Yes, Sir! Really? (92)

I've only been around a little while so please forgive me if I step on anyone's toes or offend. It isn't my intention at all, which is only to learn and understand.

I have an issue with the whole "Sir" thing. I personally find that it feels a little contrived (I may be lynched for that), a little over used. I can still feel great respect for someone, in fact I tend to have more respect when I use the person's real name. Is it not showing greater deference if one submits fully whilst still addressing you by your name? I still know absolutely who is in control, it goes much further than a title. I don't have a problem with authority so it doesn't come from that, it feels very odd to me. Perhaps as time goes on it will feel more usual. It reminds me of being at school and addressing my male teachers and there were not a great many that I had much regard for.

I wonder if anyone else feels this way? How was it for subs in the beginning? Or why the use of Sir / Mistress / Master is so important to you from a D or an s position?

I'm not talking about those who expect "Sir" from the first mail or introduction but within a relationship.

Sorry if this is a topic that has been addressed many times before.

*Edited for grammatical errors.