Incandescence UK, 3 yrs |
I suppose it depends how high up on your list of requirements a certain activity is and whether it's one you're willing to compromise on if someone who's a good match in every other way comes along. I think the list of requirments is a very rough guide. There may be thigns that people haven't tried and haven't really thought about trying so don't put them on their list. That's not to say that they wouldn't be willing to give them a go and might actually enjoy them.
Striving to better, oft we mar what's well. ~William Shakespeare, King Lear, 1605 Edited 21 Aug 10, 10:26 PM by Incandescence | ||
| 21 Aug 10, 11:46 PM Twistee UK(BA), 3 yrs  |
The interest tags, while fairly wide-ranging, don't cover everything. I know that there's one or two I'd like to add to the list, and they are kinks that I find highly desirable. As others have said, interest tags are more of a rough guide, and can sometimes be misinterpreted. There's no substitute for real converstaion and negotiation, so if you don't see a particular interest on someone's list, but they still seem worth chatting to, go ahead. You never know what delightful little skeletons they might have in their closet. ~Twistee~ Everything is better with a twist | ||
| 22 Aug 10, 1:39 AM WykD_Dave UK(DE), 9 yrs |
In all honesty I wonder how much people really do pay attention to the interest tags? Do people seriously look through them when visiting a profile to see if you both have the same boxes ticked, quite literally in this case? http://rope-topia.com | http://wykd.com | ||
| 22 Aug 10, 8:52 AM Ariane 8 yrs |
I hardly glance at the tags, and couldn't tell you what's on mine right now. Probably minimal, as putting details into that form can be misunderstood or attract someone with a major fetish for soemthing that might be a minimal interest.
Anal sex is a hard limit though.
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| 22 Aug 10, 11:44 PM petrov1955 22 mths |
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