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| Mon 7 Jun 10, 3:43 PM DaniJo UK(HR), 5 yrs   |
You may have read my last post, regarding a certain amount of whipping, and my concerns around the subject. What I didn't mention, is that my (increasingly kinky-seeming) girlfriend has also had a hold (figuratively, as it were) on when I am allowed to cum. It's been nearly two weeks now. I am, in theory, allowed to explode with delight on Wednesday. Unfortunately, as I realised last night, I am disappearing to a work show for several days. I was, as you might imagine, somewhat distraught. She grinned, laughed, and said "Well, you're not allowed to touch yourself while you're away, then". Apart from one (minor) prostate-initiated leak (for which I am due 10 <hard> strokes from "Wendy" the dressage whip), I have been very, very good at keeping within the rules. Is this all a bit much? Dani. |
| 7 Jun 10, 4:19 PM IndelibleMarker UK(E), 6 yrs   |
Erm, sorry to say this... But you've found that when you are allowed to come co-incides with when you go away and you've been told by your Domme you won't be allowed to cum until you get back - presumably. Is it relevant whether it's co-incidence or "sneaky"? You should be seriously careful calling your Domme sneaky by the way! Even if you weren't going away, she could easily extend the time you're not allowed to cum if she wanted to. If I found my sub called me "sneaky" in the same situation, I'd tripple the time period. IW Kisses to all you fabioso people! Edited 7 Jun 10, 4:23 PM by IndelibleMarker |
| 7 Jun 10, 5:14 PM subbietrouble 2 yrs |
It could be sneaky, or it could be that she just didn't think the schedule through properly, but now is taking advantage of the situation by making it appear like some crafty Domme sadism. Orgasm denial is hard to begin with, if you're relatively inexperienced and you've had to go two weeks, that is quite a lot. I couldn't go more than a few days to begin with, I had to work up to a week, and then two weeks. I really understand your disappointment if you thought the end was in sight and now it's been pushed back a little bit. There is the standard advice (communicate, communicate, communicate) tell her how you feel, that you're finding it hard, especially if the boundaries keep moving, or you can nonchalently suck it up, pretend it's not bothering you, and deal with it like a trooper. The problem with that approach is that if she's waiting to see you break / beg, she might assume it's not bothering you and push you further next time. No easy answer but I hope she lets you cum soon! subbie xxx |
