BDSM Collaring for Television (48)

Part of the fun of the programme seems to be the other brides turning their noses up at what has been laid on - from the dress, the venue, the food ....

Daniel from ITV posted all the details about the show with added extras trying to allay fears on production etc but admin have closed the thread and routed it here.

NotTheOne asks that could Daniel have not done some research in the 7 days but you can see clearly that he has by mentioning the concerns that readers on here had.

Daniel phoned me and asked me if I'd like to take part or new of anyone and I explained why he would find it hard and directed him to this website and thread to read all the concerns, hence him posting himself, so yes he is far more aware of the scene he is looking to peruse and very much more aware of all the concerns the people in this scene have.

Sounded a lovely yet slightly naive young man but def not a wind up merchant or fake journo, I enjoyed telling him about that afternoon's spanking! He's also phoned a few of the other pro sub/spankee girls so getting a bit more of a feel for the scene in general and what goes on.

They nay never get a taker for it but I'll be watching avidly if they do!

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Guess i'd not 100% agree with the above...but then, you are absolutely right in that people need to know what they are getting themselves into.

As someone who has made their transition fairly public, i am aware of both the up and downside of press attention. That said, i am in the media eye already: i had several editors asking me to write up my experience for them; and it struck me as daft if i, who write for a living, were to see myself written about ANYWAY - and not get any payment for that.

So i picked a few places where i felt i had enough copy control not to be completely shafted and went with it.

That said, both you and I, purvection, are aware of how the media work and maybe are better placed to watch out for danger signs.

In respect of this programme, i'd definitely say it is not for anyone. You are "outing" yourself irrevocably and if your friends, neighbours, etc. don't know of your lifestyle, its a pretty dramatic way to do so. If you work in any one of a series of public jobs - teacher, nurse, social worker, lawyer, etc. - it is possibly career death, possibly a sackable offence. (It shouldn't be, but the risk is there).

So that narrows the field.

However - and there is a however - i don't think this programme has any intention of stitching up its participants. It has all the bad - and good - features of an episode of Big Brother or Come Dine with Me. If you are the sort of person who hates those shows, this isn't for you.

If, on t'other hand, you could quite happily hack that level of public exposure, then why not. You get an interesting memento of your wedding day, plus a one in four chance of walking off with a £10,000 prize.

Irrespective of that, manage the subsequent publicity, and you could add a couple of thou more.

If you're private, don't wish to be outed, etc., etc., don't touch this with a bargepole. If you frankly couldn't care and have a mildly exhibitionist streak, go for it.

And if my advice persuades you, i'll make my bid for a 10% cut of the winnings now.

Jane xx

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No man is good enough to govern another man without that other's consent. Abraham Lincoln

The big lie that is told more than any other is that if you don't like something, it will be cut out. No it won't. It will become the pivotal point of the story that is told.

A researcher will always try to reassure you that you are in control and that if you don't like what's happening, it won't be used. In reality you will be encouraged to do whatever the director has decided will make a good story, irrespective of how inappropriate that might be.

Your views will not be taken into account during the edit. If they shoot something and like it, it will be used. You will not be given the opportunity to sit in during the edit, nor to veto any scenes. The only way you can prevent them using something you don't like is to not film things that you don't like. Unfortunately people are too willing to please and directors are skilled at taking advantage of people's good nature.

If being interviewed, say what needs to be said and then shut up. It's a favourite trick for the interviewer to say nothing, but gesture that he/she wants to hear more. Some people will then say things that they subsequently regret saying.

“Oh that's an interesting proposition. Please send a copy of your script-plan and prospective rights-sales together with a sample contract to my lawyer. I we do reach agreement; any discussions will be exclusively per contract and be only on the basis of my final script, crew and total edit approval. Any breach of contract by you will be penalized by no less than $1m.”

Simple.

A couple of my colleagues have sold wedding publicity rights on this basis for the benefit of charity. The contract specifies who can be in shot, what dialog can be recorded and reproduced, how much and what parts of their bodies may be filmed and for how long. Good direction scripts do that.

If the production company is not willing to proceed on that kind of professional business basis, they're only worth listening to by those who passively want to allow themselves to manipulated.

R