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| 19 Jun 10, 11:54 AM anncat UK(ST), 7 yrs   |
They always 'get away' in the end - no matter how much i hang on kicking and screaming... slippery fuckers!! | ||
| 19 Jun 10, 12:00 PM subbietrouble 2 yrs |
This is my thinking. When I was 16, I was convinced I was madly in love with a male friend of mine. I literally forced myself into his life and stuck to him like glue, poured my heart out to him about loving him, blew hot and cold - it was very melodramatic. Years later, when I met my first proper boyfriend I had the sudden moment of clarity that I'd never actually fancied this friend - I just didn't feel *that way* about him. And a few years after that, I met a woman that I felt the exact same way about. Turns out, I just really love my friends, I suppose in a very naive, platonic way. I look at him now, the way he is in relationships and the way he treats women and I'm sooooo glad it never got taken any further. A few years ago I actually thanked him for not fancying me but he got all huffy. I think he quite liked the idea of someone being in eternal, undying, unrequited love with him and that's why he kept me hanging around. The thought of us ever being together physically makes me blush to the tips of my ears. There but for the grace of God... subbie xxx | ||
| 19 Jun 10, 12:23 PM candlefire 2 yrs |
I think it is maybe natural to sometimes think of that One, when we have just come out of a relationship, or when the relationship we are in is not what we hoped it would be, or when we are longing to not be single. In terms of that One who would alway be there ... no. | ||
| 19 Jun 10, 12:46 PM mis_chief UK(N), 3 yrs |
It's that one for me. One I can't find closure over, it feels like he got away. Or like it was the wrong time/place for us. That is the worst. I think it's not having closure what makes you feel like that. Just my two pennies worth...
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| 19 Jun 10, 1:08 PM kaoskitten 7 yrs |
All relationships end at some point because you can't have a beginning without an end. I guess I am lucky because TOTGA I ended up meeting again 4 years later and now he is the One That I Got  bop it Bind me, gag me, beat me and make me yours - kk (I have - bop_it | ||
| 19 Jun 10, 1:10 PM Dark_Cherry UK(B), 2 yrs     |
Nail on the head, and well worth 2 pennies Do the thing you fear the most and the death of fear is certain - Mark Twain | ||
| 19 Jun 10, 1:10 PM supplex UK(N), 2 yrs |
When a relationship ends, I always try to talk things through and, if possible, stay friends. This helps avoid long term regret and wistfulness as I think its often the person you regret losing, not necessarily the "relationship" (if you see what I mean). My last partner ended our relationship suddenly, unexpectedly and refused to explain or have any further contact. That was a right royal headf*ck, I can tell you! I still don't know why, but I've rationalised it to myself now,filed it away under "her problem" and moved on. (Sorry if I veered slightly off topic there..) Edited 19 Jun 10, 1:12 PM by supplex | ||
| 19 Jun 10, 2:41 PM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs     |
I fully understand that. I have a friendship with my ex-Domly one. We were friends before and there is no reason we cannot remain friends now. My one that got away died at the age of 38. Very hard to get closure on that. It was a VERY long time ago but I still do a lot of "what if"s over him.
“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot.” Anais Nin | ||
| 19 Jun 10, 11:53 PM Rhubarb_Crumble 2 yrs |
I have breathed in a huge sigh and thought about the one that got away. He was a beautiful boy, curly blonde hair, blue eyes and wore the cutest red kickers. That was in the late 70s, he was 24 and I was 19. We had a fleeting thing going on. Each time he was in Glasgow we met up and I met with him a few times in Edinburgh. There was always something that kept us from officially going out with each other. I don't know, but when we saw each other we just kind of went for it!!!!! I have often wondered what has become of him. I do know that he got married but know little more than that. He was an archiologist and I just had the hots for him big time.
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| 19 Jun 10, 11:56 PM Rhubarb_Crumble 2 yrs |
I remember him looking down at me saying: "slow down, take your time, let all good things come when they should". Aaaaaagh shit why did I let him get away? Edited 20 Jun 10, 12:14 AM by Rhubarb_Crumble |
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