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| felis_silvestris |
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Surely it shouldn't be this hard?? Should it?
Every man that interests me or I feel a natural attraction/pull towards is already taken or looking for someone to complete their hareem. This isn't including those that are looking for someone younger!!
Have been trying vanilla dating and it just does not float my boat at all... I never thought I'd say that but there you go. It seems there's no turning back for me now. I'm happy with that I guess.
I feel very much as I felt quite a long while ago.. as if I'm caged and desperate to get out, pacing, uncomfortable, wanting to rage even.
When I do play (which isn't often at all) it leaves me so hungry for more I can barely breathe. I thought I would feel satisfied, comfortable; but it seems that it serves only to fuel my fire. Immediately I'm wondering about other experiences and sensations.
I am growing increasingly tired of inane conversation and chit chat, of posturing games and sensuality. I don't want to just feel something for the sake of feeling it - I want to lose myself in something WORTH feeling....
| 2 Jun 10, 11:14 AM Filth_Wizard UK(RM), 8 yrs  |
It's hard to handle those feelings when all they do is grow stronger without satisfaction. It might not help, but when it happens to me, I try to put my energy into something else - preferably something completely unrelated to fetish. It takes a great deal of self-control at first, but I find it almost liberating when I'm getting something done without other thoughts holding a rave in my brain. Hope things are calm soon, or you find what you're looking for. To deny it implies that it's wrong. | |
| 2 Jun 10, 11:19 AM picksy UK(PL), 4 yrs |
Be happy with what you have honey , count them chickens and owt else is bonus and.......get back to work ya bugger . | |
| 2 Jun 10, 11:25 AM NotTheOne UK(TA), 2 yrs |
I know just how you feel, frustrating doesnt even come close. I stared into the abyss, the abyss stared into me. It blinked first. | |
| 2 Jun 10, 11:31 AM therealwakka UK(WF), 5 yrs |
It can take time to find the right fit and the right person. Just stick at it, no easy path per say. | |
| 2 Jun 10, 12:59 PM Achilleus UK(M), 3 yrs |
I spent years bouncing between vanilla dating sites and BDSM girls. No comparison really but just something you have to work through I guess. I tend to compartmentalise (is that a word?) my relationships now, open minded vanilla girls and open minded subs...is that a hareem or just an adult approach to meeting my needs?
Good luck finding your perfect vanilla /BDSM partner, they do exist but you have to shovel a huge amount of shit to find that golden nugget
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| 2 Jun 10, 1:25 PM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs      |
I know this so well. The 50-something guys collecting naive girls (often just out of their teens) to create a stable of subbies for their egos. To contemplate a long and meaningful relationship with someone of their own age might be more dignified but not on the agenda.
I'm blessed in that I have a couple of people I can play with at the moment, but the search for that elusive someone continues..... if you find any spares, please let me know | |
| 2 Jun 10, 2:48 PM The_Victorian UK(LE), 2 yrs |
I empathize. Its just a matter of time and meeting the right person, and you being right for them. In heaven all the interesting people are missing. Nietzsche | |
| 2 Jun 10, 2:51 PM Submissive1 UK(OX), 4 yrs |
It always amazes me how many dominant men seem to think subs are just to play with but vanilla girls are for relationships, I wonder if it harks back to the "good girls are for marrying" days. Don't they see that sub though you may be, you still have a normal life and the same needs as anyone more vanilla. Remember you are unique, just like everyone else. | |
| 2 Jun 10, 4:29 PM Malbon UK(LS), 8 yrs |
Unfortunately, yes. For most people who want an LTR it is very hard to find someone with the right orientation who is also attractive/compatible/available/interested/lives reasonably nearby etc etc. With BDSM/kink requirements you've ruled out most of the population and you're fishing in a very, very small pool. Stick with it - 18 months is nothing really.
'The perfect life will be the one which closes in the assurance that the last of his final vocabularies, at least, really was wholly his.' | |
| 2 Jun 10, 7:17 PM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
Aww hun. Just hang on in there. RD xx It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it |
