Inter racial (18)

Equal opportunities doesn't exist when it comes to finding a partner (for whatever reason). Preferences don't have to be PC (in ones head, anyway. It appears airing a personal preference ruffles feathers)

I am completely against any form of racism, so one might expect me to poor scorn on anyone having a skin colour preference on who they fancy.

But when it comes down to it race means nothing physically, you can fancy whoever you like! If you look back in History eye colour, hair colour, bone structure have all been used to try to categorise people into particular races. It seems skin colour is the latest thing that hate-mongers can focus on!

Having said that, I'm not denying that race is a very real issue politically. It's nothing to do with science it's all about sense of identity.

Back to the BDSM thing!

I think that most people are able to tell history from sexual fantasy, so I don't feel there is anything wrong with black/ white BDSM relationships whichever way the power falls.

To be honest the thing that really worries me is, the fairly popular, vanilla relationship between a certain type of White girl and a certain type of Black guy.

Which seems to an outsider such as I to be based on certain racist attitudes on both sides.

If you are entering a relationship expecting either control or submission that is only really going to work if you talk it through in total honesty .

I´m very sorry, but I personally cant help experiencing that as a very shallow attitude. When I´m in a relationship, with either a black, asian or a caucasian guy, its his personallity/mind that counts. And, for the record, I have had partners of all possible races.

What counts IMO, is that a personallity, and thus a personal form of dominance, might just be 'slightly´ influenced by the fact that some one is, involuntaraly, part of a cultural or ethnic minority.....

Colour is only skin deep. People that refuse to look further than that, that deny the cultural and ethnic differences, and are tunneling their kinks through race issues (including the fantasies on huge black males or tiny asian subs) are in fact the people that are basically in denial about their own racism.

And thus, the worst racists IMO.

Edited 12 Jun 10, 1:28 AM by othyim

The point is, that I´ve spoken in depth with several non-caucasian poeple of either gender and preference about this (also having been in relationships with non-caucasians), and that a huge amount of them actually have a problem with it and DO mind.

For they experience that the race issue (and the pre concieved and superficial fantasies that usually go with that) reduces them to just be the stuffing for some one elses fetish, thus not a person.

It even goes this far, that I know two black male Doms that actually have grown to refuse to play with caucasian femsubs, cause they felt appalled and driven into a corner by the deeply rooted nonsensical ideas on black males that still are quite common.

If you are have a fetish for someones race, and can find someone that doesnt mind filling that fetish, good for you. I´m not saying that having a fetish for another race is not valid, or bad, or wrong.

I just hope that more people would be aware that it can be very offputting, and in fact condascending and highly insulting for some people to be adressed primarily based on race. You see... they are people with real emotions first, and not just black or asian wank fodder.

Edited 12 Jun 10, 1:04 PM by othyim

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