11 Apr 11, 3:13 PM
scotchmystery
15 mths |
I don't get this people not replying to memo's, I've never had a problem with it, suppose it's down to who you approach and what you write. Self-expression is the dominant necessity of human nature
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11 Apr 11, 6:34 PM
Beau_Tox
UK(CB), 7 yrs
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scotchmystery wrote:
I don't get this people not replying to memo's, I've never had a problem with it, suppose it's down to who you approach and what you write.
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Or what you've said on the boards in the past, and whether the people you memo have seen it. .
Oh you poor little lamby-kin, does the nasty post above upset you..?
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11 Apr 11, 7:46 PM
idonna
UK(SM), 21 mths
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I wish those who write to me or try to chat on here read my profile.
That's the only requirement I have.
Is that too much to ask?
[corrected spelling mistake] Edited 11 Apr 11, 11:16 PM by idonna
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11 Apr 11, 8:09 PM
scotchmystery
15 mths |
Beau_Tox wrote:
scotchmystery wrote:
I don't get this people not replying to memo's, I've never had a problem with it, suppose it's down to who you approach and what you write.
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Or what you've said on the boards in the past, and whether the people you memo have seen it.
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It has helped I won't deny it. Self-expression is the dominant necessity of human nature
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11 Apr 11, 9:27 PM
ClassAct2005
UK(N), 7 yrs
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Depends whast they say. Someone elsewhere wrote me a long but clearly cut and paste not specific to me email a few days ago. I did reply asking what was it in my profile which attracted him. His reply was to cut and paste a chunk from my profile. So I said in reply (still persisting there, giving him a chance) that I thought he just be after a quick fling as not prepared to do much except cut and paste (and he wasn't suitable anyway). Had he sent one sentence specific to me or replied better I might have persisted. |
12 Apr 11, 2:51 AM
Monkey_Wench
UK(B), 20 mths
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ClassAct2005 wrote:
Depends whast they say. Someone elsewhere wrote me a long but clearly cut and paste not specific to me email a few days ago. I did reply asking what was it in my profile which attracted him. His reply was to cut and paste a chunk from my profile. So I said in reply (still persisting there, giving him a chance) that I thought he just be after a quick fling as not prepared to do much except cut and paste (and he wasn't suitable anyway). Had he sent one sentence specific to me or replied better I might have persisted.
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Did he mention your shared interests?
If he did, I had the same one, despite having no interests on my profile. Don't sweat the petty things, and don't pet the sweaty things!
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12 Apr 11, 10:02 AM
Ariane
8 yrs |
I wouldn't discount the theory that many become attention junkies.
But on the bottom line, finding someone you really click with goes far beyond a list of common interests. And people have different goals. Some want a partner, some want a plaything. Long term or short term, all possibilities exist in this alternative world.
Sometimes a relationship works for a while and the person comes back after it's over. Some of us keep in touch with friends.
Long intense relationships do happen, but sometimes it can take a long time to find someone you can have that with, if its what you're looking for in the first place.
Some of us are just too damned picky.  |
18 Apr 11, 3:38 PM
DoraExplorer
UK(CO), 4 yrs
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My ad is always on display, mainly because I cant be bothered to change the settings! However, I did recently add a note to say that I wasn't really looking. I still get the occasional memo though and I do try my best to respond in a pleasant manner. I haven't been on IC nearly as much as I used to, in fact, I have been through a real lull in that department. When I am on here, it is definitely as a social tool, though nowadays, even my social dealings are generally via email rather than memo. I think a lot of ads are there for similar reasons. If I write something vaguely interesting (it sometimes happens), then at least anyone reading it can get a glimpse of the woman behind the myth (lots of cliches here folks!). So there you have it. The reasons why my ad is up there but I'm not really looking.
Not sure if any of that makes sense.................. I dont have a quote so I'll leave this bit blank...........cos I dont want to use up space till I have something really good to put here 
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18 Apr 11, 3:44 PM
davey6666
UK, 4 yrs
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aching_adoration wrote:
genuinely looking?
Since first stumbling across IC several months ago I've been visiting sporadically checking the person ads, looking for someone that might share a similar kink with a view to perhaps forming a relationship.
What gets me is that over several months the women that appear at the top of the "F4m" listings barely ever changes. I read that these same people are tired of constantly having to trawl through hundreds of memos, yet are still actively seeking. That leaves me thinking one of two things:
1) They really haven't been contacted by anyone they feel suitable - I can appreciate some people probably do just bombard everyone with one line memos, but surely the odd one is worth following up on.
2) They (understandably) become addicted to the attention and keep their profiles up as a stream of constant flattery and/or titillation.
I've sent out at most a half dozen memos myself and this honestly isn't some bitter retort at not having had the responses I'd have liked (I've had pleasant responses from most of them, they just haven't lead to anything...). I just can't help but get the impression that some of the women on here have spent months if not years lapping up attention from would be suitors with little or no intention of ever following up with any of them. I know dating can be hard, but when you've had the same profile up for years and even have to state in it that you struggle to reply to everyone that memos you, you have to wonder if it's become more of a hobby piece than a genuine "seeking" advertisement.
I understand, really I do, that meeting the right person can take time, and also that some people on here are quite happy to meet many right people on many occasions and might leave their ad up for that reason. I'd just be interested to hear (in particular from the "F4m" folks) other people's honest opinions on this. Am I just imagining things or are there really a few dozen F4m's that dominate the personal ad listings month on month?
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i have had the same experience. maybe people could use a letter code to indicate their current status. eg. l for looking, a for attached, t for timewaster? i will now get predictable abuse no doubt!!! |
18 Apr 11, 3:50 PM
franci
UK(TW), 24 mths
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aching_adoration wrote:
genuinely looking?
Since first stumbling across IC several months ago I've been visiting sporadically checking the person ads, looking for someone that might share a similar kink with a view to perhaps forming a relationship.
What gets me is that over several months the women that appear at the top of the "F4m" listings barely ever changes. I read that these same people are tired of constantly having to trawl through hundreds of memos, yet are still actively seeking. That leaves me thinking one of two things:
1) They really haven't been contacted by anyone they feel suitable - I can appreciate some people probably do just bombard everyone with one line memos, but surely the odd one is worth following up on.
2) They (understandably) become addicted to the attention and keep their profiles up as a stream of constant flattery and/or titillation.
I've sent out at most a half dozen memos myself and this honestly isn't some bitter retort at not having had the responses I'd have liked (I've had pleasant responses from most of them, they just haven't lead to anything...). I just can't help but get the impression that some of the women on here have spent months if not years lapping up attention from would be suitors with little or no intention of ever following up with any of them. I know dating can be hard, but when you've had the same profile up for years and even have to state in it that you struggle to reply to everyone that memos you, you have to wonder if it's become more of a hobby piece than a genuine "seeking" advertisement.
I understand, really I do, that meeting the right person can take time, and also that some people on here are quite happy to meet many right people on many occasions and might leave their ad up for that reason. I'd just be interested to hear (in particular from the "F4m" folks) other people's honest opinions on this. Am I just imagining things or are there really a few dozen F4m's that dominate the personal ad listings month on month?
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Well I had an add up a while ago and I do now, not for a 'relationship' on a romantic level just looking for an aditional sub.
This time just like last time I get memo's from subs telling me what they 'want' me to do to them or profiles from subs who haven't filled out any details on their profile.
I have replied to all but two and rather than spend months online chat I requested they come and meet me in person at whatever venue I happen to be going to.
They hardly never turn up and then on sunday the very same ones start up with their demanding memo's again.
So to me it seems there's a lot of subs who just want online banter and not to meet in real life for actual interaction? "Lady of the House Speaking."
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