This post is on the Pro-Mistresses etc web board (moved from Other BDSM).
| Tue 1 Jun 10, 2:04 PM patchworkpants UK(S), 4 yrs   |
This is predominately aimed at people who have been offered gifts or tributes from males. There's this guy on fetlife from the states who seems quite infatuated with me and is always asking for pictures and I said I'd send him some if I ever got any decent ones as I didn't really see the harm in it. He lives in the states and seems quite harmless and if he turns out to be a complete headcase it doesn't matter because he lives in the states. I've been posting my artwork up on there too and last night I decided to do a kind of cute cartoon version of myself in bondage to use as a profile pic and I got a message saying "wow! I'd love to see you really like that *drools* " or something along those lines. So I said "I don't have any of the stuff in the cartoon. It's just fantasy really. If I was some hot domme I could probably get a whole host of subs online buying me stuff but I'm not and I wouldn't want to really." to which he said "I'll buy you some stuff if you send me some pics". I told him I couldn't take gifts off've him but he insisted that it would make him happy. So I agreed. Sounds like win/win to me. Um... But anyways. I was going to just give him my mum's address (As I can't order things here as nobody in the house knows about my kinks. My parents are cool with it.) one of my friends warned me that he could end up being a complete headcase and come to England and stalk me and that he seemed pretty unstable from his posts. So I'm a bit unsure now. Also I feel like a bit of a whore. Although it is just pics. And I'd post decent bondage pics up anyways so... Yeah.
Opinions and advice would be awesome. you can spend your time alone redigesting past regrets | |
| 1 Jun 10, 2:22 PM go_dutch UK(AL), 4 yrs  |
rent a p o box. then if you're still worried he's watching the box, get a friend that doesn't live with you to pick up the stuff | |
| 1 Jun 10, 2:25 PM Lady_Lucan UK(L), 4 yrs |
If it makes you feel worried or uncomfortable, why bother? They that love not Tobacco & Boies were fooles. | |
| 1 Jun 10, 2:26 PM northern_light UK, 7 yrs |
I would most certainly not give him an address, yours or anyone elses for that matter. If you really want to go for this how about setting up a wishlist on one of the online stores that offers such things. That way he would be free to choose items for you, you would have them delivered to the place of your choice. The difference being that the delivery address you chose would (or should) be completely confidential to the store and yourself. Personally I wouldnt consider even doing this, as they say, nothing in life is free! I love the chastity now that it flows between us. It is like fresh water and rain. How can men want wearisomely to philander." "I love chastity now, because it is the peace that comes of fucking." DH Lawrence from Lady Chatterley's Lover | |
| 1 Jun 10, 2:26 PM patchworkpants UK(S), 4 yrs |
They're expensive and I'm on benefits! He lives in the states and is pretty young so I can't see him being completely loaded enough to come over... :/ Aaanyways. I'll think about it.
you can spend your time alone redigesting past regrets | |
| 1 Jun 10, 2:28 PM Made_in_Italy UK, 2 yrs  |
this smell of nutcase! big time! i had a stalker and, even if he was harmless, he affected my day to day life and even my work (he found out where i worked and popped in several times). your gut feeling is telling you not to do it so follow your instincts.. | |
| 1 Jun 10, 2:29 PM patchworkpants UK(S), 4 yrs |
It doesn't really worry me. I just know that I have a knack of wandering blindly into things and getting myself into problems. If I didn't bother with anything that worried me I'd never leave the house. Most things worry me. My way of coping is to just either just go for everything or get advice first. The online gift idea is a good idea! I'll try that. Do any British shops have those? you can spend your time alone redigesting past regrets | |
| 1 Jun 10, 2:30 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs       |
Find a website that does "Wish Lists". I can't think of any, right off hand, but if you look at the UK sites, there are bound to be some. They keep your personal details private. In fact, even Amazon does a wish list, or he can send Amazon vouchers via email (though you have to use them on the Amazon.com site - though he might be able to buy them at the uk site). I wouldn't hold your breath. I get offers like that and only one has ever come through - it's wank fodder. (But that's prolly coz I ask for a Lotus Elysse and tell them they will get diddlysquat.  ) On the other hand, if you send him pics, he might - some people are pic collectors. Be careful, though, you might be camming next! LOLLife is not measured by the breaths we take. but by the moments that take our breath. - Anon. | |
| 1 Jun 10, 2:32 PM slave01 UK(M), 7 yrs |
Under no circumstances give this person any details of where you live.
He could be anywhere,You think that he is in the The US but he could be living down the road and just picking up his emails from the site in the US.
It sounds like a typical wind up from a weirdo. Edited 1 Jun 10, 2:33 PM by slave01 | |
| 1 Jun 10, 2:35 PM patchworkpants UK(S), 4 yrs |
Cool! Okay. Well I'm gonna see what happens. I definitely won't give him my address... OR cam with him!  you can spend your time alone redigesting past regrets | |
| 1 Jun 10, 2:36 PM ConsciousnessJunkie UK(N), 5 yrs |
Plus you never know, he might just start hassling you for more... Personally I have found that all these requests have always come with stipulations. A bit like alot of the guys who want to clean your house for "nothing in return" except a bit of a spank... |
