Informed Consent - as recommended by the Times (96)

The Times' sex counsellor Suzi Godson devotes half a page to the subject under the headline 'My husband wants to try bondage' and goes on to recommend Informed Consent (they welcome newbies).

I feel obliged here to issue the usual disclaimer that I don't usually read the agony aunt column in the newspaper but in my defence, the word 'bondage' in 60 point Times Modern at the top of a page does normally get my attention.

I always behave. I just don't specify how.
WARNING: Some BDSM activities may run the risk of injury or even death. However life runs the risk of injury and the certainty of death.
The film is called 'Secretary' not 'The Secretary', there is no 'The' in the title, it's just 'SECRETARY'. ARRGGGHHHH!!!!!

and Lady Stardust sang her songs, of.....
..............Darkness and Disgrace.

But you have to ask. FFS. What planet are they on? 'My husband wants to try bondage' on a *problem page*? I've seen posts on here from people saying they tried bondage with their first sexual partner (as I did), and indeed went further than that *before having* a sexual partner (ditto). So just why is it such a 'problem' for the Times-reading classes to *even contemplate* tying each other up during nooky?

Surely this is the question that needs to be asked?

Jacques-Pierre

Pavement? Wowee Zowee!

The answer given was very good - I'm more used to reading Cosmopolitan-style things which suggest a silk scarf and use the word "tantalising" too much.

I don't think that the page is billed as a problem page.

The question asked was 'I am quite open-minded and excited by the idea, but I don't know where to start. Your advice would be appreciated'

OP says *agony aunt*; I wdn't personally be seen dead reading The Times other than for research purposes. The link we were given by the next person to post doesn't to my mind square with the way other people are describing the article, however.

So I guess each will have to read for themself and make up own mind. But I was not impressed by what I found.

Jacques-Pierre

Anything that spreads the word in a positive manner is welcome and in all honesty I far prefer an influx of Times readers to those from the Sun.

"The most powerful sexual organ in the body is our brain, open your mind and allow your fantasies free reign. Mutual pleasure between consenting adults is a wonderful thing."

Actually, no. This question does not need to have asked.

Nothing good can possibly come from it. Have you become so warped by your own lifestyle that you consider BDSM the normality and vanilla to be on the fringes of society, as opposed to reality? That engaging into BDSM activites like bondage is so common-place that anyone representing otherwise has a reality perception problem?

Just to answer your pointless question, couples struggle with all sorts of issues. Any threat to the status quo, especially an abnormal/kinky one like in this case, creates the risk of 'rocking the boat' with potentially dangerous consequences to the relationship. This can indeed something be a huge worry for many partners and therefore an agony aunt column is completely appropriate.

Your Captain Jack

<quick blast under the arms smiley>

Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great Calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind. Aristotle