Posted by Skyhook
on Sat 10 Jul 10, 2:03 AM to Skyhook's blog.
I'm not by nature a prejudiced man. In fact I even work in the same office as a ginger person without feeling ashamed. But I do have a certain blindspot, and I think it's quite a common one, reading around on here.
It is this: I can't help but giggle slightly and look down at any man who calls himself - especially in his profile name - 'Sir' or 'Master'. Why is this? I know I'm not alone, I've seen enough blatantly posted sniggers and even aggression aimed at those who use the appellation. I've been there myself, questioning if the Master in question has certificates to prove his Masterhoodness. Framed in leather obviously, and possibly with a goatee and little white trainers.
Yet I delight in those rare occasions when Mrs Skyhook calls me Sir. Sometimes she's not even doing it sarcastically. Because it means something, because I've earnt it.
I've even in the past insisted a girl started and ended every sentence she wrote to me with 'Sir'. Though quite frankly it made her correspondences a bugger to read after a while.
In contrast however, while the 'net Sirs and Masters are figures of fun it seems perfectly acceptable for a woman to call herself Mistress or Lady – we all happily accept this and show respect. Why?
Is it because culture dictates that it's fine to pop the bubble of male pomposity, that males use piss-taking as their main form of communication? Because female subs have their heads screwed on right?
Yet women seem to be given respect as the norm on IC (apart from you bang on trend Ultraviolence types [including the women] obviously), so Mistress or Lady is accepted without comment; even embraced by male subs in a way female subs don't with Doms who proclaim themselves Sir or Master. And the poor ol' male subby doesn't get any respect from anyone. Usually. And probably rightly so.
Of course, 'Mistress' in the seventeenth century was a term of respect for any woman over a certain age or married – it's now more commonly known in its shortened form of Mrs.
Masters were, and always will be, juvenile males.
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“Wanker!”
Yes, I know. I am, and I do. Your point is?
It's a common insult, 'wanky dom'. We can all picture the type. Think of those occasional 'hottest on IC' threads though. It's ok for the girls to say “fapp fapp!” or say they creamed their undercrackers, but if a bloke says he wanked over a pic on here he'd be leathered. Because it's a bit ukky.
Is that double standards? Or just that the image of a man spaffing his man-juice is a lot more distasteful than the image of a Lady (see, even I'm doing it now) fingering her fragrant secret garden?
Perhaps it's because cocks are intrinsically funnier than cunts? Especially when they spaff - though I wasn't laughing at age 12 wiping my spunky goodness out of the nooks and crannies of the graphic equaliser on the cheapo Amstrad stereo that lived on my desk next to my tellie after an aiming malfunction while watching the repeat of the 'Hellfire Club' episode of The Avengers. I've never been able to look (Sir!) Alan Sugar in the eye since.
Um, too much information, right?
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There, I've used both 'C' words, cock and cunt. Both colloquial terms for genitalia, yet cock is almost innocent now, it can even be used on prime time Sunday night tellie while cunt is seen as offensive and one of the worst, most insulting er… insults you can throw. That seems bizarre to me, and rather unfair.
Why is the word cunt seen as such an insult? I've spent some wonderful times in and around cunts. I've dedicated no small part of my life in the pursuit of cunts. I like 'em.
And to be fair, I've spent a lot of lonely nights with my cock too. Though thankfully at the age of 13 I discovered the benefits of Kleenex.
| 10 Jul 10, 2:23 AM NotTheOne UK(TA), 2 yrs |
I agree with everything regarding double standards except for.....
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| 10 Jul 10, 2:35 AM Skyhook 7 yrs |
Fair point well made. I'd ignored that for the sake of a hopefully funny line. "Me? I'm all about the hugs. | |||
| 10 Jul 10, 2:40 AM NotTheOne UK(TA), 2 yrs |
Personally, I abhor the word. As a result of a Pratchett overdose some years ago I can only hear it with a lithp and visualise scars that were not of my creation  I stared into the abyss, the abyss stared into me. It blinked first. | |||
| 10 Jul 10, 5:21 AM MistressBloke 5 yrs |
Created a Domming For Dummies blog post kind of inspired by this. "I am not an atomic playboy" - Vice Admiral W.H.R. Blandy Commander of the Bikini Test | |||
| 10 Jul 10, 7:03 AM Diablos_patience UK, 6 yrs |
thats not a paragraph in length now is it... dont make me have to tell you again, from now on i expect to see succint young man!! ~* Raku wa ku no tané; ku wa raku no tané. *~ Edited 10 Jul 10, 7:04 AM by Diablos_patience | |||
| 10 Jul 10, 10:18 AM beestinglips 4 yrs |
How come there are Goddesses but no Gods? I wanna be adored... | |||
| 10 Jul 10, 11:01 AM NimueBanditQueen UK(MK), 2 yrs  |
Not just time-served. You couldn't just serve your time and then get to be a Master. You had to prove your skills and worthiness for the title in front of the other extant Masters, either with a display of physical prowess or a master-piece e.g. display your range and finesse at sword skills to be a Master Swordsman (and then open your school teaching such) or produce your master-piece to be a Master Carpenter etc. We should go back to those methods. These days there are too many time-served Master 'cowboys'. Masters were, as Alpha Males in wolf packs are ... acknowledged as such by their peers. - My pet snigger and roll-my-eyes is 'Alpha-males' and 'Alpha-females'. I'm a Beta-female and proud of it...
Looking for – a wolf in sheep's clothing! - Found! Edited 10 Jul 10, 11:02 AM by NimueBanditQueen | |||
| 10 Jul 10, 12:01 PM The_TOGmeister UK(BA), 4 yrs  |
And to be a Master sword you had to offer your master pieces for inspection, usuall up to a dozen different swords made to the order of the Guilds ruling council. To become a Sword Master you also had to fight a duel at full fighting speed but the winner is the one who doesn't draw blood. "For the sword is a living thing that craves blood and ye must prove that YE control the sword", Otherwise you're "just" a journeyman swordsmith.
Don't look at me for the answer, I'm too busy thinking up the questions. I used to be a Socialist, then I grew up and became a cynic | |||
| 10 Jul 10, 1:00 PM Cal451 UK(NN), 3 yrs |
This is generally a good blog with some excellent points but can you please explain this comment.
And to why you think that it's probably right that Male subs shouldn't get any respect?
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| 10 Jul 10, 1:22 PM The_TOGmeister UK(BA), 4 yrs |
Well as a general rule, Respect is not a right but something to be earned. I know quite a lot of subs who I really respect. this is not based on gender or their choice to sub or not. It based on the fact of WHO they are. That's the whole meaning of the word, respect is something you give to people you admire for whatever reason. It is not something that comes automatically with personal choice or work position.
Don't look at me for the answer, I'm too busy thinking up the questions. I used to be a Socialist, then I grew up and became a cynic |
