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Ok I stumbled across this story and not sure what I think really.
A grieving mother has had the ashes of her son made into tattoo ink and her husband has used it to create a tattoo on her body.
Is it macabre to want the ashes of your loved ones made into something to carry with you?
When my partner died a few people told me I could have her ashes made into a diamond and wear it as jewellery, the very idea of such a thing left me cold.
To have their remains made into ink and use that to tattoo your body just doesn't seem right somehow. Each to their own of course, we all have our own ways of dealing with death.
But I wonder what next, have the body preserved and posed sitting in their favourite chair. Or stood in the corner waving their favourite flogger in the air as though about to whack someone with it perhaps.
| 23 Jun 10, 11:47 AM Mrs_Bastard UK(LN), 2 yrs  |
My mothers friend lost her husband a few years ago. When she got the ashes home, she would make a cup of tea and add just a little to the brew. When my mum asked what the hell you doing Liz, she said, "I want Him inside me, I want to know He is with me." She did this every day until she died herself. It gave her comfort, Im not sure I agree with her methods, but hey I guess we all see things differently. hugs kay xx
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| 23 Jun 10, 11:53 AM Cake_x 2 yrs |
I think both of the above are extremely touching examples of how some people deal with loss and grief x Anyone for Cake? | |
| 23 Jun 10, 11:55 AM Neophites_jewel AU, 4 yrs |
Mmm, it's not something i'd do, but i could certainly see why someone would want to. i'm not terribly sentimental about human remains, though. i'd quite happily donate my body to science unless one of my family members wanted to turn me into something pretty after i croak.  "Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power." - Abraham Lincoln | |
| 23 Jun 10, 11:55 AM Relaxed_and_Chaotic UK(SE), 3 yrs |
Having followed the link, i actually have to say that i think it seems perfect for her. This is a lady who obviously loves her ink; it is a part of her and who she is, just as her son was. People have different ways of dealing with the death of someone precious, not sure if it would work for me.....but lovely for her. However, oddly, the diamond thing leaves me cold too... "There is no such thing as liberty. You only change one sort of domination for another. All we can do is to choose our master." D. H. Lawrence | |
| 23 Jun 10, 11:58 AM DanesWood UK(OL), 4 yrs |
I think it might be because diamonds are cold and hard, the opposite to the person we loved.
"The most powerful sexual organ in the body is our brain, open your mind and allow your fantasies free reign. Mutual pleasure between consenting adults is a wonderful thing." | |
| 23 Jun 10, 12:33 PM morphia UK(W), 10 yrs |
Personally i think the tattoo idea is wonderful. I have a tiny amount of my friends ashes which i carry in an antique perfume bottle on a necklace as it just feels right to me. Yeah i've had some odd looks and comments when i've told people, and i'm sure after all these years, all of the actual ashes have washed away, but i know he's there and thats what counts. I think we all remember our loved ones in different ways and if it works for you then go for it.
Abstinence doesn't equal safe play.... knowledge does. Edited 23 Jun 10, 12:39 PM by morphia | |
| 23 Jun 10, 12:40 PM SpartanReserve UK(SN), 24 mths |
Memories are light to carry often and sometimes very heavy, but if we live on after, the memory of others will be the blood and air that makes it so. My body when my mind departs it can be used for anything and got rid of in any way as far as im concerned, they can hang it the garden for the birds to peck at, of give it to science, its just my shell. | |
| 23 Jun 10, 3:35 PM misstressclare UK(TA), 4 yrs £ |
When my partner died, and they gave me that bloody box it sat for ages on the side board I even polished the bloody thing, In fact I had no idea what I was going to do with it. The worst bit was my x had keept the ashes of his dog so there they both were in sodding boxes dust to dust colecting dust for me to polish. I was going to do that thing when u sprinkle at the sea , or at a fav place. Then one sunday I just got up looked at it and said your home so why not stay, took into garden sprinkled, now I have to say more by mistake the ashes went all over me then the garden, I am not the best at judgeing wind direction. AS for the dogs box well I sent it down the pet sanctuary who let me burry it in the garden.
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