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| relaxed1 |
on Thu 5 Aug 10, 10:24 PM to relaxed1's blog.
I have always know the hazards of online communication. The lack of other information that is available when talking face to face, or even on the phone, makes online communication unsatisfactory, but it serves a purpose.
It occurred to me that where it really fails is when the topic of conversation is the termination of a relationship. It's always mattered to me why, so that I can understand what (if anything) I did wrong, and if it was avoidable, or even if anything is salvageable, in terms perhaps of friendship.
But the problem tends to be that people avoid direct communication when breaking up. Although it's the most obvious thing in the world, that doesn't make it a certainty. And the further away the partners live, the less likely it seems that productive communication will happen.
We often discuss how far you would travel for the right person (or someone who seems to be right), but no consideration ever seems to be given to what if it doesn't work out.
| 5 Aug 10, 11:28 PM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs      |
Been there. I still occasionally beat myself up with "what if I'd been closer?"... If you're speaking from first hand experiences, I feel for you xxx | |
| 6 Aug 10, 8:02 AM bossy_bitch UK, 3 yrs |
If the distance hadn't been an obstacle in developing the relationship, then it wouldn't matter if I felt I needed to end it, I would always do it face to face. It would be cowardly, discourteous and unfair to do otherwise and I would expect the same. "Middle age is when you're old enough to know better but still young enough to do it” | |
| 6 Aug 10, 8:34 PM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs |
Sure, but that is only a one time pulling of the plug. What I'm thinking about is more involved. After all, if a friendship with someone is to develop, it tends to involve meeting for coffee/dinner/drinks, none of which is likely to happen if you are 200 miles away. Forging a friendship from the ashes of a relationship entails almost starting from scratch. "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars." - Oscar Wilde |
