15 Aug 10, 5:05 PM
Robtex
UK(CR), 5 yrs
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How about wearing a tight or internally spiked cockring? I have to wear a relatively tight ring all the time I'm away from my Mistress for work, etc, so anytime I get hard (or in the rare occasion I'm permitted to masturbate) it's alway's very uncomfortable and a distict reminder of the fact that my Mistress owns and controls that part of my anatomy, not me. |
15 Aug 10, 7:11 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 6 yrs
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tolley wrote:
I can the point of the OP. The person who is doing the penetration (the male in this case) has a certain degree of dominance in the situation, simply because it's his bits going into her.
Does it matter which position you have sex in?
I find whoever is on top, and therefore controlling the ryhthm of sex is naturally dominant in that moment. Doggy style sex allways puts the man in the dominant position in my opinion.
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There are male subs who think that certain positions (and certain things) are dominant.
As a woman I enjoy certain sexual positions more than others and I'm not prepared to forgo my pleasures just because someone else thinks it makes them appear to be dominant.
There are few things more frustrating than a submissive who won't do something simply because he thinks he's being asked/told to do something that he doesn't think is submissive. IF he did as he was told (despite thinking that) he would be submitting his will to that of his dominant, wouldn't he?
Have I got it all wrong? Isn't D/s about submitting both physically and mentally to your dominant, in every way (excepting hard limits), regardless of the submissive's liking/disliking of what they are being asked to perform? |
15 Aug 10, 7:15 PM
Original_Rebel
UK(CT), 10 yrs
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Seems to me that's exactly how D/s is meant to be but we are all different and have different perceptions of how things are.
chartreuse wrote:
Have I got it all wrong? Isn't D/s about submitting both physically and mentally to your dominant, in every way (excepting hard limits), regardless of the submissive's liking/disliking of what they are being asked to perform?
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15 Aug 10, 7:39 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 6 yrs
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Original_Rebel wrote:
Seems to me that's exactly how D/s is meant to be but we are all different and have different perceptions of how things are.
chartreuse wrote:
Have I got it all wrong? Isn't D/s about submitting both physically and mentally to your dominant, in every way (excepting hard limits), regardless of the submissive's liking/disliking of what they are being asked to perform?
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 I know... and that is a very reasonable answer, thank you.
ETA ~ *Bites tongue.*  Edited 15 Aug 10, 7:58 PM by chartreuse
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16 Aug 10, 8:19 AM
SirOpenSource
UK(E), 6 yrs
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I was wondering how long it would be before someone mentioned this effect. It is one of the reasons lubricants are largely water based.
LittleMissEvil wrote:
Sorry to spoil anything but surely putting something in a condom that was not supposed to go there could risk damaging the condom reducing the effect of it. Just something to think about.
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16 Aug 10, 1:16 PM
tolley
UK(M), 3 yrs |
Oh yeah I completely agree with you. It's still you making the rules so you're dominant.
But I was just reffering to the sexual position.
Just the same way as kissing someones feet is a more submissive act than kissing their lips - but if it's being done for you then you're the one making the rules and you're the dominant person.
chartreuse wrote:
tolley wrote:
I can the point of the OP. The person who is doing the penetration (the male in this case) has a certain degree of dominance in the situation, simply because it's his bits going into her.
Does it matter which position you have sex in?
I find whoever is on top, and therefore controlling the ryhthm of sex is naturally dominant in that moment. Doggy style sex allways puts the man in the dominant position in my opinion.
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There are male subs who think that certain positions (and certain things) are dominant.
As a woman I enjoy certain sexual positions more than others and I'm not prepared to forgo my pleasures just because someone else thinks it makes them appear to be dominant.
There are few things more frustrating than a submissive who won't do something simply because he thinks he's being asked/told to do something that he doesn't think is submissive. IF he did as he was told (despite thinking that) he would be submitting his will to that of his dominant, wouldn't he?
Have I got it all wrong? Isn't D/s about submitting both physically and mentally to your dominant, in every way (excepting hard limits), regardless of the submissive's liking/disliking of what they are being asked to perform?
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16 Aug 10, 3:57 PM
mr_Hate
4 yrs
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tolley wrote:
I can the point of the OP. The person who is doing the penetration (the male in this case) has a certain degree of dominance in the situation, simply because it's his bits going into her.
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I don't really agree with this aspect, as it's really just down to what perspective you view it as. Is it really the penis penetrating the sanctity of the orifice, or is it the orifice is surrounding and controlling the penis? Different people can have different points of view - though I do loathe the idea that the sex act really has anything to do with domination and submission (without us adding those layers onto it if we will) - lest we start saying the kissing with tongues also has the same air (who puts whose tongue in the other person's mouth first? etc), and then ride the slippery slopes down to absurdity. |
16 Aug 10, 10:34 PM
locked_balls
UK(B), 3 yrs
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lima_pink_tigress wrote:
Forgive me if I'm being really stupid/naive/unwordly, but wouldn't somethign stingy/burny/painful on the inside of a condom cause most men to go soft?
I'm afraid a limp winkle is of no earthly use to me.
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Well I've had a painful hand job using deep heat as a lube and I stayed hard, pain does that to me, but then excessive pain does make me soft as it goes beyond being sexual. |
16 Aug 10, 11:10 PM
misfit
UK, 3 yrs
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casper_friendly wrote:
Painful condom's?
Just passed my mind, im sure someone's thought of it..
Maybe its 'kinky saturday' for me... As much as i lurve penetration within a play session i always feel that to some extent its not a very submissive act...even if tied up etc...
but can you buy or 'make/invent' condoms that 'burn' on the inside.. That way for the guy/sub he's feeling the pain/discomfort and the lady feels all the pleasure?
Bit of tabasco anyone?
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This is not my idea of serving
I like to give pleasure and I do not think tabasco would aid in this endeavour
I therefore think it is pointless
M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it.
I know I'm being used, that's okay cause I like the abuse.
I can resist everything except temptation.
It's always funny until someone gets hurt and then it's just hilarious.
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16 Aug 10, 11:11 PM
misfit
UK, 3 yrs
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chartreuse wrote:
There are few things more frustrating than a submissive who won't do something simply because he thinks he's being asked/told to do something that he doesn't think is submissive. IF he did as he was told (despite thinking that) he would be submitting his will to that of his dominant, wouldn't he?
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a Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it.
I know I'm being used, that's okay cause I like the abuse.
I can resist everything except temptation.
It's always funny until someone gets hurt and then it's just hilarious.
Cake or Death?
Life can be beautiful - Joe Gillis
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