Subs owning toys (51)

Recently, I was in a couple of situations where others were surprised that I didn't have any. So, I started to think about it.

When I first started out it never occurred to me, really. I played with others, who had their own equipment, and that was fine. Then I was in a relationship, where the other person controlled the toys. I bought some, on their instructions, but in both our minds, from the moment of purchase, the equipment belonged to THEM, and I only touched/handled on specific instruction to do so. When I left that relationship I left plenty of stuff behind, including the actual STUFF I had bought. But perhaps I didn't fully leave behind the idea that the toy belongs to the other person, and I am not allowed to touch.

Now, I've been single for quite a while, with a few opportunities for play cropping up recently. And it would have been handy to either have a few things in my house, or to bring to clubs. But I must confess to having discovered a snobbery in myself as I think about it. I associate a sub bringing their own toys to a club with a very particular kind of male 'do me' sub. 'Hit me with this, because this is the type of paddle I like to be hit with' just always seemed to me to be not very subbie. But now I'm thinking on the other hand, it might just be bloody convenient, because you can't expect the other person to always have something to hand.

Added to this, is the fact that the kiddo isn't as young as they used to be, and just won't buy the line that the rolling pin, box of clothes pegs, kitchen knives and wooden spoons ended up in my bedroom for a 'photography project'. Which is such a shame, because I always thought raiding the kitchen for toys was in and of itself rather fun.

So, as I sit here on a lazy Sunday afternoon, I've been compiling a list of toys I'd like to own. Rope, of course. Lots and lots and lots of rope. In different varieties. And lengths. And thicknesses. Candles, wax etc. Check. Lots in the house, but always room for more. A beautiful knife, just for the toy box. A proper paddle. A good hard wide one thats very very thuddy.

That would do for starters, I suppose.

But I'd love to hear, what toys do other subs own? do dom/mes expect subs to have their own equipment?

I'll only use my own clover clamps as they vary hugely and I know I can handle mine. Apart from that it's been a case of whatever looks interesting or from my collection or my play partners own.

“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot.” Anais Nin

Although im in a relationship I play with others and almost always end up bleeding. A simple wipe with an antiseptic wipe just doesnt clean blood from canes etc..

I clean my toys twice after play.

I carry my toy roll with me at all times when I travel to events and clubs theres a pic on my profile of it. I also have a huge holdall on wheels full of equipment.

If something is broken then I dont feel bad afterwards and I enjoy the thrill of handing over the implements that will bring me so much pain & pleasure.

Not knowing what they will use, how it will be used adds to the fear.

I also make my own toys too

edited to add: while I understand your perception of the do-me-sub I am out to get sexual pleasure and satisfy my disgusting lust for pain so letting people know im up for it IMO isnt a bad thing and makes you no less submissive it makes you SMART

theres no guarantee that someone will play with me but if the chance comes my way then having a selection of toys that THEY choose to use is handy more than anything.

Most Dom/mes eyes light up when they unravel my roll and unzip my holdall their like kids in a candy shop.

I also dont just carry toys I enjoy I hate anal its humiliating threatens my manlyness yet I own 2 strapons and they have both been used.

Making a judgement based on someone owning and carrying their own toys to a club is something I hope youll possibly change your mind about in the future.

My toys are also if asked nicely available for others to use, touch, ask questions about. Not everybody is fortunate to own Violet wands etc so giving someone the opportunity to experience various toys is very rewarding for me.

It also helps me meet people, become sociable and even make freinds.

In all the clubs/events ive been to "ive" never lost a toy or had anything go missing (touch wood) Lima on the other hand looses things all the time lol her memory isnt what it used to be

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Edited 20 Jun 10, 3:54 PM by OllieVW

God's gift - but don't expect it instantly.

dont have toys to hurt me though. ie dont have my own crop.

I like to take my own gear to play with others, i know who it has been used on and that it is clean, as i always clean my stuff regularly, not only that but i like the stuff i've got very much, it travels with me alot...lol.

I'm not adverse to using other peoples things, but hoods, gags etc i would prefer my own, in fact, i think i'd prefer my own stuff whatever....hmmm fussy perhaps!

Also i do indulge in self bondage, so i need my own equipment for that, which is why i have steadily built up a vast collection over the years.

minxi pup x

Apart from the fact that they are taylor made to my likings, owning my own toys also prevents using them on others, which I find sensible, regarding to hygiene and such.

I have very little hitty stuff, because that's not my thing, really, but lots and lots of other things. In my last long-term relationship I bought a really nice set of collar and cuffs and they carry no sentimental value - I chose them, I paid for them - so they could quite easily get used again. (Edited to add: just remembered, they already have been!)

It makes sense, to me, for a single sub to have the very intimate stuff, if they're going to play with people they're not in a full-time relationship with, which is where I started out at. I don't want a dom bringing along a butt plug, I'll use my own, tyvm.

And, you know, much of it has never been used. I'm more than happy to use partners' kit. But I'm more than happy to use my own too, and as I (shock horror) have been known to play with doms who are just starting out, it comes in very handy sometimes! Plus, it was fun recently to allow a dom the experience of using pallet wrap for the first time (doesn't everyone have a couple of rolls stashed under the bed?) - and in return I ended up buying a TENS machine the same as the one he used on me. I'm really not precious about what belongs to whom.

I wouldn't be without my toykit, frankly.

Edited 20 Jun 10, 4:00 PM by littlenic

I have built up my collection, through wanting to try everything and now I'm playing with the idea of Domming, so having all of them, will be of great use in the future, rofl.

Edited to say: If I hadn't of bought the toys, then I dont think I would have had the chance to experience them also.

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, any one can start now and make a brand new ending. ~ Marcus Aurelius

Edited 20 Jun 10, 4:17 PM by Blonde_Warrior

Interestingly one sub I was with for a while had heaps of stuff and looking back now I realise he was a do me sub so it figures. Which is also why the whole thing didn't work out.

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