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| Cassius |
on Mon 12 Jul 10, 8:28 PM to the MaleDominantCrowd group.
Although a true gent would never use the word "gentleman",leaving himself to be thus defined by others,it has to be used on occasion in default of any acceptable equivalent. I take great pleasure in according my sub all the usual basic courtesies due to a lady,in public - always walking on the outside,holding open doors and so on - whilst being deeply perverted in private. I would never let anybody insult her or take any kind of liberty with her and Nillafolk would never know of the Ds relationship. Although YKIOK of course,I do cringe within when I see a woman treated in a yobbish fashion in public. What do we think ?
| 17 Jul 10, 2:54 PM NimueBanditQueen UK(MK), 2 yrs |
Your approach is a model that I admire and respect. It actually makes my tender heart smile and flutter when people put stuff like this and it seems like such a no-brainer I was hard put to it to think of an adequate comment for a moment. Possibly the ready approval of and acceptance for black tie requirement for a ManDom party might suggest that this would have a lot of general support among the gentlemen? (And approval from the ladies?) However, then the evil reality cuts in and points out that that would require the matching equivalence on my part and for me personally there I find a deep disquiet. The gentlemanly side of this behaviour expresses concern, consideration, taking care of something precious - all positive traits. The feminine side requires... 1) someone feminine... I like to try but what happens when my big feet trip over each other and I go arse over tit? To have someone pick me up with gentle expressions of tender concern would feel belittling - that I'd horrendously failed in a completely miserable and humiliating way. I'd rather have some equal idiot laughing in cameraderie at my idiocy while pulling me up none-too gracefully, and patting me down, still laughing. Unless I'd really hurt myself in which case I'll go for option 1. (Don't bother accusing me of a foolish consistency!) Not sure I am expressing myself well...just that what you suggest is so beautiful as to form a wonderful fantasy for me (and a wonderful reality for taz) but would be too much pressure for me to live up to on a daily basis and would result in a deep fear of constant inadequacy. So, there is the other model which works for me, and that is a happy 'lack of concern' as to traditional proprieties between two comfortable equals in public. I can open doors for him, he can open doors for me. I can deliberately bump into him, giggling, while walking, if I feel like it, or be sassy or even slightly crude without letting the side down. I can pay if I have more money, or just happen to have the cash on me... in a pub or restaurant I can smooch up to him and pass the money to him in a hidden exchange if he has forgotten to go to the cash-point. But I wouldn't like to forgo the elegance altogether...I happen to like pretty dresses and pretty compliments... Perhaps my mother had the best advice - she always said I could be a woman up until 6pm, but I should be a lady thereafter. Bastardly behaviour in public? If no-one is around, fine, but that is a big risk to take... with potential for bringing WIITWD into disrepute. Worse: nothing that could be mistaken for any form of real domestic abuse should EVER be taken in public. So, can I propose two models? Traditional roles or equality outdoors (or both). Grr. Just grrr. Edited 17 Jul 10, 2:56 PM by NimueBanditQueen | ||
| 25 Oct 10, 9:46 AM Cassius UK, 3 yrs |
I do not maintain that I am Captain Exquisite on every possible occasion! There have been times of deliciously edgy outdoor pleasures of risk. In company of her friends,who are to me acquaintances as yet,who might know nothing of our relationship beyond "partners",the Gent Factor applies. It is part of our agreed position,that I do nothing that might prejudice family,job,income,her standing in her community and vanilla relationships with others.Indeed,we have a saying,"Your place,your rules". In no way does this at all undermine Ds Mf Sm in any way whatsoever - indeed,the respect reinforces and complements it. And the greater by far is the contrast when we scene in so many ways - which can be by the day,the hour,the minute - at home,in a club,anywhere where we can have "Martini Moments"..... Practise senseless acts of beauty. | ||
| 25 Oct 10, 9:59 AM TheSilverFox  UK(GU), 2 yrs    |
I think this is about the principles and values that we all hold. I completely subscribe to the gentleman Dom idea. To me it is my role to look after and protect. That doesn't mean without humour and lightness. It means creating that aura of safety and protection around someone. It should be relaxed and easy without creating pressure. It is also about her knowing that given the time and place.... It is all going to change with a look! To me it is all summarized in my little quote below... "The art of being a Gentleman is knowing when not to be" Quote:TheSilverFox - Circa 1986 | ||
| 25 Oct 10, 10:12 AM TheFalconer UK(S), 6 yrs |
As Jerry Hall famously said, her mother advised her that to keep a man "she must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom."
In general I aspire to gentlemanly behaviour. However, how I treat my wife will depend on which role she is fulfilling at that point in time... "Morality, like art, means drawing a line someplace." - Oscar Wilde | ||
| 18 Dec 11, 10:21 PM The_Scorpion UK(TA), 5 mths |
A lot may be beheld of the manner in which an idividual has been brought up by their demenour and way they conduct themselves. Sadly these days, there appears to be less and less evidence of courtesy, respect and manners, indeed they are often perceived as weaknesses! In my working environment manners and common courtesies are an everyday event so it is easy to keep them whilst 'off duty' Over the years I have met many who consider themselves dominants and clearly adopt the stance manners and courtesies are for wimps and wusses. It all appears put on to me. I have held a position of authority and had it within my remit to make decisions which might break many, I have undertaken my tasks in a controlled and orderly manner, no need for expletives, bad manners etc to get my point accross! I have found from experience, even a whisper can instill fear, foreboding etc. | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 8:54 PM Winston_Smith 5 yrs |
I wear tweed whenever possible. I believe that is enough to establish my bona fides vis-a-vis how I treat women. Cunt busting is the new black. | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 9:47 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
This thread just seems so wrong guys. To me, this isn't the sort of thing anyone should talk about. Feels really strange to see it spoken of. It should be something measured and appreciated in others but not mentioned in connection with ourselves. My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) Edited 19 Dec 11, 9:49 PM by Belasarius | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 9:59 PM NimueBanditQueen UK(MK), 2 yrs |
I must admit I liked that it was raised. If all these things go unspoken, eventually they might die out, that would be sad. Besides on a BDSM website it hardly goes 'without saying' does it? Not to be critical but is a mildly amusing to see 'this isn't the sort of thing anyone should talk about' on here - of all places. (PS I can't believe I said a-over-t on here, even if it was long, long ago... she said demurely) | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 9:59 PM NimueBanditQueen UK(MK), 2 yrs |
A jolly good thrashing when they misbehave, eh? | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 11:20 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs |
Oh. These things must not die out. I quite agree.
My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) |
