Where's the D/s angle? (77)

You mean that for many on the D/s web-board the obession event horizon has already happened? *Gasp*!

Being dim-witted... asking stupid questions. If anyone's short of a sub for that, I can offer my services.

Grr. Just grrr.

PricklyPear wrote: PapaSmurf wrote: Where's the D/s angle? Seems every time I log in there's a post on some thread where someone's obsessively trying to force the D/s dynamic into every possible aspect of human interaction. It dounds like this board is turning into a really bad parody of an Apple advert. Cooking? There's a sub for that. Cutting your toenails? There's a sub for that. Picking your nose? There's a sub for that. So rather than bore the pants off everyone for the foreseeable future, why don't we collect together one thread to rule them all of ridiculous D/s perspectives on perfectly ordinary activities. Take it away, people. As the saying goes, "if you don't like it, don't read it".

Or in the words of the great man bohanza if you dont like it feel free to fuck off else where....

~* Raku wa ku no tané; ku wa raku no tané. *~

You'd think so!

To the OP, perhaps there is overkill in some of the things that are discussed, but if people want to pull apart the most ordinary and everyday of activities in the context of their D/s leanings so they can better understand them, where is the harm in it? The ordinary, everyday activity is what real relationships are made of, and as the description of this board says it is for 'discussion of relationships (not scenes!) that are based on Dominance/submission or Master/slave dynamics' after all.

Maybe a lot of it is just a case of 'it's whatever you make it/whatever you read into it', but if seeing that made plain helps even one person on here, I'd say it's worthwhile, let alone the possibility that a discussion that is stimulating for all involved.

When a man loves a woman it should be understood,
He would jump into fire if she thought he should.
***Masters Of Reality - Voice And The Vision***

Haven't really had much chance to form preferences - my first D/s relationship barely predates my joining IC. I'm enjoying it immensely, but just because I enjoy it and am interested in it, doesn't mean I have to take it or myself seriously all the time.

Yeah. Thing is, it's accepted as a given in vanilla relationships that complete codependence and 100% overlap of lives isn't particularly healthy. Why should it be any different in a D/s relationship?

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"Cuius testiculos habes, habeas cardia et cerebellum."

Edited 15 Aug 10, 6:08 PM by PapaSmurf

It takes all sorts - thank goodness.

And to use another overused phrase, I also take my Ds enjoyment seriously.

'A woman, without her man, is nothing.
A woman: without her, man is nothing'

It isn't.

'A woman, without her man, is nothing.
A woman: without her, man is nothing'

Because even the more heavy ended power exchange relationships do not actually create a codependance...

~* Raku wa ku no tané; ku wa raku no tané. *~

That's a fairly provocative statement, given that the possiility exists in any relationship including D/s, and that it would be much harder for an outsider to spot than in a vanilla or a less heavy (D/s Lite?) relationship.

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"Cuius testiculos habes, habeas cardia et cerebellum."

As people have already said, just because the relationship incorporates D/s that doesn't change.

There are healthy D/s relationships just as there are unhealthy ones, but I don't think it's the case that 'casual' D/s relationships are healthy, and ones with a deep 24/7 power exchange (or awareness of it on a or day to day basis) are unhealthy.

I'd kinda argue that if people have an awareness of why they do the things that they do, it can actually help to avoid a fully codependent situation from arising. Not to mention aiding communication within the relationship and so on.

When a man loves a woman it should be understood,
He would jump into fire if she thought he should.
***Masters Of Reality - Voice And The Vision***