"Coming out" to a vanilla lover/partner (84)

Advance apology for mini thread hijack...

I'm sorry you interpret that expression that way - in much the same way many others on IC seem to interpret it.

I was brought up to use that expression to mean "I respect your view, but I see things differently. I am giving my different (though not necessarily opposing) view, but giving you the respect you deserve to maintain your view."

So does this mean I'm being naive in my use of the expression or am I being passive aggressive again? Awaits the flaming

I play dead it stops the hurting / I play dead and hurting stops
It's sometimes just like sleeping / curling up inside my private tortures
I nestle into pain / hug suffering / caress every ache

I assume the last bit is a foreign language, rather than just a random assortment of letters? If so, could you please translate for the benefit of we great unwashed?

Jacques-Pierre

I think.... learn, leave or be beaten

Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great Calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind. Aristotle

No no..again, the typed word is open to interpretation of intention. I agree with your interpretation; which is how I would use it, but I've done that (in my naivity) face to face, and it's been received as if I was taking the piss, and in fact implying 'Fuck you', when in fact I really did mean 'I understand what you're saying, but I think differently'..Hence my reply to what Jacques said: I apologise for any offence caused.

Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great Calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind. Aristotle

I think you'll be fine, just keep your hand in...

Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great Calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind. Aristotle

I was just pointing out a *simple fact* - that 'proclivities' is heavy going. I couldn't claim to understand everything Clodmin was on about, so saying I understand and think differently would probably be going a bit far. Probably I think differently however, because he seemed to be implying I'm an arsehole (although come to think of it, that seems a funny term to use as an insult on a site like this one where folk seem to be quite keen on them).

eta: It'd be disingenuous to claim no offence has been caused; but not by you to me, so rest easy about that.

Jacques-Pierre

Edited 12 Jun 10, 10:23 AM by Jacques_Pierre

Now you really are being lazy. It's Latin and there's a translation on my profile page, although no doubt you won't be bothered to scroll down that far.

Aut disce aut discede. Manet sors tertia caedi

Let me try to put this gently. You should maybe sometimes think a bit less about what is the meaning of words in teh dictionary (lexical meaning), and a bit more about what they are being used to say (textual, or discourse, or pragmatic meaning).

A good place to start, if you want to test out this idea as a potentially dangerous novelty that requires a secure environment, would be by looking at some posts by @Clodmin.

After that, go back and look again at my original post about 'proclivities'. All I was trying to say was that it seemed a bit more Latinate than was strictly necessary.

Jacques-Pierre

bang on. if you know your kinks and seek a vanilla partner, don't be surprised when you're unsatisfied and they feel inadaquate being unable to fulfill your needs. If you're lucky enough not to have fallen for a vanilla by accident then adopt a perves only dating policy

xx

I certainly wasn't able to, anyway.

They that love not Tobacco & Boies were fooles.