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| 20 Jun 10, 8:56 AM sir_63 UK(OX), 2 yrs  |
Add the psychological side to it that was quoted by a number of cobtributors here (the idea of serving, the idea of loosing control, the pride of having withstood when it's over) and you know the theory of the story. Whether it's for you only practical experience can tell. I for one do actually like administering pain, as long as I know sub likes and enjoys it. Every now and then I do switch and take some pain, so to get an idea what I do to my sub. Hope that helps Sir | ||
| 20 Jun 10, 9:22 AM Twistee UK(BA), 3 yrs   |
That's where things get really interesting for me during pain play. Being at the edge of what I can take, but not quite going over it. At that intensity, it's actually more about submission, because it is pain, and it is unpleasant. But to be taken there, and kept teetering on the edge, not quite knowing whether I'll reach that tipping point, or when it's going to stop ... that's what it's all about. Submission, and giving pleasure to a sadistic Top.
Of course, knowing that I'll get a huge endorphin rush when it's over kind of helps too ~Twistee~ Everything is better with a twist | ||
| 24 Jun 10, 3:44 PM Kitana  UK(LE), 10 yrs |
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| 24 Jun 10, 4:02 PM misfit UK, 3 yrs |
M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it. | ||
| 25 Jun 10, 9:55 PM SnowdropExplodes UK(TN), 7 yrs |
Speaking in masochist mode, what I get out of even quite heavy pain is that the sensation is physically pleasurable! Although that needs qualification: Generally it needs to be in a positive context, and not all types of pain are pleasurable. I particularly like hitty things, scratching things, electricity things and hot things. I really don't enjoy pointy things, cutting things or pinchy things. But basically, my brain circuitry processes the pain both as "Pain! A warning!" and "MMMMM, that feels GOOOOOOD!" As long as the context is such where I can safely ignore the warning, then I get to enjoy the "feels GOOD!" but if I need to heed the warning, I don't feel the pleasure because removing the present danger overrides everything else. | ||
| 25 Jun 10, 11:36 PM smoofing UK(SW), 2 yrs |
i don't know much about caning. but both these comments apply perfectly to my experience as a very willing spankee. some of those photos with the many red welts scare me, but i guess the photo doesn't show the build up, the route they took to that 'extreme' result. i have had spanking experiences where the spanker has just whaled in from dot one, and that brings instant fight or flight reaction,which is no fun, rather than the gradual build up to your limit which is so very delishious and sexy.
ps. i'm liking the sound of Twilting , sounds like a purfect intro to cane play | ||
| 26 Jun 10, 12:37 AM pinkylucy UK(M), 9 yrs     |
As others have said, caning doesn't have to hurt - but there are many reasons why a bottom or submissive might be happy that it does. I came to my previous Mistress with a terror of the cane. She loved the cane. Obviously this would never do! She gradually trained me out of the terror by introducing and using the cane in numerous ways which did not hurt, but did add something to our play. So I learned that a cane can be present without feeling great pain. Gradually the use of the cane increased and extended into painful use. By this time my terror had abated and I regained a healthy fear of the cane within a D/s structure. It eventually became instated as an implement which was primarily associated with fear and pain in the context of punishment. In direct reference to the OP - why would I want that? For me, accepting unwanted pain as punishment reinforced the D/s dynamic which our relationship was structured on and as such it held a very important place in my heart despite the fact I bloody hated the things! Erotic caning is certainly one way to ensure that your body still lusts after canes whilst simultaneously not liking the pain they can inflict! For me lust and fear is about the most powerful combination going.
So whilst the cane often hurt, it helped to maintain the chosen structure of our relationship, helped me to remember my rules, turned me on immensely (much to my own annoyance and embarrassment at times Hmmm, have I just actually written a paragraph in praise of canes? I think I'd better lie down, I must be ill...... "Don't Dream It - Be It" - The Rocky Horror Show 1973 | ||
| 26 Jun 10, 5:14 PM Degenerate UK(M), 5 yrs  |
Yeah poupee. Some people just don't use it in nice ways, for a variety of reasons.
Nice post skadii, I agree
I'm not even going to start typing anything else, as I could probably fill the thread with cane stuff all on my own. De
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