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| little_imp |
Okay, so as an antidote to the 'Kneel Bitch!' thread - if you were writing a 'How-To' guide for Dom(mes), on how to approach a submissive by memo the first time, what would you include?
I would suggest:
A) Do address me by my name - full, not abbreviated. You don't know me well enough to call me anything else, and omitting the first line of a memo which should be 'Dear/ Hi/ Hello/ Hey etc Little Imp' is enough for me to ignore completely.
B) No text speak, or spelling or grammar laziness. That's laziness eg not being arsed to compose or write properly, rather than dyslexia, lack of formal education, etc
C) Do not suggest I owe you anything - it may be polite for me to reply, but it's my choice whether I do so or not, and what I choose to say in it. I certainly don't owe you any respect at this stage, you're just a person on the internet, one of many.
D) Do not push for a reply. Just because I've been online since reading your memo, does not mean replying to it is a priority. I might have logged in to memo other people, post of the boards, or just read. It's up to me when I respond, or not.
E) Do not use swear words or allude to anything sexual or personal in a first memo. Don't say anything you wouldn't say to a person standing next to you at the bus stop.
F) Do refer to something which caught your eye, either in my profile, pictures, or posts. Something fairly innocent. Otherwise I'll think it's a cut and paste job.
G) Do not offer to send me a picture of your cock, or I'll conclude that you *are* one.
Anything else you'd care to add? 
Of course you might have a different viewpoint entirely, and fall head over heels in an instant from a 'get on my cock now (picture attached) u whore' memo!
| 5 Aug 10, 6:17 PM kinky_kitty UK(LE), 5 yrs |
Don't demand to go straight to msn/chat after one or two messages. And don't get pissy when I "politely" decline.
This really cheeses me off. As little_imp said, you are just a person from the internets, and I feel a decent amount of memo-ing should be done first Hurt me. It's ok. I like it. | |
| 5 Aug 10, 8:38 PM tazallie UK, 2 yrs  |
Although I am submissive I am not your submissive and I never will be unless you get to know me first. Read my profile, read my posts and make an effort to understand what I am saying. Take my safety as seriously as I do, I'm not telling you where I live, or give you my number or my msn name or anything else just because you think I should. Tazallie | |
| 8 Aug 10, 10:09 AM Miss_Berry UK(BN), 3 yrs |
Don't think that **you must be a fake, you're way too pretty to be a real person** will make me fall at your feet.. No one likes to feel accused of being a 60 year old man pretending to be a girl, even if it is put in a fairly complimentary way. viva la virgin :p | |
| 8 Aug 10, 6:39 PM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs |
I think I would want to emphasise that I am 'a submissive person' rather than just 'a sub'. I would encourage any potential dominant suitor to engage with the person as a whole before attempting to engage with the 'sub'. "I saw that my witticism was unperceived and quietly replaced it in the treasury of my mind." — Flann O'Brien | |
| 12 Aug 10, 10:40 PM firemynx_B UK(B), 11 yrs |
I would say, act in memo as you would in real life, because that is the only means you have to reach the person. So I echo what little imp has said. - If you know me well by all means call me by my real name, if not, DO NOT address me as subbie, slave, girl, slut, etc etc. - Lazy speak drives me insane - At least make an effort! - Don't demand of me, don't expect anything of me, don't whinge about how bad the last memo/girlfriend/sub/stalkee went. - Respect is earned, not a god given right. I respect a person, not an orientation, the most you are likely to get out of me, is politeness. - As much as your deranged brain might think I want to. I don't want to Domme you, submit to you, or anything else of that orientation. - Don't be over familiar with me, unless you know me well, its likely to have me backing out of the door - BE a human being, I take much better to someone being down to earth and having a sense of humour. * - Accept that I am in a relationship with someone I love very much, you disrespect that, even a little, you will look lovely on my ignore list. * I would recommend all others if I was not in a relationship!
"Dear Santa ........ I can explain!" | |
| 13 Aug 10, 12:03 PM beady UK(BN), 11 yrs |
Aw mynx, you forgot the most important one!
*remembering the happy days of #bdsm-uk on dalnet* "In general, someone is a thing of value if and only if he or she is willing to submit to whatever degradation and abuse is required to preserve that position. Anything less betrays a lack of commitment." -- Steve Albini. | |
| 25 May 11, 2:23 PM magpieuk UK(LA), 5 yrs      |
Think of a memo like a cock - size matters. A nice amount of length with something nice to wrap your lips around....hmmmm...& I'm back. Anyway what I was trying to say was a nice length using a good attempt at spelling, grammar and most definitely using paragraphs. Most importantly give me something interesting to read. If I read another 'Hi lol!' memo I might scream. I recommend: Hi Magpieuk,
Hope to hear from you soon. With regards Mr Evil Dom | |
| 25 May 11, 4:11 PM MissAnnThropist UK(SE), 3 yrs    |
I'm reading this thread and am nodding along to every one of the posts so far - all good points so far, and I've not seen any I disagree with. May I add also : Don't assume that I fancy you and want to get jiggy with you simply because You Dom: me sub (well, switch actually, but shhhh they said I can post here if I keep quiet about my other side). If my ad states I am looking for a female, then unless you identify on a day-to-day basis as a female (rather than as a bloke or occasionally cross dress) I am not interested. Capiche? If there is something in my profile that is a diametrical view to yours - e.g. I am a vegetarian that does not like leather, where as you are a leather lover that is practically a carnivore, it is ok to acknowledge this difference but don't you f***ing dare belittle me for it to seem to be more dommly. This is NOT dommly behaviour and merely adds you to the scrap heap. Oh, if my first additional point isn't clear, me responding to a memo does not imply we are instantly going to get it on: it means I am simply replying to your first memo, maybe because it sounded interesting, or actually I have something to say in response. It is not a green light to assume I'm now your be-atch. that's all from me for now. I want to hold you close / Skin pressed against me tight | |
| 25 May 11, 4:44 PM little_imp UK(BN), 3 yrs |
I have nothing to add to this (all very good points), except - ooh, She Wants Revenge! 
"WHORE!!" | |
| 25 May 11, 5:14 PM Richtea UK(BN), 2 yrs |
Ah, now you see, I'm a bloke, which means I don't often get 'Kneel bitch' memos...and by 'often' I do, of course, mean 'ever'. So, as a submissive bloke on here, the correct way for a domme to approach me by memo is to press 'send'; everything else is negotiable.
"Me and Kevin, we're just not the same" |
