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| 1 Aug 10, 12:44 AM El_Presidente UK(G), 4 yrs      |
As others have said, I think orgasm control taps into a very primal need that everyone can relate to, which makes it easy for me to empathise and appreciate exactly what has been given up by the sub. On a day-to-day basis, I think of it as the 'bread and butter' of a D/s relationship. I'm not generally one for micro-management - I could never be arsed to dictate what someone was going to wear every day, for example - however, orgasms are one thing that I can *always* be arsed to micro-manage. And in any case, I find that all other things submission-related tend to fall into place quite nicely once my hand is firmly in control of the wank valve.
During play itself, of course, orgasm control really comes into its own. I just love getting the sub to the state of absolute desperation and then milking the situation for ages and ages. On top of the pure pleasure that there is to be had by having so much control over someone's world in exchange for so little effort, it's amazing what utterly degrading filth you can get them to agree to when the relief that they need so badly is totally dependent on your whim! Quit yo' jibber-jabber! Edited 1 Aug 10, 12:45 AM by El_Presidente | |
| 1 Aug 10, 12:56 AM londonplaything UK(SW), 5 yrs |
all things cum to those who wait? (i'll bet someone has already said that, but I haven't read it... I trying to race straight to the end) lp ................bitie bitie................... | |
| 1 Aug 10, 4:40 AM maya_lila UK(SE), 5 yrs |
This. I find it humbling and exciting and very submissifying (is that a word?...probably not...)to have it controlled. Utter denial for longer than a day or so, on the other hand, would just drive me mad and make me resentful.
"It is never too late to be what you might have been."
~ George Eliot | |
| 1 Aug 10, 11:06 AM myface_yourseat UK(WF), 11 yrs |
It's a 24/7 reminder that you are controlled and owned by another and especially when wearing a chastity device which you are aware of all the time. You just become so reliant on that other person and willing to do anything to please them and that's not just because you want them to grant you an orgasm. It's like a dog who is trained to obey its owner; it's unconditional love, obedience, faithfulness, adoration, caring, submission and the instinct to look after and protect that are significantly enhanced through orgasm control / denial in my experience. | |
| 1 Aug 10, 12:51 PM Agent_Cooper UK(CF), 4 yrs |
For me orgasm denial and forced orgasm gives me so much pleasure knowing the control I have over the sub and look on their faces. Once experienced orgasm control with a sub that she lost complete control and broke the ties that I had used; this gave me such a sense of achievement. hmmmmmmmmm | |
| 1 Aug 10, 12:51 PM Agent_Cooper UK(CF), 4 yrs |
For me orgasm denial and forced orgasm gives me so much pleasure knowing the control I have over the sub and look on her face and the way her body moves. Once experienced orgasm control with a sub that she lost complete control and broke the ties that I had used; this gave me such a sense of achievement and pleasure. hmmmmmmmmm When I get the sub to sit in the chair, knowing what is going to happen but they don't as we've done this before but not orgasm control. Securing her in the chair, legs spread apart for easy access to her pussy for later. Running my hands over her body coming close to her pussy, but not touching it with her trying to move her body so that my hand will touch her there. This is one of my favourite scenes as it brings pleasure to both parties. Edited 1 Aug 10, 1:05 PM by Agent_Cooper | |
| 1 Aug 10, 5:16 PM Twistee UK(BA), 3 yrs  |
Power. Pure and simple. The build up to orgasm has a unstoppable momentum all of its own, but when you're lost in total abandon, convinced that this time you will be allowed the release you so desperately crave, and you are told to stop. And you stop, instantly. That's power. ~Twistee~ Everything is better with a twist | |
| 4 Aug 10, 10:53 AM pathetic_toad UK, 2 yrs |
when i was owned i was trained to control my orgasms and to abstrain for long periods. several years later, now uncollared i still stick to it and rarely orgasm. i much prefer it. theres less mental 'ups and downs' | |
| 4 Aug 10, 2:08 PM sodsta UK, 5 yrs |
My, aren't we poetic? ;P
Froufrou - kinky hand-made tutus. | |
| 4 Aug 10, 2:13 PM go_dutch UK(AL), 4 yrs  |
i dont know abotu you, bu ti have excellent control over my cock. and as MANY people hae pointed out, you can defintiely control orgasms on women as well Edinburgh Fringe Munch 15/08/10 |
men get so obsessed with controlling it. Like, "you do know, I own that?"